Imagine being a 9-year-old boy, excited about finally being able to eat in public again after struggling with a severe eating disorder. But instead of being welcomed with open arms at family gatherings, you’re told you can’t join because your eating habits are ‘unfair’ to the other kids. That’s the heartbreaking reality for this young boy with ARFID, a condition that limits his diet to processed ‘junk’ food. His parents just want him to be treated equally and enjoy family meals with his cousins.
The Struggle with ARFID ️

Family Meals Put on Hold

A Huge Milestone!

Request to Rejoin Family Meals

Sister-in-Law Backtracks

Trying to Explain His Needs ️

Sister-in-Law Gets Upset

Accused of Being Rude

A New Plan

Clearing Things Up

Sister-in-Law’s Stance

Apologies and Explanation

Boy’s Battle for Equality at Family Gatherings
This 9-year-old boy’s parents are fighting for his right to be treated equally and enjoy family meals with his cousins, despite his ARFID eating disorder. After a huge milestone, they hoped to reintroduce him to family gatherings, but the sister-in-law refused, claiming it was ‘unfair’ to the other kids. The boy’s father tried to explain the medical situation, but the sister-in-law remained stubborn. Now, the family is seeking alternative ways to include their son in smaller gatherings. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NAH comment section debates fairness of special treatment for son’s eating disorder.

NTA. The SIL is excluding a child due to a medical condition.

Compromise on mac and cheese, but unrealistic to expect McDonald’s.

SIL won’t host family meals, so try hosting buffet style

Food-oriented family gatherings may not be inclusive for AFRID sufferers

Commenter and reply agree: OP is the a**hole

YTA for pushing it. Respect SIL’s parenting decisions for her kids.

Parent of child with ARFID defends decision to let child eat McDonalds.

NAH, commenter proposes solution for family meals with son’s food.

Suggests monthly McDonald’s treat for all kids to avoid conflict

Engaging with the debate on whether the OP is the a**hole or not
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Commenter calls out entitled behavior, suggests alternative options.

Commenter calls out OP for excluding the boy from activities
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Family tension over healthy eating for kids

Food restrictions can be tough on kids. NAH here.

Commenter accuses OP of being a YTA for hijacking SIL’s family dinner

Suggestion to offer food for all kids, health focus mentioned

Parent with eating disorder kid denied family meals, YTA for pushing.

Compassionate commenter defends boy with eating disorder, offers advice.

Parent wants kid included in family dinners, but pushing boundaries. YTA

NTA defends a child with eating disorder against SIL’s cruelty

Commenter disagrees with OP but agrees on inclusivity.

NTA for advocating for your son’s disabilities. Ableism is disgusting

Suggest non-food activities or find a treat all kids can enjoy

Commenter calls out OP for being TA in handling situation

Finding a compromise for family meals with fun food

Supportive comment about bringing own food for child with disorder

Speech language pathologist advocates for including son in family meals ♂️

Creating alternatives for family meals can avoid tension and resentment

Childhood empathy and understanding of medical conditions ❤️

Parent criticized for being too pushy with family meals

Empathetic comment about ARFID and family gatherings, NAH situation.

Commenter receives backlash for prioritizing jealousy over accommodating a disability.

A commenter with ARFID suggests eating ahead of time and attending for the social aspect. Encourages helping the child find the difference between foods that make him sick and foods he needs.

ARFID is a serious illness, not just a fussy kid

NTA. A monthly meal can be modified to include everyone
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Support for NTA comment calling out SIL’s insensitive behavior

Commenter suggests OP is being pushy and should give it time

NAH, SIL not obligated but son deserves to socialize. Find alternatives.

Commenter suggests hosting meal at home to accommodate son’s disorder

NTA with extensive knowledge and experience in eating disorders defends OP.

Teaching kids compassion and understanding is important

SIL’s concern for her kids’ health is understandable

Sharing a personal experience, NTA understands the struggle of eating disorders

Commenter calls out OP for pushing after being told no

Commenter defends OP’s son and criticizes SIL’s behavior.
