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Wife Asks Husband To Turn Down 'Dream Job' Or Else She Would Divorce Him

No one said marriage was easy.

Just last week, we learned about the moments people knew they had gotten married too fast. One of those "aha" moments was spouses dishing out ultimatums.

These kind of situations never go down well. Yet, one wife on Reddit gave her husband two options: turn down his dream job or get divorced.

Keep reading to learn more.

Thanks to the subreddit AIMA (Am I the [Expletive]), people can share stories from tough situations where they were called out for being a bad person.

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From there, Reddit users decide whether the original poster is in the wrong or not.

Or, "YTA" or "NTA," which stands for "You're The [Expletive]" and "Not The [Expletive]."

One woman was put between a rock and a hard place when her husband was offered his dream job.

While this sounds like news to celebrate, just wait until you hear the backstory.

This began with her explaining that she is a 33-year-old female who is married to her 36-year-old husband.

She makes an income of 200k a year (with the potential to make much more) in her highly niched job. This makes her the breadwinner of their household.

Meanwhile, her husband (who was unemployed at her time of writing) has a broad degree and broad work experience.

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The trouble all started when he landed an interview for his dream job at an organization that puts her job stability at risk.

"My company and this org. are adversarial, at best," she wrote.

"My field is extremely secretive, and if clients discovered my spouse was working for a competitor, I would be permanently tainted," she explained.

She added, without exaggeration, that she wouldn't be able to get a job in the industry forever.

Given this high level of risk that would put her career, reputation, and income at stake, she asked him to drop consideration for the job.

She explained that while he could easily find another job in various fields, she only has this one to fall back on.


"He was extremely angry, and said I was 'selfish and only cared about money,'" she wrote.

"I told him that if he wanted to go back to school for an advanced degree or just be unemployed for a while, I would support him, but taking this job isn’t possible."

Instead of taking this offer, her husband continued the interview process behind her back.

He eventually got the job offer and expressed that he wanted to accept.

"He says his career needs to take priority and that I wasn’t being a supportive wife." This put the woman in a tough position that we don't envy.

She contacted her higher-ups to inform them of the situation and then gave her husband an ultimatum.

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"I told him he could decline the offer, w/me watching him physically decline it, or he could accept the offer and move out immediately. I would pay for him to stay two weeks at a hotel, and we would begin divorce proceedings. My company is willing to take care of all of my legal fees."

Going to these extreme lengths made her feel awful. "I still love him. I moved decisively, b/c this was the best way to cut my losses, but it still hurts."

In response, he called her heartless and cold. She concluded her post with this:

"It’s true that I was prioritizing my career over his, but it felt like the only option at the time."

Since sharing her dilemma, Reddit users have given their take.

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"You aren’t choosing between your husband and your career. You are choosing to not be with a man who is willing to sabotage your future over a job offer," shared one user.

Others pointed out that the husband is in the wrong over the lack of trust.

"He already went behind her back. Who's to say he won't go behind her back to steal information?" wrote user Sleepypastel.

Another pointed out how he was gaslighting her by "making you believe his choices are your fault."

Some Redditors were on the husband's side. "What the hell is wrong with you people?" wrote this user.

"There are protocols for exactly this sort of thing in the corporate world," they added.


"Fill out a conflict of interest disclosure form, don't talk about work at home, and move the hell on," this user wrote.

In the end, though, the general consensus was this: the wife was not in the wrong.

Do you agree with this? Let us know in the comments! Read the full story here.

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