Weddings, while happy occasions, can sometimes bring out the worst in people. When a bride is getting married, she might tend to be stressed out, anxious, and overall just unhappy. Sometimes, she can take these things out on other people.
Many friendships oftentimes go through a rocky period or even end due to weddings and the drama that is associated with it.
The Reddit user shared that her childhood friend Mary is getting married in 3 weeks, and despite the two growing apart over the years, she was asked to be a bridesmaid at her wedding. She was a bit surprised by it, seeing as the two have grown apart.
"One reason why I sort of distanced myself from her was because of her treatment of my relationship. My boyfriend, “Jack,” and I have been together for 3 and ½ years."
"He’s a wonderful person, and there is no doubt in my mind that this is the man I want to marry, but Mary is under the impression that Jack is “too good for me,"
The Reddit user said his parents come from money and he was basically guaranteed a lavish life "from birth." However, her childhood was very different, where she grew up struggling in a low-income neighborhood.
Her friend Mary constantly makes her feel bad, saying that there's "no way she could have pulled someone so attractive and rich."
Mary invited the Reddit user to lunch with her fiancé and his friend Gary. The four were out having a good time when Gary asked why the Reddit user was single. She replied that she wasn't, and she's in a happy and committed relationship.
Gary was surprised because apparently, the lunch was a "blind double date" and Gary thought he was there as her date.
"I called Mary later on in the day and asked her a ton of questions about why she thought it was okay to do that."
"By saying that “Gary is a man who’s more in my league,” and since he was also a groomsman, “We needed to ‘get to know each other’ better," she continued.
"I was shocked by her bluntness, so I just told her that I didn’t want to be her bridesmaid anymore. Granted, it was a pretty impulsive decision, but I still stand by it."
"It’s been a few days and her fiancé has been texting me, asking me to suck it up for the wedding. I feel petty and conflicted right now," she wrote.
Many people said the Reddit user is definitely not wrong.
"She not only set you up, she also hurt Gary over this."
"It is entirely understandable to distance yourself from someone who gaslights and manipulates you like this. She has been ACTIVELY insulting you," one person said.
"In general, you should not withdraw from bridesmaiding three weeks out absent some kind of special circumstance.
This is such a special circumstance. "This is Gary, he is the groomsman who will walk beside you and such" is fair. "This is Gary. He is in your league, unlike your boyfriend and you need to date him" is not," another added.
"Mary is way out of line speaking to you like that even if you'd been with this guy 3 weeks, and not 3 AND A HALF YEARS!!!"
"I'd definitely pull out of the wedding, and probably the friendship," someone else commented.
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