Being a mom is a lot of hard work and raising children is no easy task. Not only do moms have a lot on their plate to begin with but many times, things in life don’t go as planned.
We go through loss and grief and sometimes, it manifests into our home and in our lives. It’s just inevitable — moms can’t carry the weight of the world on their shoulders all of the time.
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Every mom knows that it’s almost impossible to keep our home spotless when we’re going through things.
Most of the time, we have the energy to clean and straighten things up. But when life happens and we’re drowning, cleaning is the last thing we are thinking about.
It seems that some family members, however, don’t always understand what moms are going through.
Recently, one mom opened up on Reddit about how her mother-in-law, who decided to show up unannounced to her house.
Not only did the mother-in-law come over without any warning but she also yelled at her daughter-in-law over her “messy house.”
Reddit user u/FamilyWife shared her “rant” on the platform, looking for an outlet.
She shared with the community that she was having a pretty bad week.
“Saturday, I was rear-ended and now dealing with back pain while my car is in the shop being fixed, Sunday night my grandfather passed away, Monday afternoon I had to [put] our dog down. All week I have dealt with my youngest two kids being sick and extremely clingy,” she said.
She shared that the week had been taking a toll on her.
“I have been using my husband’s car while he gets a ride to work and even then, being out every night until 7 pm has been tiring for me and the kids, and the kids have been acting out because of it,” she said.
By Thursday, she realized she needed a break. And her husband agreed.
“By Thursday night I decided I needed a break, My husband agreed and told me he not to worry about housework and stuff for awhile and he would take care of it.
“We also both agreed that the kids needed a day to just rest and not worry about going to school or after school activities,” she wrote.
The family decided to have a “pajama day” and take it easy.
“So while my husband went to work on Friday, me and the kids stayed at home and had a PJ day. It was definitely needed,” she said.
However, her mother-in-law showed up, unannounced, and began to ruin the “relaxing day.”
“My husband usually speaks to his mom on the phone in the morning if things are slow, He told her about our day off to relax and she took it as an open invitation to show up,” the mom said.
The mother-in-law immediately began criticizing the state of the house.
“When I opened the front door for her she walked in and looked around disgusted at the living room, front room, and kitchen, before turning to me to call me lazy mom and how I need to get off my ass and start acting like a mom,” she confessed.
When the mom tried to explain to her mother-in-law that the family was having a relaxing day, the mother-in-law wouldn’t listen.
“I told her I was taking a break for a couple days and my husband had agreed to letting me relax for awhile. MIL then went on to tell me I’m a mom and I don’t get to relax,” she said.
The mom said she ended up throwing her mother-in-law out of the house.
People online were outraged and shocked that after all this mom had been going through, her mother-in-law couldn’t be a little understanding.
“If she ever does something like that again, tell her, ‘Feel free to start cleaning, but the kids and I have taken a personal day and won’t be doing anything,'” one person wrote .
The situation didn’t go over well with the mom’s husband, either.
He reportedly told his mother off for coming over out of the blue, only to criticize the family and their home. Apparently, he’s made it clear that she needs to ask before coming over in the future.
Many people online said that this couple should set boundaries for their mother-in-law.
“Don’t let her back in until she apologises.
“She’s given you the perfect justification — the house isn’t in a state for visitors.
“Lock your front door, if she turns up just yell through the door in your most saccharine voice ‘Oh no thank you MIL, no visitors today,'” suggested one user.
Other Reddit users shared their own similar experiences with their picky in-laws and parents.
“My mom told me my house smelled like dog (Duh! I had 2 Great Danes at the time). I decided she would never step a foot inside my house again. Ten years later, she’s been in my house only a handful of times. Don’t like the way my house looks/smells, don’t let the door hit you on the way out, and don’t come again!” one user said .
Overall, people online agreed that this mother-in-law was way out of line.
Many users agreed that showing up unannounced and making rude comments about the family’s home was totally uncalled for — especially after the family’s stressful week.
What do you think? Did this mother-in-law go too far?
