Sister Told to Get Over Stillbirth: Heartless or Justified? 😲

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Sibling rivalries can be intense, but sometimes they can cross a line. In this story, a woman struggles with her sister's constant reminders of a stillbirth that happened ten years ago. While she sympathizes with her sister's pain, she can't help but feel frustrated, especially since she's been told she's infertile. When the topic overshadows a family dinner, she finally speaks up, but was it the right thing to do? 🤷‍♀️

Sisterly Struggles 👭

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Family Tragedy 🥺

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A Decade Later ⏰

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Attention-Seeking Behavior? 🧐

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Fertility Struggles 😔

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Family Gathering 🍽️

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Cooking Incident 🔥

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Dinner Conversation 🗣️

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Enough is Enough 😤

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Tears and Anger 😢

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Heartless Comment or Necessary Reality Check? 🤷‍♀️

After years of her sister constantly bringing up her stillbirth, our protagonist finally snaps during a family dinner. She suggests her sister should be grateful for her five healthy children and seek therapy to move on. This leads to tears, anger, and even her own husband saying it was uncalled for. But is she really the bad guy here, or was it time for a reality check? Let's dive into the internet's top reactions to this emotional debacle... 💬

Infertility vs. Stillbirth: Whose Pain is Greater? ESH

Dry-Expression | Dry-Expression

Balancing grief and family can be tough. Sometimes you lose.

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Opinion: sister needs help, not to use stillbirth as excuse. 🙏

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Grief should not be a competition. ESH for unhealthy coping.

anchovie_macncheese | anchovie_macncheese

NTA commenter expresses concern for surviving children's well-being ❤️

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Tough love or too harsh? NTA suggests therapy for sister's unhealthy coping.

theghostie7 | theghostie7

NTA suggests therapy for sister who can't move on. 🙌

yikes30318 | yikes30318

ESH, but therapy may help her move forward. 🙏

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Parenting woes and frustration lead to conflict. 🤷‍♀️

katier333 | katier333

Losing a child is a lifelong pain, never tell someone to 'get over it' 😢

BabyYoda4206969 | BabyYoda4206969

NTA stands up for sister's grief and prioritizing living children. 👏

Sashby02 | Sashby02

Sister neglects 5 healthy kids over stillbirth for 10 years. ESH.

SweetCakeShy | SweetCakeShy

ESH, but empathy is needed. Therapy could help.

Vena_Mala | Vena_Mala

NTA commenter sympathizes with OP's frustration towards sister's behavior.

canofwormss61 | canofwormss61

NTA suggests sister needs therapy, is using stillbirth as excuse. 😕

milky_eyed | milky_eyed

Sister's stillbirth: Both parties at fault for lack of empathy. 🤷‍♀️

liv9999 | liv9999

User suggests empathy for sister, but disagrees with ESA's approach. 🙂

spudlord94 | spudlord94

NTA, but delivery could have been better. Fixation unhealthy. 😔

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Family history of stillbirth obsession, sister's behavior unclear 🤔

Advanced_Lobster | Advanced_Lobster

Mixed reactions to comment on causing harm after hurtful words 🤔

littleski5 | littleski5

ESH but sister needs therapy to move on 😷

ritan7471 | ritan7471

Counseling for everyone. Not wanting to hear about stillborn child.

Flipnsip | Flipnsip

Both parties need empathy and communication to move forward. 👥

HistoricalQuail | HistoricalQuail

Navigating grief: Understanding vs. exhaustion 😢

Desrep2 | Desrep2

Grieving is reasonable, but feelings fade over time. Therapy recommended. 🙏

greyskin_turtle | greyskin_turtle

Grief is personal, but dwelling on it isn't an excuse. 😔

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A heartfelt comment about stillbirth and PTSD. 💔

carlitos_segway | carlitos_segway

Struggling with infertility and annoyed by others' grief. 😑

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ESH, commenter agrees with OP's point but criticizes delivery.

duefho93 | duefho93

Loss of a child is never easy. Counseling may help.

