Picture this: You’re a hardworking dad who spends countless hours at work, and when you finally get some precious time at home, you’d rather spend it with your family and friends. But your wife, a stay-at-home mom and neighborhood social butterfly, keeps volunteering your handyman skills to fix the neighbors’ houses. What would you do? Well, one man finally had enough and told his wife to do it herself! Let’s dive into this story of boundaries, nosy neighbors, and one fed-up husband.
The Hardworking Dad ️

Overtime and Climbing the Ladder

The Stay-at-Home Mom

Nosy Neighbors and Handyman Requests

The Reluctant Handyman ️

Wife Volunteers His Time ⏰

Going Along with It…Once

Opening the Floodgate

The Last Straw

Family Time vs. Neighbor Requests

Wife Volunteers Him AGAIN

“Good Luck with That”

Upset Wife and Angry Neighbors

Standing His Ground

Silent Treatment and Panic

Is He in the Wrong for Refusing to Help? ♂️
So, our IT-working dad is fed up with his wife volunteering his time to fix the neighbors’ houses, especially when he wants to spend his limited free time with his family and friends. After repeatedly telling his wife not to volunteer him, he finally refuses to help the neighbors and tells her to do it herself. Now, she’s giving him the silent treatment and panicking because the neighbors are mad at her. But is he really in the wrong for standing his ground and wanting to prioritize his family? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Neighborly disputes escalate as wife volunteers husband’s time

Setting boundaries with a good heart

Neighborly dispute over voluntold time. NTA stands firm.

Prioritizing family time over pleasing neighbors. NTA
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Don’t be the neighborhood handyman. Your time matters too

When being a handyman becomes a neighborhood expectation
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Neighborly dispute resolved with a firm NTA and boundaries set

Neighborly disputes and spousal boundaries, NTA takes a stand.

Suggests wife should charge neighbors for husband’s handyman services

Neighborly disputes and marital boundaries. NTA, but communication is key.

Neighbor’s wife ignored terms, suggest good professionals. NTA.

NTA comment calls out people who can’t handle confrontation

Charge your wife an insanely high hourly rate for volunteering you

Prioritizing family over neighbors’ demands. Communicate with wife kindly.

Volunteering spouse’s time without consent is frustrating

NTA – Boundaries are important, don’t let others take advantage.

Setting boundaries with parents is important.

Neighbor’s wife volunteers his time, but NTA suggests a solution

Neighbor’s popularity shouldn’t be at your expense. NTA

Volunteering your partner’s time without consent is not cool

Wife enabling sexual harassment from creepy neighbors. NTA.

Helpful husband with a truck and trailer, lucky neighbors
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Setting boundaries with family for professional services.

Boundaries are important, NTA.

Respectful communication is key in relationships
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Neighborly disputes and the unpaid labor debate

NTA. Polite excuses exist. Don’t volunteer someone else’s time.

Creative solution for neighborly exchanges

Politely declining neighbor’s request, NTA handled it well

Neighbor’s entitlement to free labor questioned, wife’s actions criticized.

Pathological people pleaser sacrifices loved ones for acquaintances. NTA.

Setting boundaries is important. NTA for standing up for yourself.

Prioritizing spouse’s feelings over neighbors’ opinions. NTA.

Setting boundaries and suggesting therapy for spouse’s behavior. NTA

Neighborly disputes over volunteering spouse’s time. NTA.

Reader agrees with NTA verdict and recognizes story repetition.

NTA comment suggests wife’s behavior is unfair and exploitative

NTA. Suggests messaging neighbors to set boundaries and teach wife lesson.

Neighborly dispute: Man stands his ground after wife’s mistake.

NTA. Overworked husband deserves respect for his time and boundaries.

Neighbor refuses to help again; wife needs to stop volunteering.

Setting boundaries with neighbors and spouse. Respect personal time.

Neighborly advice: NTA for setting boundaries and encouraging self-advocacy

Sassy NTA comment suggests creative revenge on volunteering wife

Hens pecking around? NTA neighbor refuses to be henpecked.

Respectful rule for volunteering between partners. NTA

Wife volunteers husband’s time, pouts when confronted. NTA. ♂️

Setting boundaries and standing firm.

Wife volunteers husband’s time, commenter calls her an a**hole.

Learning to say no is important. NTA for setting boundaries.

NTA. A humorous reference to a related post.

Setting boundaries with neighbors. NTA for enforcing them.

Protective wife shuts down entitled mother’s request for husband’s help

No sympathy for wife who volunteers husband’s time. NTA.

Husband defends himself against wife’s volunteer work with politeness.

Man explains why he won’t help neighbors due to liability concerns.

NTA. Wife needs to stop volunteering your time without consent

Advice on dealing with people-pleasing spouse and setting boundaries.

Passive-aggressive comment suggests revenge chore for wife’s volunteering.

When your spouse volunteers you without asking

Woman respects husband’s time, suggests professional help for neighbors.

Struggling with saying no? You’re not alone.

Counseling can help your wife say no to people

Boundaries are important, NTA for not enabling wife’s mistake.

Neighborly favors or marital disrespect? NTA comment sparks debate.

Respectful NTA refuses to help neighbors after wife volunteers him

Neighborly duties? Not his problem. Wife needs to apologize

Software engineer relates to man’s struggle with saying no

Setting boundaries with neighbors, communication is key
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Learning to say no is important , NTA for setting boundaries

Neighbor refuses to help and stands up for himself.

Neighbor’s wife volunteers husband’s time, commenter suggests alternative solution.

Encouraging response to wife’s volunteering with a work-life balance suggestion.
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NTA calls out wife’s objectification and suggests framing for understanding.

Partner refuses to help neighbors, comment suggests humorous solution.
