Coworker Transitions FTM - But Colleague REFUSES to Use Pronouns! 😲

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Buckle up, folks! 🚨 We've got a juicy workplace drama unfolding that's sure to get your gears turning. 🤔 Our protagonist finds themselves in a sticky situation after a coworker's big gender reveal. 🏳️‍⚧️ Navigating the pronoun minefield proves trickier than expected, leading to some awkward misgendering moments. 😬 In an attempt to avoid further faux pas, they resort to a name-only approach. Seems reasonable, right? 🤷‍♂️ Well, not everyone agrees! 😠 Let's dive into this tangled tale of workplace woes and see if you think our well-meaning main character is the a-hole here. 👀

🏳️‍⚧️ Coworker's Big Reveal! 😲

bad__engineer | bad__engineer

🙏 Acknowledging Courage in a Conservative Industry

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😬 Pronoun Problems: Harder Than Expected!

bad__engineer | bad__engineer

🤦‍♀️ Misgendering Mishaps in Low-Effort Convos

bad__engineer | bad__engineer

🤐 Zipping My Lips to Avoid Testing Bob's Patience

bad__engineer | bad__engineer

🎯 Bullseye! Using Bob's Name Proves Easier

bad__engineer | bad__engineer

🕵️ Stealth Mode: Avoiding Accidental Outings

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🗣️ Chatting with Colleague Janet About the News

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🤷‍♂️ Admitting My Pronoun Struggles to Janet

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😠 Janet's Accusation: Disrespecting Bob's Struggle?

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🤔 Confusion: How is Using a Preferred Name Disrespectful?

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😕 Bad Timing: Bob's Out of Office

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🙏 Turning to Reddit for Judgment

bad__engineer | bad__engineer

🙌 Appreciating Advice and Opinions

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🔮 Future Plans: Pronouns with a Stopgap

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🚨 Pronoun Problems: Is Using a Coworker's Name Disrespectful? 😬

Our protagonist finds themselves in a pickle after a coworker's gender transition. 🏳️‍⚧️ Struggling to consistently use the correct pronouns, they opt for a name-only approach to avoid misgendering. 🤐 But a colleague accuses them of disrespecting the coworker's transition struggle by refusing to use gender-specific pronouns. 😠 Confused and seeking clarity, our main character turns to the internet for judgment. 🙏 Let's see what the online jury has to say about this workplace drama! 👀 Is using a preferred name really disrespectful, or is it a reasonable stopgap measure? 🤔 The internet weighs in with their hot takes and sage advice, so grab your popcorn and let's dive into the comments! 🍿

Trans person approves of OP's respectful approach, calls out Janet's behavior.

cyfermax | cyfermax

Using correct pronouns takes time, but effort shows you care 😊

Datonecatladyukno | Datonecatladyukno

Practice using proper pronouns to make it natural. 👍

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Trans person explains importance of using correct pronouns at work 👏

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NTA comment shuts down colleague for refusing to use pronouns 😲

Adam_Bomb18 | Adam_Bomb18

Using correct pronouns is important, but it takes practice. NAH.

JackNotName | JackNotName

Respectful coworker vs. problematic colleague 🤔

maxhooker | maxhooker

Transitioning coworker shares experience of adjusting pronouns with colleagues. 👍

patchy_doll | patchy_doll

Respecting pronouns isn't hard, just ask Bob. NTA 👍

Guido_Jones | Guido_Jones

Being respectful is crucial, but communication with Bob is key.

nnothmann | nnothmann

Supportive reply to NTA's effort to respect coworker's transition 👏

[deleted] | [deleted]

Trying to accommodate Bob's privacy, but using only first names could highlight him as different. Making mistakes is normal, but consider long term impact on Bob.

JudgeJudAITA | JudgeJudAITA

Trans man explains importance of using correct pronouns respectfully ✌🏽

bandsdestroyd | bandsdestroyd

NTA for struggling with pronouns, but effort to change is important 👍

amopeyzoolion | amopeyzoolion

Janet's performative wokeness backfires. NTA for respecting Bob's transition 👍

waterbuffalo750 | waterbuffalo750

Supportive reply to coworker trying to use correct pronouns for colleague ✌️

RockClimber247 | RockClimber247

Supportive comment applauding respectful language towards trans coworker. 🏳️‍🌈

cambria90 | cambria90

Making an effort to use correct pronouns is appreciated 👍

sbliss35 | sbliss35

Learn to use their pronouns or be perceived as unwilling.

GeorgiaSpellman | GeorgiaSpellman

Understanding response to NTA's mistake, Janet is the AH 🙄

weirdpotato_3 | weirdpotato_3

Respectful use of names is a basic human right 👍

theiLLmip | theiLLmip

Changing behavior takes time and mistakes happen. NTA. 👍

latsyrcami | latsyrcami

Trans man appreciates use of name over potentially outing pronouns 👍

chrysjarethj | chrysjarethj

Respectful approach to pronouns in coworker's transition. 👏

BillyJoJive | BillyJoJive

Practice makes perfect! NTA for wanting to avoid misgendering.