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Balancing grief and moving forward is a delicate process. 💜

ManicInnkeeper | ManicInnkeeper

Infertility doesn't justify invalidating sister's stillbirth, therapy recommended. 😕

Danxoln | Danxoln

Sister told to get over stillbirth, but commenters say ESH. YTA for being heartless, but sister is also an AH for using her trauma as an excuse for everything. 💔

Alien-Innit | Alien-Innit

Grieving mother shares experience, advises therapy for SIL. YTA.

rbaltimore | rbaltimore

ESH commenter advises communication for sensitive issues to avoid resentment.

unaotradesechable | unaotradesechable

Infertility and pregnancy loss are both types of grief. 😢

MrsLoki12Odin | MrsLoki12Odin

Insensitive comment about stillbirth, but OP also needs therapy. 😔

An_Asexual_Weeb | An_Asexual_Weeb

Grief doesn't have an expiration date 😢 ESH for gatekeeping.

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ESH. Valid feelings, but real sh*tty way of expressing them. Sister TA for attention-seeking behavior.

ambut | ambut

Insensitive comment sparks debate on grief and accountability. 🤔

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ESH. Commenter acknowledges sister might be milking it, but advises OP to apologize for insensitivity and approach the situation with kindness. 🙏

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Insensitive sister complains about stillbirth to infertile sibling. ESH.

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ESH - Mean comment, better to talk out of concern instead 😐

MichelleInMpls | MichelleInMpls

NTA suggests sister needs help grieving, but with compassion. 🙏

AsiComoTeGusta | AsiComoTeGusta

Redditor calls out commenter for being TA in insensitive situation. 😱

Affectionate-Hat-57 | Affectionate-Hat-57

Grief is personal but focusing on the dead is ultimately selfish. NTA.

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Navigating grief and jealousy with empathy and understanding. 💜

lamb6814 | lamb6814

Surviving children affected by mother's unresolved grief? 😢

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Empathetic reply suggests therapy for both parties. 👏

MarbCart | MarbCart

User defends sister, calls out commenter's lack of empathy. 😒

dmbeeez | dmbeeez

Blaming sister for opening up about feelings, YTA. Therapy recommended.

littleguavvva | littleguavvva

Managing feelings after stillbirth: ESH needs counseling and consideration 🙏

ominoke | ominoke

Compartmentalize infertility and apologize to each other for coping mechanisms. ESH.

whats_a_bylaw | whats_a_bylaw

Approach to stillbirth conversation was wrong, therapy recommended. ESH 🙏

JAvantGartist | JAvantGartist

Sibling rivalry or genuine insensitivity? Let's clear the air 😊

BackSeatOfTheBus | BackSeatOfTheBus

Grieving sister needs therapy but telling her to 'get over it' was hurtful. ESH 😔

help_me_im_just_egg | help_me_im_just_egg

Grieving still affects even after years. Suggest therapy intervention. 😢

MikaleaPaige | MikaleaPaige

A blunt response to a manipulative sister. ESH.

XAltedOne | XAltedOne

Op and sister both have room for improvement. 😕

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Insensitive comment sparks ESH judgment and advice for coping.

kelcity | kelcity

Sibling conflict over stillbirth and infertility, ESH verdict. 😐

thinkofanumber---69 | thinkofanumber---69

Sibling conflict over stillbirth and manipulation. ESH. 🤷‍♂️

IAmAllOfTheSith | IAmAllOfTheSith

Family enables sister to use stillbirth as excuse. ESH.

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Insensitive comment suggests therapy but tells grieving sister to 'get over' stillbirth 😕

goldenbellaboo | goldenbellaboo

Losing a child is a pain that never goes away 😢

ConcealedKnuckles | ConcealedKnuckles

Grief shouldn't impact others, but sister may be addicted to sympathy 😕

UristMcD | UristMcD

Advice on repairing relationship with sister after stillbirth conflict. 👥

Joysins | Joysins

Bias writer called out for limiting sister's grief process. YTA. 😑

Everyonecallsmenice | Everyonecallsmenice

Sister accused of seeking attention for stillbirth, NTA for OP.

u_can_try | u_can_try

Grief is not an excuse, but compassion goes a long way. 🙏

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Counseling can help process grief and emotions. 🙏

RN-B | RN-B

Grief is everlasting: a heart-wrenching reminder 💔

duedamage111 | duedamage111

Grief messes with your mind, losing a baby is devastating 😢

nashamagirl99 | nashamagirl99

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