Moving in together can be a major test for any relationship, and this couple is no exception. Our 27-year-old storyteller and his 26-year-old girlfriend have been living together for a few months, and the chore wars have begun. After numerous fights over household tasks, the girlfriend created a ‘task book’ with detailed instructions for her boyfriend. Feeling insulted and micromanaged, he cut up the book and threw it away. Was he justified in his actions, or was he just being an a**hole? Let’s dive into the story and find out.
The Chore Wars Begin

Interruptions and Requests ️

The First Fight

A ‘Solution’ Emerges

The Tension Builds ⚡

More Fights and Criticisms

Mental Health Matters

“Dirty” Apartment

Enter the Task Book

Feeling Insulted

The Task Book’s Demise ✂️

Unreasonable or Micromanager?

The Big Question ❓

Edit: Reflecting on Responses

Edit 2: Realizing His Mistake

Chore Wars: A Battle of Control and Insults
After countless fights over chores and feeling micromanaged, our storyteller decided to take matters into his own hands by cutting up his girlfriend’s ‘task book.’ While some might see his actions as justified, others might argue that he’s being an a**hole. As the internet weighs in, it’s clear that there’s more to this story than just chores. It’s a battle of control, mental health, and understanding each other’s needs. Let’s see what the internet thinks about this explosive situation…
OP destroys girlfriend’s task book and refuses to do equal chores. YTA.

OP is YTA for not doing basic chores and acting like it’s a favor

Man refuses to do his fair share of housework, YTA.

YTA destroyed girlfriend’s task book. Start pulling your weight.

OP is TA for not contributing equally to household chores.

Partner’s ‘Task Book’ likely a last resort for communication. YTA.

Commenter calls out OP for sexist behavior and attitude.

Commenter calls out OP for being the a-hole in relationship

YTA destroys girlfriend’s task book, gets called out.

Lazy boyfriend destroys girlfriend’s chore book, gets called out YTA

Girl asks for chore division, receives unhelpful response

Commenter calls out OP’s lack of cleaning skills, YTA confirmed.
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Commenters speculate gaming as cause for interruption

Commenter calls out OP for not cleaning up after himself. YTA.

Scissors vs. Trash: A debate on petty revenge. ️✂️

Petty behavior leads to justified YTA judgement and breakup.

Commenter calls out manipulative post, no sympathy for OP ♂️

OP is the a-hole for destroying girlfriend’s task book

OP gets called out for screwing up the bare minimum. YTA

User calls out OP for childish behavior and bad attitude

Commenter questions why video games are more important than chores

User voted NTA until reading instructions. Accused of slacking off. YTA.

Commenter calls out lazy behavior with a fiery YTA

YTA Alert: Destroying property is never justified in a relationship.

User calls out OP for childish behavior and entitlement

Man called YTA for destroying girlfriend’s ‘task book’ ✂️. Replies suggest he needs to do his share of housework f

Commenter calls out OP for not doing his share of housework

Commenter calls out OP as the a**hole with article reference

Fair question: Does the OP contribute to household chores?

Commenter calls out lazy partner, suggests communication over destruction

User calls out lazy boyfriend for not doing chores properly.

A detailed breakdown of why OP is TA

Commenter calls out YTA for destroying girlfriend’s task book

OP destroyed girlfriend’s hard work, admits fault, and is TA
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YTA thinks helping is living there

Commenter calls out OP for not doing equal share of chores. YTA.

OP gets called out for not communicating and is YTA
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Commenter calls out OP for being TA in cleaning dispute

Curious about living situation before cohabitation

Commenter calls out OP for being childish about chores

Is he justified or just a lazy a**hole?

User called out for childish behavior in cleaning dispute

Commenter calls out OP for destroying girlfriend’s task book.

Commenter calls out OP for not doing basic chores. YTA
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Don’t want to be treated like an employee? Do chores

Commenter calls out OP as immature and TA

Commenter shares experience and wishes happiness for girlfriend.

Commenter calls out OP for being lazy and selfish
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Man destroys girlfriend’s ‘Task Book’ and is called out for being lazy. YTA

User calls out OP for being a slacker in chores

YTA for destroying book. Have adult conversation and compromise.

Commenter calls out OP for being immature.

Commenter calls out OP for being a bad roommate

Commenter called out for not helping girlfriend with tasks.

Commenter calls out OP for being immature and lazy.

Commenter calls out lazy boyfriend, warns girlfriend of future.

Commenter calls out bad behavior and laments dating world.

Lazy boyfriend destroys girlfriend’s task book, gets called out. YTA

Destroying the task book was childish. YTA. ♂️
