They say it takes a village to raise a child.
This is an African proverb that means that an entire community of people must pitch in to help raise children successfully.
But what if the elders aka Granny want to retire from childcare? That's the dilemma facing one young grandmother who helped raise two of her grandkids.
But with another little one on the way, she's ready to tap out.
Besides the years of wisdom, they are also constantly coming to the rescue for their children and their grandchildren.
But like our Reddit user, some of them also need a break.
This is where Reddit users share their stories to let others determine whether they're in the wrong or not in particular situations.
Here, she explained that she and her husband had their children young.
"At first because she was young and juggling school alongside being a single mom.
Then she finished college, got a great job and her husband has a high paying job as well."
"We were basically raising a third child," she explained.
"We took him to school, babysat him in the afternoons. He’d spend at least one month with us during the summer."
But now the grandchild is all grown up and at college across the country.
Since her husband is retired, they want to move down South for a real retirement of sunny weather and relaxation.
However, her daughter has since had another child who is two years old and has another one on the way.
"My daughter says we shouldn’t move because she may need our help."
In other words, she wants to have a different kind of relationship with the kids. She wants to see her grandchildren and spoil them, but she doesn't want to raise any more.
The grandmother didn't agree. They have another son who doesn't mind that they will be moving.
They will live closer to him and he has no plans to have kids.
"They say I make it sound like caring for my grandson was a chore."
Like all the posts on AITI, she left the floor open for users to share whether she's in the wrong.
Another pointed out how the needs of a 16-year-old mother and one in her 30s is very different.
A lot of people agreed with that sentiment, pointing out that a grandparent grows older, they want to spend more time on themself.
It shouldn't fall on other people to parent, raise, or take care of your children constantly when you chose to have a child.
One even said that raising a child IS a chore. "If it wasn’t, they wouldn’t have had you do it."
Now comes the hard part of trying to convince her daughter of that...
Do you agree with the comments? Is the grandmother not in the wrong?
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