Caught in the Middle: Love, Duty, and an Unexpected Caregiver Dilemma

Imagine stepping into a relationship filled with love, only to find yourself in the midst of an emotional rollercoaster that tests the very fabric of your commitment. This is the story of a woman who thought she was signing up for a partnership, but ended up facing a life-changing decision that would not only impact her relationship but her day-to-day life. As we dive into this tale, remember, not all love stories are straightforward, and sometimes, they come with responsibilities that we never anticipated. Let’s explore this heart-wrenching dilemma together.

A Love Story with a Twist ❤️

First Impressions and Unexpected Realities

A Dinner to Remember ️

Change of Plans

The Proposal That Changed Everything ‍ ‍

A Tough Decision ‍♀️

Taking a Step Back ‍♀️

The Heart of the Matter

Love vs. Responsibility: A Modern Dilemma ‍♀️

In a world where love often finds itself entangled with unforeseen responsibilities, our protagonist faces a decision that could redefine her relationship and her life. With her boyfriend’s request putting her in a position she never anticipated, the line between being supportive and preserving one’s own sanity becomes blurred. Is she justified in stepping back, or does love demand more from us than we’re sometimes willing to give? As we ponder this modern-day quandary, let’s dive into the whirlwind of opinions swirling around this emotional saga. ️ ️

Unilateral decision-making? Not cool. NTA for setting boundaries.

Don’t sacrifice your career for your boyfriend’s brother

NTA. BF should not have voluntold you to be caregiver

Partner’s brother with disability: NTA for not becoming caregiver.

NTA, caring for an adult with special needs is not your obligation. It’s a watershed moment for your relationship, but your safety comes first.

Don’t let anyone guilt you into being an unexpected caregiver.

Accusations of lying and guilt-tripping in caregiver dilemma.

Hilarious response to a tough situation, with a NTA verdict.

Partner expects free labor for his brother’s care. NTA.

Sibling’s duty to care for autistic brother questioned. NTA.

Early caregiving in a relationship: NTA, career first

Choosing self-care over a year-long relationship

Stand your ground and prioritize your work. NTA

Don’t let him make his problem your problem

BF asks GF to become primary caregiver, gets angry when declined. NTA

Dodging a bullet . NTA, it’s not your responsibility to take care of his brother.

Deciding whether to stay or leave when partner has caregiving obligation

Compassionate response to caregiving dilemma with a hint of guilt.

NTA. A heartwarming story of finding the best care for family

Setting boundaries: NTA for not taking on caregiver responsibility.

NTA. BF’s lack of planning left you in a bad spot

Brother wants OP to take care of sibling, NTA wins

Don’t let guilt push you into being a full-time caretaker

Partner wanted caregiver role until faced with actual labor. NTA

Boyfriend expects full-time caregiving without discussion, NTA to leave

You’re NTA for not wanting to be a caregiver

Kudos for being upfront. Boyfriend is TA for passing responsibility.

As an RN and Psych NP, commenter advises against taking on care. NTA

Don’t let anyone volunteer you for a job you didn’t sign up for! NTA

Homecare nurse empathizes with commenter, advises against caregiver responsibility.

Boyfriend’s brother, boyfriend’s problem. NTA for saying no.

NTA. Run, girl. Run. Boyfriend wants OP to care for his autistic brother.

NTA. Caring for his disabled brother is his parents’ responsibility

NTA, but run! Caregiving will ruin your health and relationship

Working from home doesn’t mean free childcare

User defends OP’s decision to not be a free caregiver.

Break up with him, you deserve better

Volunteering someone to be a caregiver without asking? Not cool. NTA

Stand up for yourself! Don’t let others make decisions for you. ‍♀️

Refusing to be an unpaid caregiver for boyfriend’s brother. NTA

Taking care of a low-functioning adult is a full-time job ‍ . NTA for declining.

Managing autistic behavior is a specialized skill. NTA.

Balancing work and caregiving responsibilities. NTA for setting boundaries

BF volunteers OP to care for brother, NTA for refusing

Setting boundaries in a new relationship

Dating and moving in doesn’t mean you’re a caregiver. NTA

NTA for refusing to become a caregiver. Red flag relationship

NTA. Caregiver burnout is serious and you’re not obligated.

Dump the boyfriend; he wanted to use you.

Boyfriend expects unpaid caregiving while you work? NTA.

Love vs. Boundaries: Is this relationship worth reconsidering?

NTA. Commendable decision to move out. Viable solution suggested.

Facebook group SibNet for disabled siblings. NTA for OP.

NTA. Suggest getting a trained carer for bf’s brother

Choosing not to be a caregiver can be an act of kindness

Not wanting to care for non-autistic brother. NTA

Boundaries are important. NTA for not taking on his responsibility.

Beware the entitled man who doesn’t ask, just expects

Did he expect you to be his brother’s caregiver?

Dump the boyfriend NTA deserves better

Unfair to demand a sudden caregiver role for his brother.

You’re not the a**hole, but is this a dealbreaker?

Setting boundaries: NTA can’t be an unpaid babysitter

Compassionate response acknowledges limits of caregiving abilities

Caring for severely autistic people requires trained caregivers

Safety concerns with caring for autistic adult man. NTA.

Partner wants to pass caregiving responsibility to girlfriend. NTA.

Gender bias in caregiving. NTA has valid concerns.

User thinks OP is not the a**hole for not becoming full-time caregiver.

Boyfriend prioritizes work and brother over girlfriend. Not cool

Setting boundaries with family as a caregiver

Dating for 4 months and expected to be a full-time caregiver? NTA

NTA. Boyfriend’s lack of planning and prioritizing work over yours.

Red flags in the relationship, time to move on.

Don’t feel guilty for not wanting to be a full-time caregiver

NTA. Tough love or part ways, it’s going to be terrible.

Being a caregiver and working from home is not feasible. ❌ NTA for not being able to provide the care needed. ‍♀️

Don’t let him dump his responsibilities on you