Christmas is a time for family, love, and togetherness, right? Well, not for this 40-year-old dad who finds himself in a sticky situation. He shares custody of his 14-year-old daughter, Claire, with his ex, Amy. Claire prefers staying with her dad and his new wife, Jane, and even asked to spend Christmas with them. But when Amy calls and asks him to take in her two other kids from different fathers for the holidays, things get complicated.
The Backstory: Shared Custody
Claire’s Living Situation
Amy’s Full House
Toddler Troubles
Claire’s Christmas Request
The Regular Schedule
Amy’s Approval
Beach Trip Plans
Amy’s Request
Passport Problems
Dad’s Dilemma
Amy’s Accusations
Dad’s Defense
No Spite Here
Amy’s Disappointment
Is Dad Being Unreasonable?
In a surprising turn of events, Amy accuses the dad of being spiteful and trying to punish her for leaving him years ago. He insists that he just wants to enjoy a peaceful Christmas with his immediate family and doesn’t want the added responsibility of taking care of two toddlers he barely knows. With their co-parenting relationship now on shaky ground, one has to wonder if the dad is being unreasonable or if Amy’s request is simply too much to ask. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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Ex’s poor toddlers deserve better, NTA for refusing.
Not the a**hole for refusing to take ex’s other kids.
NTA stands up for not taking ex’s other kids for Christmas.
Father refuses to take ex’s other kids for Christmas. NTA.
Mother wants her children to spend Christmas with strangers? NTA.
Dad refuses to take ex’s kids for Christmas. NTA.
Questioning the ex’s motives
NTA refuses ex’s request to take care of other kids.
NTA. Concerned about ex’s commitment to all her kids
OP is praised for refusing to babysit ex’s new kids
Projection alert! NTA for not taking ex’s other kids.
Not his kids, not his responsibility. NTA.
Ex’s entitlement is insane. NTA for refusing to babysit.
Parenting advice in a tough situation
User suggests giving the ex the price for babysitting
Enjoy the holidays with your family, NTA
NTA refuses to take ex’s other kids for Christmas.
NTA. Commenter thinks ex’s personal problem shouldn’t be yours
Not the a**hole for not taking her kids for Christmas
Not his kids, not his problem. NTA
Don’t play that game ♂️. NTA for setting boundaries.
NTA for refusing to take ex’s other kids for Christmas ✋
“Slippery slope” comment advises against taking ex’s other kids
Not his kids, not his responsibility. Keep your promise.
NTA dad refuses to take ex’s other kids for Christmas ✋
Enjoy the holidays with immediate family, you’re NTA
Dad stands his ground against ex’s request for free babysitting
Taking care of someone else’s kids is not his responsibility. NTA
NTA for refusing to take ex’s other kids on vacation!
Not his kids, not his problem. NTA for prioritizing his daughter.
Not your monkeys, not your circus.
NTA for refusing to take ex’s other kids for Christmas ✋
Ex’s plan is selfish and delusional. OP is NTA.
Dad not wrong for not taking ex’s other kids for Christmas
Priorities first: NTA for not taking ex’s other kids.
Put your family first . Don’t let your ex manipulate you
NTA. Commenter suggests ex go after kids’ fathers for help.
NTA. No is a complete sentence. Don’t set a precedent.
NTA: Commenter thinks ex should ask her kids’ father to take them.
NTA! Commenter calls out ex’s entitlement to free babysitting.
NTA stands firm on not taking ex’s other kids for Christmas
Passport issue: NTA dad refuses to take ex’s kids for Christmas
No babysitting for the ex’s toddlers during Christmas vacation
Mom wants a break, but leaving the country without kids?
NTA. Taking care of ex’s other kids is not your responsibility.
NTA for not taking ex’s other kids on Christmas vacation.
Insensitive comment receives no support from replies
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Ex’s manipulation for free babysitting, daughter’s feelings matter more
Protecting himself and his daughter, NTA. Ex trying to manipulate.
Focus on your daughter, let your ex handle her kids.
Supportive comment defends taking care of ex’s kids during holidays.
NTA: Don’t feel bad, her kids are not your problem
NTA for refusing to take ex’s other kids for Christmas
Don’t let her guilt you into taking her other kids. NTA ✌
NTA. Dad stands up for his family and makes the right call
Single mom’s secret vacation plans create parenting dilemma.
No obligations to her kids. She chose to leave. NTA
Don’t agree to babysit strangers’ kids. NTA for saying no.
NTA calls out baby daddy drama and victim mentality.
User suggests asking daughter to live with him full-time.
NTA. Commenter slams ex’s parenting and defends dad’s decision.
Savage response to ex’s request for Christmas favor
Ex asks dad to babysit her toddlers on Christmas, he refuses. NTA.
Ex’s kids not his responsibility. NTA, passports are her problem.
Not his kids, not his problem. NTA.
User defends dad’s decision to not take ex’s other kids for Christmas
NTA. Commenter criticizes parent for ditching kids on Christmas
Ex’s request to take care of her kids seems suspicious
A scathing comment on a mother’s questionable parenting choices.
NTA. Ex is being entitled and irresponsible. Keep custody.
NTA, just say ‘no’ and don’t justify. Amy’s choices, not yours.
Boundaries are important. Don’t feel guilty for saying no
Dad refuses to take ex’s other kids for Christmas. NTA.
Don’t fall for emotional blackmail. NTA for not taking them
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Ex’s request for a stranger to care for her kids makes her a bad mom. NTA.
NTA by a long shot. Have a nice holiday
