Pregnant with Triplets, She Wants to Reduce but Hubby Disagrees 😱

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Picture this: you're pregnant with triplets, but you and your partner originally agreed on having only two kids. Now, you're faced with the dilemma of wanting to reduce the pregnancy, but your partner is against it. Sounds like a recipe for conflict, right? Well, that's exactly what one woman is experiencing, and she's seeking advice on whether she's in the wrong for wanting to selectively reduce her pregnancy. Let's dive into her story and see what's going on. 🤰👶

A Surprise Pregnancy 🤯

yeahnotrealaccount | yeahnotrealaccount

The Childcare Dilemma 💸

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Warming Up to One, But Not Three 🤷

yeahnotrealaccount | yeahnotrealaccount

Reducing the Pregnancy 🚼

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Dad's Excitement vs Mom's Reality 🎢

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The Unequal Burden 😤

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Health Concerns 🏥

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A Secret Plan? 🤫

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Fear of Retaliation 😨

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A Tough Decision and a Family at Odds 😔

So, this mom-to-be is in quite the predicament. She's pregnant with triplets, but she and her husband originally agreed on having only two kids. Now, she wants to reduce the pregnancy to a single baby, but her husband is against it. He's excited about the idea of a large family, but she's concerned about the unequal burden of childcare and the health risks associated with carrying triplets. To make matters more complicated, she's considering selectively reducing and letting her husband believe they lost two of the babies naturally, out of fear he'll retaliate by telling her religious parents. Let's see what people have to say about this tense situation... 🍿

Personal experience with reduction, advises honesty and medical consultation. 👍

ardentmuse | ardentmuse

Hiding selective reduction from husband? YTA, honesty is key.

SoMuchMoreEagle | SoMuchMoreEagle

Reducing is her choice, but lying is a betrayal 😕

wildferalfun | wildferalfun

Redditor sympathizes until OP suggests deceiving husband. YTA.

CalvinBallxyz | CalvinBallxyz

An IVF triplet shares the lifelong health risks and disabilities.

lithiumfleur | lithiumfleur

Agreeing on two babies, not four. Reducing is reasonable. 👏

1028__ | 1028__

Honesty is key. Wanting to reduce? NAH. Lying about it? YTA 😬

TravelingBride | TravelingBride

Honesty is key. YTA if you lie, NTA if you're truthful. 😕

[deleted] | [deleted]

Woman wants to reduce triplets but husband disagrees. NTAs suggest honesty.

abadfoodfriend | abadfoodfriend

Seek medical advice and involve your doctor to convince your husband 👨‍👩‍👧, prioritize your mental health ❤️

fabulousautie | fabulousautie

Body autonomy matters. Would he want triplets if he carried?

allthatchacha | allthatchacha

Triplet mom warns against reducing without husband's consent 🚨

understandinghooman | understandinghooman

Pregnant with triplets, she wants to reduce for health reasons. Supportive comment.

overpregnant | overpregnant

NAH. Couple disagrees on number of kids. Lay out concerns gently 🙏

DataIsMyCopilot | DataIsMyCopilot

Compromise and seek professional help to resolve disagreement on pregnancy.

Yewnicorns | Yewnicorns

Pregnancy, a woman's choice. NTA for wanting to reduce.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Red flag alert! Reconsider having a family with this person 🚨

littlewoolhat | littlewoolhat

Controversial suggestion to abort all triplets, red flags in relationship.

SakuOtaku | SakuOtaku

Husband wants triplets, wife doesn't. Don't lie, talk it out. NAH

WorkingMomAndWife | WorkingMomAndWife

Honesty is key in a marriage, even with difficult decisions. 💎

[deleted] | [deleted]

OP's husband pressures her to have triplets, NTA for selective abortion.

Timeslip8888 | Timeslip8888

Compromise on 2, not 4. Your body, your decision 😊

corvidcastles | corvidcastles

Stand your ground! Your body, your choice. 💪

maria84julia | maria84julia

Father of twins empathizes with wife, but husband needs reality check 😍

Coffeineaddicted | Coffeineaddicted

Reduce to one for the best shot at a happy life 🙌

qneonkitty | qneonkitty

Honesty is key. Firmly set boundaries and prioritize your health. 👍

bluelightsonblkgirls | bluelightsonblkgirls

Pregnancy with triplets is risky. You decide, not your husband. 😱

magkind1 | magkind1

Counseling may help, but ultimately it's a couple's decision. 👨🏻‍👩🏻👨🏻‍👧🏻

1_Justbreakup | 1_Justbreakup

Marriage counseling needed for lying and snitching couple 🚫

SelfANew | SelfANew

Lying about reducing triplets? YTA according to this commenter.

LuciaBane | LuciaBane

Midwife advises seeking professional help for pregnancy disagreement

victhemaddestwife | victhemaddestwife

Putting your safety first - NTA comment with supportive tone 👍

parentheses_robustus | parentheses_robustus

Reducing triplets for safe pregnancy. Husband disagrees. NTA.

