Mother’s Tough Love: No Support for Teen Daughter’s ‘Stay-At-Home-Mom Only’ Dream

We all have dreams for our children, but what happens when those dreams don’t align with reality? In a heated exchange, one mother found herself at odds with her teenage daughter’s sole ambition: to be a stay-at-home mom (SAHM). While she respects the role, the mother worries about her daughter’s lack of a backup plan, especially if life doesn’t go as planned. Let’s dive into this family drama, where love, dreams, and harsh realities collide.

The Stay-At-Home-Mom Dream

No Plan B?

Backup Plan: Mom and Dad? ‍ ‍ ‍

What If We’re Not Here? ‍♀️

The Need for a Safety Net ⛑️

Options Beyond College

The Stubborn Stand ‍♀️

The ‘Husband Hunt’ Plan

The Reality Check

Tough Love or Too Harsh?

A Mother’s Wish

A Mother’s Dilemma: Dreamer Daughter vs Harsh Realities

This mother’s tale is a whirlwind of love, concern, and tough parenting. Her teenage daughter dreams of being a stay-at-home mom, with no plans for college, jobs, or any form of self-reliance. When the mother suggests alternatives and the need for a backup plan, the daughter’s response is to rely on her parents. Fearing the worst-case scenarios, the mother insists her daughter needs to prepare for life’s uncertainties. The daughter’s refusal to budge leads to a harsh reality check, causing a rift in their relationship. Is this tough love or too harsh? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

NTA, her unrealistic dream and entitlement are called out.

“NTA. Recipe for abusive relationship. Teach her red flags “

NTA. Dreams change, life happens. Plan for independence and happiness

NTA, daughter’s delusion of being a SAHM is unrealistic

Culinary arts and hospitality skills make for a great SAHM fallback

NTA: Stay-at-home mom dream vs. independence, entitlement, and wake-up call

NTA at all. Daughter’s plan: be a freeloader, not SAHM. Encourage responsibility.

NTA. Daughter’s ‘stay-at-home-mom only’ dream lacks independence and backup plan

“NTA. Being a stay at home mom is fine but *hard damn work* “

Age matters! Is it a 13-year-old or a graduating senior?

Is she doing anything besides going to high school?

NTA. Encouraging education for a more secure future

NTA shuts down daughter’s ‘stay-at-home-mom only’ dream

Hilarious comment about daughter’s ‘military husband’ dream

“NTA. Lawyer up, break up with her and take the kids.”

NTA: Set boundaries and educate her on reality of motherhood

NTA: SAHMs need marketable skills or solid financial plan

NTA. Tough love: preparing kids for independence and responsibility

“SAHMs can be fulfilling, but independence is important too! ‍ ‍ “

“NTA. My journey from student to SAHM and the benefits.”

Engaging comment about the risks of relying solely on being a SAHP

NTA. Reality check for dreamy teen

NTA: Women in the past knew the importance of self-career independence

NTA. Totally reasonable.

NTA- A success story: cousin worked part-time, got degree, and married

NTA. Daughter’s unrealistic expectations and lack of independence raises concerns.

Teaching tough love: A mother’s guide to independence and maturity.

NTA. SAHM is not a life plan.

NTA- Tough love teaches daughter about reality and responsibility

Planning to be a SAHM without being a mom?

NTA. Encouraging independence and responsibility for a secure future.

Daughter’s unrealistic expectations: NTA, military marriages have high divorce rates

NTA – Having a backup plan is responsible

Supporting stay-at-home parents is great, but have a backup plan

NTA. Embrace independence and consider partner’s desires.

Supportive mom encourages daughter to pursue more than motherhood

Engaging comment: Teen’s dream vs. ‘capitalistic machine’ – INFO needed

Being a STAHM is hard work, but has its challenges and perks ‍

Friend’s dream turned nightmare: dependency on spouse leads to unhappiness

Is she just messing with you? NTA dilemma

Weeds reference sparks love and nostalgia among commenters

Be your own pillar to lean on