Man Rejects Trans Woman on Date : Is He in the Wrong?

Picture this: you’re on a date with someone you met on a dating app, and things are going well. Then, your date reveals they’re a post-op trans woman, and suddenly, you’re not so sure about the relationship anymore. This is exactly what happened to a 24-year-old man who took to the internet to ask if he was in the wrong for rejecting a trans woman on their fourth date. Let’s dive into the story and see what led to this controversial decision.

A Surprising Revelation

The Rejection

The Man’s Stance

Not About Kids or Genitals ❌

Cognitive Dissonance

Values and Beliefs

Politeness and Pronouns

Happiness vs. Comfort

Defining ‘Straight’

A Fluid Category

Farther Ends of ‘Straightness’

Women’s Spaces and Comfort

Finding a Happy Medium

A Complex Situation: Was He Right or Wrong?

Our conflicted protagonist finds himself in a tricky situation when his date reveals she’s a post-op trans woman. While he supports LGBTQ+ rights and respects trans people’s pronouns and beliefs, he can’t shake the feeling that dating a trans woman doesn’t align with his values. He wonders if he should make himself uncomfortable just to avoid being called transphobic. With the ever-evolving definition of ‘straight,’ he tries to explain his position on dating preferences. But, is he in the wrong for rejecting her? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Genital preference is ok, but rejecting with kindness and respect

NTA defends their decision not to date a trans woman

Respectful rejection of trans woman’s advances deemed acceptable.

Respectful rejection of trans woman, praised for upfront honesty.

Dating preference defended, tired of phobic label.

Dating preferences are valid, even if not inclusive.

Trans woman shares her perspective on disclosing identity before dating.

Discrimination in dating vs. internalized transphobia: a nuanced debate

Transphobic comment sparks backlash; user deemed YTA (you’re the a**hole)

Transphobic or fabricated? Commenter doubts validity of story.

Dating preferences shouldn’t be labeled transphobic.

Transphobic comment dismissed by community, no replies.

Trans disclosure on 4th date: NTA for rejecting, but communication needed

Dismissing transphobia as fake? Not cool

Challenging comment on gender fluidity and acceptance with personal anecdotes

Defending preferences: NTA for rejecting trans woman on date

Trans person calls out transphobia in blanket dating rule

Dating preferences are personal ❤️. NTA for rejecting.

Choosing who to date is personal and consensual. #NTA

Doubts the authenticity of the post and defends trans community. ️‍⚧️

Rejecting a trans person doesn’t make you transphobic ‍♂️

Respecting preferences or transphobia? A debate on dating etiquette.

Selecting partners is personal and should be respected

Transparency in dating: NTA for rejecting undisclosed trans identity.

Respectful rejection is a personal right

Setting boundaries in dating is okay. Respectful rejection is valid. ‍♂️

Man defends his sexual preference for cisgender women on date.

Respecting preferences is not transphobic.

Transphobic comment defending rejection of trans woman on a date

Rejecting a trans person isn’t transphobic, name-calling is.

Doubts on the story’s authenticity and support for personal dating preferences.

Stand your ground and don’t compromise your values

Attraction can’t be forced, but considerate rejection is important

A comment challenges traditional sexual orientation rules.

Trans woman not entitled to women’s single-sex spaces. NTA.

Transphobic comment receives no support in replies

Straight person shares experience of rejecting trans partner, supports decision.

Personal choice: Man not wrong for rejecting trans woman on date

Rejecting a trans person isn’t transphobic. NTA

Respectful rejection or transphobia? Commenter defends preference for attraction.

Rejecting someone based on sexual preference is not phobic. NTA.

Transphobic comment with no room for empathy or understanding

Choosing who to sleep with is a right, not an obligation ‍♀️

Transphobic comment sparks controversy in comment section

Dating preferences are valid but communication is key.

Transphobe accusation for having preferences? NTA, honesty matters.

Respectful gay man defends rejecting trans woman, advises safer disclosure

Respectful rejection of trans woman sparks debate on free will.

Rejecting trans person is NTA, but deception is a red flag

Transphobic comment disregards validity of trans identities.

Attraction is subjective and not hating someone for it is important ❤️

Validating personal preferences and standing up against shaming.

Respecting dating preferences: it’s okay to say no ✌

Chemistry matters, but honesty is key. NTA for rejecting.

Trans woman didn’t disclose identity, man rejects her: NTA.

Respect yourself and your preferences, don’t worry about others’ opinions.

Respectful rejection is not phobic or prejudiced. NTA

Transphobic comment with no replies

Honesty is the best policy, even if it hurts

Defending dating preferences: NTA and not transphobic

Support for not dating trans individuals sparks debate.

Consent is key ✌️. No explanation needed for rejection.

Dating preferences or transphobia? NTA sparks debate.

Transparency is key in dating. Is she TAH for hiding it?

Transphobia is not okay. NTA comment highlights hate towards trans ppl.

Respectful rejection of trans woman sparks debate on gender identity ️‍⚧️

Respecting but not dating trans person: Acceptable or discriminatory?

Unusual kink or transphobic? The comment section debates.

Transphobic comment with aggressive tone and defensive stance.

Dating preferences ≠ transphobia or homophobia

FTM individual shares experience with disclosing trans identity while dating.

Being honest about preferences is important in a relationship.

Having a preference is NTA. No one should be shamed.