We’ve all heard of sibling rivalries and family conflicts, but this one takes the cake! A 33-year-old woman and her husband are facing a vacation dilemma that’s causing quite the stir. Every year, they take their kids and their nanny on a vacation, a tradition that has always been smooth sailing. But this year, the waters are getting choppy. When her husband’s half-brother and his family decide to join in, things start to get complicated. The issue? The nanny. Let’s dive into this family drama…
The Vacation Tradition ️

A New Addition to the Tradition

The Nanny Dilemma Begins

Sharing the Nanny?

Lauren’s Conditions

The Sister-in-Law’s Response ♀️

The Husband’s Take ♂️

A Vacation on the Brink of Cancellation ❌

A Family Vacation Teetering on the Edge: Who’s Being Unreasonable?
A family vacation, meant to be a time of relaxation and bonding, is on the verge of being scrapped due to a nanny-sharing conflict. The protagonist’s sister-in-law insists on sharing the nanny’s services, but without bearing the additional costs. Even though the nanny, Lauren, is open to the arrangement with certain conditions, the sister-in-law deems it unnecessary. The husband suggests they cover the extra costs for the sake of peace, but our protagonist is not too pleased with this solution. She’s contemplating calling the whole trip off! Let’s see what the internet has to say about this sticky situation…
NTA: Lauren deserves fair pay and SIL is being entitled

NTA. SIL’s entitled attitude may ruin your nanny’s trip.

NTA – Protecting your relationship with the family babysitter ♂️

NTA. SIL should ask, not assume. Your husband agrees.

NTA, protect your professional relationship with your nanny. Cancel the trip or get separate Airbnbs.

Nanny stands her ground and demands fair treatment from in-laws

NTA. Unfair to expect Lauren to babysit without compensation.

NTA: Family vacation tensions rise over nanny’s treatment and entitlements

NTA. Planning childcare on vacation can be challenging and overwhelming

NTA: Don’t pay for SIL’s kids, keep your peaceful holiday ️

NTA for setting boundaries with in-laws and prioritizing nanny’s needs

NTA. Don’t risk your relationship with your terrific nanny for her.

NTA. SIL trying to diminish Lauren’s worth, she deserves more

NTA: No nanny, no money. Simple business

BIL wants access to resources, SIL views nanny as appliance. NTA!

NTA> You did what you should have done and asked the nanny what SHE wanted to do. But if you want to keep the peace and get closer with that side of the family, it may be best to eat the costs this trip and plan better for the next one.

NTA defends nanny against selfish in-laws. Stand up for her!

Canceling is the best move. Unreasonable demands won’t stop

“NTA. Set boundaries now to avoid future free babysitting.”

NTA wants husband to set boundaries with SIL over nanny

Nanny contract norms vs. SIL’s expectations: Who’s in the wrong?
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NTA, set boundaries with entitled family members to avoid resentment

NTA. Cancel trip. Go with spouse & kids if nanny won’t.

SIL’s cheapness ruins family vacation. Nanny deserves her own room!
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NTA, but bringing a nanny on vacation causes family tension.

NTA. SIL wants to take advantage of your nanny. Don’t let her!

NTA – SIL wants free babysitting, shut her down

NTA! Don’t pay their part, get separate Airbnbs!

NTA: Consider cancelling trip or going without nanny. 3 outcomes.

NTA. Offer Lauren her own Airbnb for privacy and control.

Engaging suggestion to avoid nanny dilemma during family vacation ✈️

NTA. Nanny deserves privacy and respect. SIL wants free childcare.
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NTA stands firm against SIL’s nanny dilemma, risking a rough trip

NTA, SIL disrespects nanny. Labor laws must be followed.

Dealing with an entitled SIL who’s ruining the family trip

Stand your ground! Let them know their kids, their responsibility.

SIL might sneakily use nanny. Husband needs to set boundaries. NTA

Stand your ground! Don’t let them take advantage of you!

NTA stands up against SIL’s unfair treatment of babysitter ♀️
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Cancel vacation, give Lauren a raise! ️

SIL needs to step up or Lauren won’t help!

Don’t cancel the trip! They can get their own AirBnB

INFO: Options for dealing with the nanny dilemma on vacation.

NTA for not wanting to pay more for extra kids

Beware of SIL’s boundary stomping! Protect your nanny relationship!

“We can’t afford to pay for the nanny” – entitled parent

SIL expects free babysitting, keep the kids with you, AH!

Stand up to SIL: Pay for nanny or don’t go!

SIL takes advantage of Lauren’s skills and time. NTA!

NTA, if they don’t want to pay someone to watch their kids

Either pay for nanny or hire own sitter. Set boundaries.

NTA, prioritize your nanny over demanding SIL. Good caregivers are gold! ✨

NTA. SIL wants to use your money, calls you selfish.

NTA: Separate houses, day trips, and local babysitters for peace

NTA: SIL needs to respect boundaries and Lauren’s autonomy.

Nanny boundaries and a steal of a deal! NTA

Leave the nanny at home and shift the power dynamic! NTA

NTA: No a-hole here. Let’s dive into this nanny dilemma!

Cancel the vacation and avoid stewing over entitled people. NTA

NTA: They want to enjoy your work and leave you with the bill

NTA. Cancel sil coming. She’s a user and she will nuke your relationship with the nanny.
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NTA. Nanny might ruin vacation with her kids.

SIL disrespects nanny, expects her to be a babysitter too

Avoid SIL drama on vacation! NTA, set boundaries and enjoy!

SIL can bring her own nanny

NTA but a disaster in the making. Pay the nanny!

NTA: Comparing the situation to a doctor’s job with no help ⚕️

NTA. Protecting your nanny and prioritizing a relaxing vacation.
