In a world where the birth of a child is often a shared experience between partners, one expectant mother has made a shocking request: she doesn’t want her partner present during the birth of their child! Their seven-year long relationship, filled with love and mutual respect, is now on the rocks due to a medical misunderstanding. Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster of a story…
A Love Story Seven Years Strong
The Medical Misunderstanding
A Disconcerting Doctor’s Visit
A Battle of Wills
An Unsupportive Partner?
Standing Her Ground ️
A Search for a New Doctor Begins
Validation at Last
Partner’s Regret and Defense
The Unusual Request
A Mother’s Dilemma
A Mother-to-be’s Tough Choice: Alone in the Delivery Room?
This tale of an expecting mother’s struggle to stand her ground in a medical setting is both heart-wrenching and inspiring. From an unsupportive partner to a dismissive doctor, she faced it all. But when she finally found validation and respect from a new doctor, she was left with a tough decision to make. She chose to face the daunting task of childbirth alone, leaving her partner on the sidelines. A decision that has left her feeling like a jerk, but also one she feels is necessary for her own emotional well-being. Now, let’s dive into what the internet thinks of this situation…
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NAH. Consider birthing classes to help him understand your needs
NTA. Birth is boring and painful, but you need someone.
Can you trust your partner to support you during childbirth?
“NTA The problem is that he betrayed your trust in a very vulnerable time and place and no amount of apologies and education will make you forget. If he’s in there with you it will be a constant worry about what he’s going to do next, if he’s outside then it’s a worry about how he reacts to being kept away. People who are proud to take no BS and be blunt and say what they think, have to accept that other people don’t always like those traits.”
Wishing you luck with your relationship!
NAH: Partner’s mistake, but why raise a child with no trust?
NTA, Mother’s choice. Partner justifying obstetric violence.
Mild YTA. Lack of communication about needs led to conflict
Report the doctor! Leave an honest review with others!
NAH. Valid feelings, he’s learning to be a better partner.
Doctor’s rude behavior sparks concern and calls for reporting misconduct!
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Concerned about partner’s absence during recovery after birth
NTA for wanting partner-free delivery room, but communication is key
Fear of painful event, partner’s presence may cause more panic.
NTA: Expectant mother wants partner at birth, but needs reassurance
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NAH, partner needs to regain trust by joining birthing groups
Engaging comment: Give him a chance to be there for his child!
Expecting mother wants partner in delivery room, but he declined. ESH
Birth is complicated, but you have the right to make choices
Advocate for your birth plan! Don’t blindly trust doctors.
NTA: Partner should’ve supported and advocated for you during birth
Have an honest conversation with him and set boundaries.
NAH, but trust issues may lead to relationship fallout
Worried partner’s misguided support: valid concern or overstepping boundaries?
NTA! You deserve support and love during this special moment!
Reported the doctor’s abhorrent behavior and found similar complaints!
Create a detailed birth plan to set the atmosphere you want
Emotional debate: Partner’s presence during childbirth vs. mother’s comfort.
Pregnant woman seeks advocate in delivery room, not additional stress.
Commenter thinks OP is the a-hole for banning partner from delivery room.
Mother changes her mind about husband in delivery room.
YTA for excluding partner; blood draw test was offensive.
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NTA. Seek therapy to sort through confusing thoughts. Have a plan.
Advocate for yourself but show grace to your partner.
NTA. Trust your instincts and find someone who supports you.
Feeling unsupported? It’s fair to want the right type of support
Partner dismisses concerns, expecting mother takes charge.
“YTA. Punishing him for disagreeing? You’re a huge a**hole!”
Nurses can help ensure a stress-free delivery.
ESH. Unresolved trauma affecting trust. Therapy needed for communication and trust.
NTA. Doula can help. Congrats!
Discussion on excluding partner from delivery room sparks strong opinions
Consider having an advocate present during delivery for support
NTA, prioritize your well-being and consider getting professional help.
Partner’s assholishness causing conflict in delivery room. Can compromise be reached?
Empowering birth experience: Focus on baby, not distractions.
NTA. Partner’s attitude during labor should be helpful, not directed at you.
NTA: Partner needs empathy and understanding during this time
Respecting birthing choices: NTA stands up for expecting mother’s request!
NTA. Hire a doula for support during labor.
Mixed feelings on partner’s support during pregnancy and birth.
NTA. Empowerment in childbirth and personal boundaries.
No need for partner in delivery room if uncomfortable.
Supportive commenter shares personal experience and offers advice.
Expecting mother’s partner is TA for invasive request. NTA OP
Consider hiring a doula for support during delivery!
NTA. Stick to your gut and educate your partner.
Common ultrasound request, prioritize comfort and safety during labor
NTA: Hilarious birth story! Who needs a cow in the room?
Communication is key! No a-hole here.
Consider a doula for external support and gentle guidance.
NTA. Prioritizing your comfort during childbirth. Men, take note!
NTA, but therapy could help you both communicate and set precedent.
Uncomfortable with male OBGYN, but hospital didn’t offer alternatives.