Goldberry42 | Goldberry42

Using someone's correct pronouns is basic respect 😞

nocte_lupus | nocte_lupus

Don't be a busybody! Respect people's pronouns. NTA.

leberkrieger | leberkrieger

Transphobic comment receives no support from replies. 👏

ChrisPBacon420Blaze | ChrisPBacon420Blaze

Finding the right way to show respect to a transitioning coworker 👍

technoboob | technoboob

Supportive comment about using correct pronouns for trans coworker.

Dopefox1980 | Dopefox1980

Using someone's name instead of pronouns can be respectful. 🙌

TawnyFawn | TawnyFawn

Using correct pronouns is not hard. NTA for respecting coworker.

CocconutMonkey | CocconutMonkey

Respectful trans colleague suggests easy solution to misgendering dilemma. 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Respectful use of pronouns, good intentions, and respecting boundaries! 👏

NachoManSandyRavage | NachoManSandyRavage

Using correct pronouns is important, YTA but lightly called out 👏

Evergreen19 | Evergreen19

Practice using correct pronouns and apologize if you slip up. ✍🏻👍

emersynjc | emersynjc

Making an effort to use correct pronouns, NTA 👍

EzBernardo | EzBernardo

Using preferred pronouns shows support and effort for trans colleagues. ✌🏻

gay_coffee_ | gay_coffee_

Colleague refuses to use pronouns and commenter defends it.

goodwillhunting30 | goodwillhunting30

Playing it safe - NTA for using correct pronouns 👍

skweekycleen | skweekycleen

Using someone's chosen name is respectful, NTA for using it 👍

numbersthen0987431 | numbersthen0987431

NTA commenter defends respecting coworkers' gender identity regardless of personal beliefs 👏

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NTA, but training yourself to use correct pronouns is important 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Supporting a coworker's transition is important, Janet should understand 👍

StableMolotov | StableMolotov

Avoid gossiping and respect pronouns, not the a-hole here. 👍

beldaran1224 | beldaran1224

Determining YTA or NTA? Ask Bob, not the internet! 🤔

ElisaAnne | ElisaAnne

Trans man suggests easing pronoun transition with 'they' first. 👍

Kepheo | Kepheo

Respecting pronoun choice is important. NTA for using name first.

PepperPilots | PepperPilots

Respectful coworker seeks advice on gender pronouns for transitioning colleague.

DontTakeMyNoise | DontTakeMyNoise

Respectful approach to using correct pronouns for transitioning coworker. 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Using 'they' as default pronoun to avoid misgendering. Agreeing with NTA.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Respectful use of pronouns important in supporting trans identity. 👍

TheAloePlantTower | TheAloePlantTower

Trans person values name over pronouns, NTA comment section agrees.

ssj4majuub | ssj4majuub

Respectful intentions, but colleague disagrees. NAH, not the A.

a1337sti | a1337sti

Supportive comment defends using correct pronouns. NTA.

Diane_Mars | Diane_Mars

Respect Bob's wishes, not Janet's. NTA 👍

HiImDavid | HiImDavid

Respect Bob's transition and practice using correct pronouns. NTA.

DeliSoupItExplodes | DeliSoupItExplodes

Using gender-neutral pronouns can help avoid misgendering. 🙌

Afoolsjourney | Afoolsjourney

Supportive comment about adjusting to coworker's new pronouns. 👏

525600bitches | 525600bitches

Encouraging comment on unlearning gender-specific language habits. 👏

nu_rekt | nu_rekt

Respectful name usage. Janet's intentions good, approach not so much 🙏

ItsJustDeno | ItsJustDeno

Making an effort to respect pronouns is important 👍

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Supportive commenter defends use of correct pronouns, offers encouragement.

verminiusrex | verminiusrex

Gender-neutral pronouns make life easier. Good advice! 😊

SomebodyToldMe113 | SomebodyToldMe113

Respectful NTA comment offers advice for pronoun usage with compassion.

EmpathicallyAnxious | EmpathicallyAnxious

Respect Bob's pronouns and use gender-neutral pronouns to avoid offense 👍

higginsnburke | higginsnburke

Practice makes perfect! Keep trying to use correct pronouns 👍

ZooktheCloak | ZooktheCloak

Encouraging response to NTA struggling with pronouns, with positive outlook 👍

StealthMarmot | StealthMarmot

Retraining our brains takes time, but respecting others is crucial 👍

KaijuAlert | KaijuAlert

Respectful approach to using correct pronouns, with helpful advice. 👍

TheRoseSorcerer | TheRoseSorcerer

Respectful OP is NTA for struggling with pronouns, empathy shown 🙏

srtmadison | srtmadison

Respectful compromise for trans coworker's pronoun usage 👍

okay_skylar | okay_skylar

Respectful approach to using pronouns while maintaining privacy 👍

NaturalJustification | NaturalJustification

Respectful use of name while retraining brain. Co-worker's behavior unacceptable 😑

josiebadcat | josiebadcat

Acknowledging pronouns, but finding a solution to not cause harm 👍

whatcolorizthat | whatcolorizthat

Using someone's name instead of pronouns? NTA shuts down colleague.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Respecting someone's identity is important. NTA for trying.

imeanokig | imeanokig

Respecting preferred names is key, regardless of cultural differences. 👍

one-of-the-daltons | one-of-the-daltons

Respecting preferred pronouns is important, NTA for doing so 👍

liquidjeans | liquidjeans

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