Freshman50000 | Freshman50000

Hubby disregards wife's welfare. NTa, your womb, your choice.

terra_terror | terra_terror

Concerns raised about potential reproductive abuse and safety in relationship.

scrimshandy | scrimshandy

Lying to husband about reducing triplets? YTA, don't do it 🙄

LuthwenJ | LuthwenJ

Debate over selective reduction, NAH but YTA for possible lie 🤔

teke367 | teke367

Husband's behavior makes lying justified according to commenter. 🤷

RidleyAteKirby | RidleyAteKirby

Honesty is the best policy to avoid trust issues later 👍

Meer_Kat713 | Meer_Kat713

Reducing triplets? NAH, but lying is wrong. Discuss with husband.

ImagineTheMammoth | ImagineTheMammoth

Pregnant woman wants to reduce triplets but husband disagrees 😬

tinkstrong | tinkstrong

Choosing between health and family: NTA's tough decision 😱

frimrussiawithlove85 | frimrussiawithlove85

Unfair expectations on the pregnant woman. 😑

[deleted] | [deleted]

User suggests counseling and adoption as options for reducing triplets. 👏

[deleted] | [deleted]

Avoid blackmailers at all costs! NTA for not wanting kids.

itsirrelevant | itsirrelevant

User calls out OP for lying to husband and disrespecting partnership 💔

NotAnnieBot | NotAnnieBot

Trust your gut and stick to your decision. Compromise means half happy 😐

coldwatereater | coldwatereater

Your body, your choice. Hubby has a say, but ultimately yours 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

It's her decision, but hiding it from her husband is wrong 😬

GarlicBread_Genocide | GarlicBread_Genocide

Child of selectively reduced pregnancy supports woman's decision to reduce.

meowkitty45 | meowkitty45

Honesty is key in deciding to reduce pregnancy. Don't sneak. 🙏

[deleted] | [deleted]

User believes OP is wrong for selective reduction and lying. YTA.

Spkpkcap | Spkpkcap

Mother's health and well-being should come first. 👏

blackday44 | blackday44

Lying to your husband about reducing triplets makes YWBTA.

Chewy52 | Chewy52

Prioritizing health over children is not being an a**hole. 🙏

xpngn | xpngn

Supportive comment suggests husband is a real jerk 😒

Winnimae | Winnimae

NTA. You get to choose who *you* support using *your* body. 😱

musiclovingcat | musiclovingcat

Deception in a marriage? Yikes! 🤔

[deleted] | [deleted]

Stand your ground! 🙌 NTA, do what's best for you.

rebirthofrad | rebirthofrad

Supportive comment encourages therapy and bodily autonomy. NTA. 👏

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA, break up if he can't respect your body autonomy 🙌

skatingdogs | skatingdogs

Woman asserts her right to choose in pregnancy, criticizes unsupportive husband.

TheRedOne608 | TheRedOne608

The ethical dilemma of selective reduction in modern medicine 😱

robinhoodoftheworld | robinhoodoftheworld

Empowering support for a difficult decision. 🤝💪

[deleted] | [deleted]

Empathetic reply to husband's disregard for wife's body autonomy. 👏

laliespo | laliespo

Pregnancy expectations and work-life balance, NTA's perspective.

absinthe00 | absinthe00

Trust issues and bodily autonomy in pregnancy. NTA.

GoldHondaDrivers | GoldHondaDrivers

Selective reduction is NTA, but telling husband may cause trouble 🤔

Master-Manipulation | Master-Manipulation

Empathetic comment supporting woman's right to choose. 👏

shapeherder | shapeherder

User questions why commenter wants more kids with toxic husband 🤔

Bradbury28 | Bradbury28

Seek counseling to decide if you want a controlling husband 🙏

AliceInWeirdoland | AliceInWeirdoland

Pro-choice commenter supports woman's decision on reducing triplets. 👏

CozmicOwl16 | CozmicOwl16

Choosing to reduce is her decision, husband should respect it 👏

ElizaCat9 | ElizaCat9

A triplet's cautionary tale about the risks of carrying triplets 😬

sluttypidge | sluttypidge

NTA for wanting to reduce, but lying to your husband is wrong 🚫

Musashi10000 | Musashi10000

NAH for wanting to reduce, but YTA if you lie. Seek therapy.

TheBlushJournal | TheBlushJournal

Stand your ground! Your health comes first 💪

[deleted] | [deleted]

Protecting your body is important. NTA for lying to husband 🙏

Goatlessly | Goatlessly

Woman wants selective reduction but lied to husband. YTA.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Supportive comment encourages pregnant woman to prioritize her own needs. 👏

dembowthennow | dembowthennow

Communication is key in marriage. Counseling may help resolve disagreements 👍

btrf1ythorn | btrf1ythorn

Compromise with your partner and seek therapy, not Reddit advice 👍

studentd3bt | studentd3bt

NTA: Having unwanted triplets would be the worst outcome 😱

270426LWabc | 270426LWabc

Husband reneges on compromise, threatens childcare, values wife's career less. NTA 💪

rationalomega | rationalomega

Abortion is her choice, but lying makes her TA 😠

ImRelatedToYou | ImRelatedToYou

Selective reduction and lying to spouse makes YTA 😒

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