Woman Faces Pressure to Have 5 Babies for Her Family : Is She Wrong for Refusing?

A woman and her wife find themselves in a complicated situation when they ask her brother-in-law to donate sperm so they can have a child. The brother-in-law agrees, but later, after discovering his wife can’t have children, he proposes a new arrangement: the woman should carry five babies, two for her and her wife, and three for him and his wife. The family is now pressuring her to agree, but she’s not sure if it’s the right thing to do. Read on to learn about the emotional dilemma and the family’s reactions.

The Initial Plan

Brother-in-Law Agrees

A Change in Circumstances

The New Proposal: 5 Babies

The Dilemma

Saying No

An Ultimatum ⚖️

Family Pressure

More Pressure from the Couple

Additional Info

Negotiations and Adoption

A Difficult Decision Awaits

This woman is caught in a challenging situation as her family pressures her to carry five babies, two for her and her wife, and three for her brother-in-law and his wife. With the family’s emotions running high, she must decide whether to agree to their demands or stand her ground. What do you think she should do? Share your thoughts and reactions below.

NTA for refusing to have 5 babies in exchange for a jackoff session. Adoption or egg donation with a surrogate are better options.

Woman refuses to be an incubator for 5 babies, NTA

NTA for refusing to have 5 babies for your family . The disproportionate way society views male and female contributions to reproduction is outrageous. The risks and sacrifices of 5 pregnancies, labours, and recoveries are inhumane. Adoption or sperm donation are better options.

Woman refuses to have 5 babies for family. NTA! Pregnancy isn’t equal effort.

OP receives bizarre blackmail pressure to have 5 babies. NTA.

Refusing to have 5 babies for family, NTA. Too much risk involved.

NTA. Carrying three different children to term is many orders of magnitude greater than a sperm donation. Good luck growing your family, however you decide to do it!

NTA faces considerable health risks from carrying 3 pregnancies to term.

Woman refuses to have 5 babies, offers eggs instead.

Refusing to have 5 babies doesn’t make her an a**hole

NTA! Choosing a sperm donor is not the same as surrogacy ‍ ‍ . Will they support you?

Surrogacy is a lucrative business for women, not comparable to sperm donation. NTA.

Woman pressured to have 5 babies, but no negotiation allowed

Having 5 kids in a short time frame is near life-wrecking . NTA.

NTA for refusing to have 5 babies. Multiple pregnancies have physical and mental tolls. 3 is still too much.

NTA stands up to emotional blackmail

Refusing to risk health for brother-in-law’s selfish request. NTA

Don’t let anyone pressure you into something you don’t want #NTA

Don’t let anyone pressure you into having kids . Consider other options.

Adopting is a personal choice, but it’s difficult and expensive.

Refusing to be a surrogate for family, NTA. ‍♀️

NTA OP, but the family’s hurt is understandable . Adoption is best.

Woman refuses to have 5 babies for family

Family pressure or not, counseling is needed ASAP

Suggests sperm donor as a compromise. ‍ ‍

Comparing male orgasms to pregnancy? Sexist and NTA for refusing.

Fair point! Two children is less than three. NTA

Refusing to have 5 babies for family, NTA according to comment.

Pregnancy is a life-altering experience, NTA for refusing

Alternative solution suggested, but not feasible.

Stand up for yourself! You’re not a brood mare

Refusing to have 5 babies for family: NTA, emotional toll.

User suggests eliminating brother’s sperm possibility, proposes alternative solutions.

Sperm bank solution for family pressure. NTA.

Respect her choice! Family pressure to have 5 babies is wrong

Commenter criticizes pressure to have 5 babies, supports adoption

Commenter defends woman’s choice not to have 5 babies

Adopting is parenting, not seeing what your genes look like ‍

Woman faces pressure to be a surrogate for family, but commenters support her decision to refuse.

In-laws pressure woman to have babies, she refuses. NTA.

Woman refuses pressure to have 5 babies for infertile family

Adoption may be a better option ‍ ️, avoid family pressure and divide

Woman refuses to have 5 babies for family. NTA. Many issues with logistics, parenting and relationships.

Supportive comment suggests ROPA method for having a baby.