19-Year-Old Refuses to Fund Cousin’s Wedding: Heartless or Justified?

Picture this: You’re a 19-year-old woman, overcoming personal struggles and achieving academic success, only to be faced with an unexpected financial demand from your family. They want you to contribute to your cousin’s wedding, a cousin with whom you’ve had a rocky relationship. You’ve worked hard for your money, and you’re not sure about parting with it for this cause. What do you do? Let’s dive into this intriguing tale of family ties, personal boundaries, and moral dilemmas.

A Rocky Family History ️

Bridges Being Built

A Surprise Proposal

Young and Successful

The Family Gathering

The Unexpected Request

Caught Off Guard

The Family’s Reaction

A Lesson Learned the Hard Way

The Price of Family Traditions: A Moral Dilemma

Our young protagonist finds herself in a moral quandary. After overcoming personal struggles and achieving academic success, she’s confronted with her family’s expectation to contribute to her cousin’s wedding. Despite their rocky past and recent reconciliation, she’s taken aback by the sudden financial demand. She stands her ground, asserting that it’s her hard-earned money and she should decide how to spend it. This leads to a flurry of texts accusing her of selfishness. A tough lesson on oversharing personal information is learned. But the question remains: Is she in the wrong for refusing to pay? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

NTA. No obligation to fund wedding. Don’t disclose salary!

“NTA, 19yo cousin shouldn’t be expected to fund wedding “

NTA: Proud of high paying salary, but others have unjust expectations

NTA, but keep your salary to yourself. Lesson learned!

NTA. Your money, your priorities. Don’t cave in to entitlement.

“NTA obviously, seems like you barely even know these family members and all interactions you’ve had are negative. Maybe God is punishing them with a cheaper wedding.”

NTA: Boundaries set, love and trust over blood relations.

NTA: It’s her wedding, let her pay. ‍♀️

NTA: Don’t expect others to fund your wedding

“NTA. Asking family for wedding funds is tacky. Scale down.”

NTA. Your money, your choice. Petty gift idea

“NTA You’re at the age yourself where you can be saving for and thinking about your own wedding. Why would you pay for someone else’s as if you’re their parent? Tell them to get money from their parents, its really inappropriate to ask someone your age as you should be planning your own life not financially supporting others lives. The audacity lol

Also i wouldn’t doubt God actually kept you on the path of success you are on in spite of your family and He chose you because of your inner strength that shines through your post. That fits more His pattern of operating. As a child there’s nothing you can do to bring it on yourself, your family or parents can bring curses or sickness spirits onto you while you are still in the womb so that is likely what happened since your issues came from birth or childhood. You can get these removed from yourself permanently but you need to learn about spiritual warfare and deliverance. God speed” – I love how you put it into a spiritual perspective! Thank you so much (:”

NTA: Keep love life, finances, and to yourself.

NTA: Money doesn’t buy love, even for family.

NTA. No obligation to fund cousin’s wedding, distant relationship

NTA. Lessons learned: 1. Health isn’t payback. 2. Your money, your business. 3. Save for the unexpected.

NTA: Not close enough to pay, just give a present

NTA: No obligation to fund cousin’s wedding, but offer advice

NTA – Proud of your success, no obligation to fund wedding

NTA: Set boundaries and don’t engage in unnecessary arguments.

NTA – Budget constraints, no sympathy from commenter

NTA. Tradition vs entitlement in wedding funding

Family’s greed vs. your earned money. NTA!

NTA. No a-hole here. Justified decision or heartless?

NTA: Keep your finances private and block money requests

NTA. It’s your money, you decide. No obligation to pay.

NTA: Family drama and money don’t mix!

NTA’s clever response shuts down personal questions with humor

NTA. Refusing to fund cousin’s wedding. Revenge plan in motion!

Salary inquiries: Rude or reasonable? Let’s discuss!

Agreeing with the comment.

NTA: Heartless or justified? Share your thoughts!

“Heartless or Justified?” 19-year-old refuses to fund cousin’s wedding.

NTA. Comment provides insightful perspective on ADHD oversharing.

Savage clapback and empowering message about mental illness.

NTA. Decline the invitation and cut communication.

Protect your happiness and don’t let others spoil it!

NTA: Keep your salary private and avoid unnecessary conflicts

Lesson learned: Keep your income private and avoid entitled relatives.

NTA: Give cash gift to cover meal, gets everyone off your back

OP refuses to fund cousin’s wedding, called ‘heartless’ – NTA

NTA: Your money, your decision

Refusing selfish requests and keeping salary private

Family drama: NTA refuses to fund cousin’s extravagant wedding

Support for refusing to fund cousin’s wedding. Family drama.

NTA and maybe go low contact with all of them?

NTA: Personal experience of funding own wedding, no help needed.

NTA at 19, you don’t need to pay for others.

“My cousin wants me to pay for her wedding. Am I the a**hole?”

Setting boundaries with family NTA

NTA. Rude tradition to ask for money from family

Sharing salary led to wedding expectations. NTA for privacy.

NTA: Prioritizing your own future over someone else’s wedding

NTA: Lesson learned, never share finances. Couple and parents pay.

Stand your ground and prioritize your own future.

NTA: Cultural differences make it understandable to refuse wedding funding

NTA: Hispanic tradition vs American customs. Is it a cash grab?

NTA: Family hypocrisy exposed. Money talks, but only one way.

NTA: Lesson learned – keep your income a secret!

Life doesn’t work that way, don’t fund unnecessary things.

NTA, but discretion is key when discussing finances.

NTA: Setting reasonable expectations for financial support in weddings