Boyfriend Pushes Girlfriend to Learn Basic Skills: Heartless or Hero? 😲

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We all want our partners to be independent and capable of handling life's challenges, right? But sometimes, it can be tough to strike the right balance between encouraging growth and being too pushy. One man found himself in the hot seat after pushing his girlfriend to learn basic life skills. The question is, did he go too far? Let's dive into the story and find out. 🤷‍♀️

A Lesson from the Past 💔

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The Legend of a Mother 🙌

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Enter the Girlfriend 🎓

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A Lack of Basic Skills 😳

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Asking for Help or Dodging Responsibility? 🤔

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Car Trouble 🚗

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Teaching Moment Gone Wrong 😐

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No Interest, No Oil 🚫

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Holiday Disaster 🌴

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Expired Passport, Missed Trip 😢

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The Blame Game Begins 🤬

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Airport Abandonment? ✈️

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The 20-Minute Train Ride 🚆

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Should He Have Double-Checked? 🧐

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Not Wasting Money 💸

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Frustration and Fear of Repeating History 😩

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The Great Debate: Encouragement or Overbearing? 🥺

Our storyteller, inspired by his mother's resilience, wants his girlfriend to be self-sufficient and capable. However, his girlfriend seems to lack basic life skills and often relies on others to handle her responsibilities. After a series of frustrating incidents, including a car breakdown and a missed holiday due to an expired passport, the couple finds themselves at odds. Was our protagonist too harsh in his approach, or is his girlfriend's lack of independence a genuine concern? Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🍿

Empowering or overbearing? NTA encourages girlfriend to learn basic skills. 💪

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Partner wants an adult not a child. NTA 👍

vodka_philosophy | vodka_philosophy

NTA encourages girlfriend to learn basic skills, not controlling. 👍


Brazilian commenter sympathizes with boyfriend's frustration with lazy girlfriend 👏

randomfirefly | randomfirefly

User calls out OP for lack of respect towards girlfriend 😒

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Boyfriend expects basic responsibility, NTA 👏

NomadofExile | NomadofExile

NTA for pushing girlfriend to learn basic skills. Independence matters.

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NTA suggests finding a new GF who is not an extra child 🙅

SomeoneYouDontKnow70 | SomeoneYouDontKnow70

Enabling girlfriend's helplessness: ESH. Relationship like parents' doomed marriage.

womp-womp-rats | womp-womp-rats

Partner refuses to learn basic skills, NTA for pushing her. 👏

widefeetwelcome | widefeetwelcome

NTA pushes girlfriend to learn basic skills, but why date 2 years?

lyraterra | lyraterra

Helping your partner with basic skills: NAH, but communicate better 👍

FidgetyGidget | FidgetyGidget

Partner's mistakes not necessarily proof of laziness or dependence. 🤔

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User thinks both parties are at fault for lack of responsibility.

texasbunny13 | texasbunny13

Pushing someone to change without respect is not heroic 🤷‍♀️

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Not everyone needs to be strong and independent. 🙏

Essyria | Essyria

NTA calls out girlfriend's irresponsible behavior ruining trip 🙄

Vonnybon | Vonnybon

ESH, but girlfriend's blame-shifting and learned helplessness are relationship killers.

seeashbashrun | seeashbashrun

User calls out OP for blaming girlfriend, deems them the a**hole.

flying_fuck | flying_fuck

User calls out OP for seeking validation to be harsh. YTA.

jcukier | jcukier

Partner not parent: NTA frustrated with girlfriend's immaturity 🙄

shes-a-princess | shes-a-princess

Before judging, consider if girlfriend was raised with traditional skills. 🤔

negligenceperse | negligenceperse

Partner lacks basic skills, but OP left without helping. ESH 😑

cowsaysmeow77 | cowsaysmeow77

Sassy reply shuts down blaming boyfriend. 💯

groveunder | groveunder

Airport drama reveals couple's communication issues. ESH needs counseling.

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Long distance relationship woes 😢

OldPolishProverb | OldPolishProverb

Raising someone to be helpless is not their fault. NAH.

Designer_Strike | Designer_Strike

NTA reminds girlfriend to take accountability for herself 👏

rouren14789 | rouren14789

Boyfriend pushes girlfriend to learn basic skills, NTA comment suggests discussion.

letstrythisagain30 | letstrythisagain30

NAH. Empathetic comment about basic skills and compatibility. 🙏

easthighwildcatfan1 | easthighwildcatfan1

Partner or child? NTA suggests rethinking relationship. 🤔

LittleBird35 | LittleBird35

NTA comment suggests leaving immature partner, with a dash of sass.

