We all know that one friend who disappears into thin air as soon as they find a significant other, right? But what happens when they suddenly reappear, not for a catch-up, but to ask for a favor? Let’s dive into the story of a woman who found herself in this exact situation. She was left wondering if she was in the wrong for refusing to help her long-time best friend move, after being ghosted for weeks. ♀️
A Friendship Forged Through Time ️
Distance? No Problem!
Enter: The Boyfriend
Fast Forward to Serious Commitment
Excitement Turns to Disappointment
The Silence Continues…
A Dinner and a Disappearance ️
The Big Ask
The Unanswered Attempts
The Last Straw
The Final Decision
Friendship on the Rocks or Justified Response? ♀️
After being ghosted by her best friend who found new love, our protagonist was left in a lurch. The friend, who had been MIA for weeks, suddenly popped back into her life, not for a heart-to-heart, but with a request for help with moving. Despite the history and the bond they shared, our protagonist decided to say no, citing the lack of communication and last-minute notice as her reasons. Is she in the wrong, or is this a classic case of self-respect? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this.
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Friend ghosts and expects last-minute moving help!
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Helping a friend in need, even if it’s complicated.
Friend ghosts and expects moving help? NTA for bailing!
Ghosting best friend expects moving help? Very disrespectful!
Stand your ground and don’t help. She’s been treating you like crap
NTA. Friend ghosts you, expects help moving. Attachment issues and doomed relationship.
NTA. Lack of communication and one-sided effort in friendship.
NTA- Your friend is too old to act that way
NTA: Don’t let her ghosting guilt you into last-minute moving help!
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Time to move on, buddy. She’s ghosting you for a reason.
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Confusing backstory, but OP clarifies in a friendly reply.
Former friend uses you for moving help, time to cut ties!
“NTA. Your friend expects too much, prioritize your own schedule!”
Btw, NTA!
Curious if this is a recurring pattern for her?
NTA. Brace yourself for the fallout and her seeking your help!
Communication is key for maintaining a strong friendship during relationships.
Commenter calls out unstable friend, not the a**hole.
“NTA She sounds needy, she made her whole world revolve around this guy from day 1. Be glad you don’t see that as right. I have a friend that always disappears when she starts dating someone, I can always tell when it’s not going well because she suddenly reappears with an urge to get together. I love her and try to be supportive and also try to suggest maybe she shouldn’t go full commitment and make everything about someone else so quickly, at this age (also 30+) it starts getting a bit old. I still do my best to be supportive and understanding. You did your best to offer your help and tried to reach out several times, you can’t be expected to help her with such a short notice.”
