Husband Snaps at Wife: My Job is Harder Than Yours!

Meet our couple, both 30 years old, childfree by choice, and working from home. The wife, a social media/ad sales manager, and the husband, a computer scientist. As they began spending more time together, the wife noticed her husband’s work schedule was more flexible, allowing him to play Xbox and do chores while she worked long hours. This led to her making snide comments about his salary and workload, ultimately pushing him to snap back.

The Couple’s Background

Their Jobs and Salaries

Working from Home

Husband’s Downtime

Chores and Cooking

Wife’s Gratitude

Wife’s Work Schedule ⏰

Frustration and Jealousy

Husband’s Attempts to Deflect ️

Snide Comments Continue

Husband Finally Snaps!

The Ultimatum

Wife’s Reaction

Missing Information

Seeking Answers

Was He Justified or Just an A**hole?

After months of snide comments from his wife about his salary and workload, our computer scientist husband finally snapped, telling her his job was harder and if she was unhappy, she could go back to school for a computer science degree. Now, with the wife ignoring him and her mom scolding him, he’s left wondering if he was justified in his outburst or if he’s just an a**hole. Let’s see what the internet has to say about this heated situation…

COVID is the AH, but wife is also AH for jealousy and rudeness.

Husband defends income after wife’s constant snide remarks. ESH.

Debate over who works harder is pointless, but who’s TA?

NTA. The wife’s bitterness and disrespect towards husband’s job is unacceptable.

NTA comment defends husband’s career against wife’s jealousy.

Couple needs counseling to learn mutual respect. ESH.

NTA shuts down spouse’s job comparison with confidence

Both parties need to communicate and respect each other’s feelings

Comparing two different scenarios?

Computer Science vs Social Media: Which is tougher? NTA judgment.

Supportive comment sparks debate on gender blame in relationships

Choosing a less lucrative field doesn’t give her the right

Mutual respect needed in job difficulty debate. Time for adult conversation.

Money talks: NTA husband defends job against wife’s rudeness.

NTA. Shut down wife’s rude comments. Ignore her attitude.

Gender stereotyping and discrimination in STEM fields.

NTA objectively, but wife’s frustration with job causing AH behavior

Commenter thinks husband is not the a**hole

Commenter defends husband, advises wife to improve her situation.

Jealous wife gets put in her place. NTA wins

Defending his job, NTA shuts down wife’s argument.

Empowering response to husband’s unfair comparison.

NTA commenter calls out MIL for meddling in husband-wife dispute

Jealousy is a red flag. NTA for giving a rude awakening

NTA comment shuts down wife’s jealousy with humor

NTA, but it’s a ‘class warfare’ problem. Support her career.

Different jobs have different challenges, even with same salary/skillset.

Navigating feelings of inadequacy in a marriage can be tough

Partner should lift each other up, not drag each other down

Supportive comment defends social media career, calls out jealousy.

Defending NTA comment against ESH accusations

Balanced perspective on the couple’s jobs and mutual respect

Standing up for yourself is NTA, but jealousy isn’t ‍♂️

Empathy for burnt-out spouse, but no excuse for belittling husband.

NTA commenter advises to avoid double standards in arguments.

NTA commenter defends husband’s response to wife’s snarky comments.

NTA comment shuts down wife’s immaturity and mom’s interference.

Debate over whose job is harder and more valuable. YTA leaning ESH.

Seek conflict resolution instead of blaming each other

NTA thinks wife is overworking.

Encouraging response to unhappy spouse’s frustration at work

Respectful clapback to belittling wife, MIL should butt out.

Commenter defends OP’s job as not being paid by the hour.

Commenter accuses bias and gender reversal in reposted story.