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NTA commenter shares personal experience and advises leaving toxic relationship.

kuraim | kuraim

Encouraging but realistic advice for a dependent partner. 👍

ebernal13 | ebernal13

NTA. Harsh but honest advice to move on from narcissistic GF 👍

WorldWideJake | WorldWideJake

NTA. Google is free. No excuse for a grown a** human.

mutherofdoggos | mutherofdoggos

Encouraging but with a suggestion for self-reflection and improvement. 👍

lionessrampant25 | lionessrampant25

User suggests boyfriend is trying to replicate his mother's success 🤔

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NTA. Wife's lack of basic skills hurting marriage and causing foreclosure. 😕


NTA, but tough love may lead to a breakup 😞

Minalexiss | Minalexiss

NTA calls out boyfriend for pushing girlfriend to learn skills.

brazentory | brazentory

NTA. Girlfriend blames boyfriend for her mistakes, needs to grow up 😒

Comfortable-Coconut | Comfortable-Coconut

Ex-boyfriend's irresponsibility led to ticket. NTA for not babysitting.

oxalis_rex1 | oxalis_rex1

Partner refuses to learn basic skills, commenter advises breakup 💔

torpidGilliver | torpidGilliver

Partner's lack of basic skills causing resentment. NTA for ending.

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NTA calls out lazy behavior, frustrating but justified 😒

arosia0401 | arosia0401

Encouraging self-sufficiency in a relationship is important 👍

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Being an only child can affect one's independence and confidence. NTA.

Count2Zero | Count2Zero

NTA comment calls out functional incompetence with humor 😂

SilverCityStreet | SilverCityStreet

Toxic relationship? Comment suggests finding a sugar daddy instead. 🤷

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Is the girlfriend lazy or is the boyfriend too pushy? 🤔

sunshinechime1 | sunshinechime1

User shares experience with a man who needed constant mothering. NTA

delightedtomeetu2 | delightedtomeetu2

Friend shares experience with a dependent partner, supports boyfriend's actions. 👍

winelicker | winelicker

NTA pushes girlfriend to learn basic skills. Tough love or heartless?

Icy_Hippo | Icy_Hippo

Girlfriend needs tough love to learn basic skills. NTA.

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Learning basic skills is crucial for survival 👍

dabarwmo | dabarwmo

Partner pushes for basic skills, commenter says NTA. 👍

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Is the girlfriend being lazy or helpless? 🤔

ruinedbymovies | ruinedbymovies

NTA encourages girlfriend to learn basic skills, admires independence. 💪

RubioPaarmann | RubioPaarmann

NTA comment: Frustration with partner's lack of common sense 😑

kissalvoe | kissalvoe

NTA encourages girlfriend to learn basic skills, sparks debate.

boxing_coffee | boxing_coffee

NTA thinks girlfriend is lazy and lying about basic skills. 🤔

bicockandcigarettes | bicockandcigarettes

Girlfriend lied about knowing basic skills and refuses to learn. NTA.

whenisleep | whenisleep

Partner pushing basic skills - NTA, but consider future compatibility. 🤔

PrettyLyttlePsycho | PrettyLyttlePsycho

Partner's tough love approach to basic skills sparks debate.

zinger301 | zinger301

NTA encourages girlfriend to learn basic skills to function independently.

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NTA suggests communication and self-reflection for relationship success.

tap2rage | tap2rage

Savage breakup advice for girlfriend who won't learn basic skills 👍

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Teaching independence is crucial. Enabling behavior is not helpful. 👍

Christopher_2227 | Christopher_2227

Boyfriend not responsible for girlfriend's lack of basic skills. NTA. 👍

diemmzzie | diemmzzie

Learning basic skills is important, but pushing too hard is wrong 😕

RiotGrrr1 | RiotGrrr1

Encouraging independence in a partner: NTA or NAH? 🤔

LSDanddaydreams | LSDanddaydreams

NTA encourages basic life skills in college students. 💪

RudyRoo2017 | RudyRoo2017

NTA: Tough love or too harsh? Commenter defends pushing girlfriend.

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