"I'm Sending Him to a Nursing Home!" Son's BRUTAL💔 Vow About Disabled Sibling

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🤔 Buckle up, folks, because we've got a doozy of a family drama on our hands! 😳 Meet our protagonist, a 32-year-old man caught between a rock and a hard place. 🪨 On one side, his severely disabled brother who needs lifelong care. 🦽 On the other, his own dreams of starting a family and living freely. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 His parents have been hinting that he should take over caregiving duties, but he's not having it. 🙅‍♂️ Things came to a head during a recent Zoom call, and let's just say... it didn't end well. 😬 Get ready for a wild ride of emotions, tough decisions, and family conflict! 🎢

😔 A Heartbreaking Family Dilemma

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💔 Drew's Lifelong Struggle

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🧠 The Cognitive Abilities of a Child

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😢 A Life Wasted Away

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👨‍👩‍👦 Parents Devoted to Drew's Care

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🌉 Trying to Reconnect

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🏡 The Subtle Expectation

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🙅‍♂️ Completely Opposed to the Idea

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🗣️ Parents Keep Pushing

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👴👵 Parents Are Getting Older

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🏙️ Considering a Move

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😤 Fed Up with Their Antics

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😥 The Guilt Trip

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🏚️ The Harsh Truth

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😡 Parents Were FURIOUS

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🤷‍♂️ Is It Fair?

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🆓 Just Want to Live Freely

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📞 Hung Up Mid-Explanation

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💬 Wife Agrees with the Message

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😱 Shocking Ultimatum: "I'm Sending My Brother to a Nursing Home!" 😲

Well, well, well... looks like our protagonist reached his breaking point! 🤯 After years of his parents subtly pushing him to take over caregiving duties for his disabled brother, he finally snapped during a Zoom call. 📞💥 In a moment of frustration, he dropped a bombshell: "The day after you die, I'm sending Drew to a nursing home and I'll never visit him again." 😲 Yikes, talk about harsh! 😬 His parents were absolutely FURIOUS, calling his comments "extremely insensitive" and "cruel." 😡 But our guy stood his ground, arguing that it wouldn't be fair to force this lifelong responsibility on him. 🤷‍♂️ He just wants to live his life freely, you know? 🆓 The call ended abruptly, with his parents hanging up mid-explanation. 📞👋 Now, he's turning to the internet for judgment. 🌐👨‍⚖️ Let's see what the online world has to say about this explosive family drama! 💥

A commenter calls out OP for cruel comments about disabled sibling. ESH

Dszquphsbnt | Dszquphsbnt

ESH but you have a point. Facility care is responsible. 🙏

stitchinthyme9 | stitchinthyme9

Phrase your concerns delicately to avoid hurting your parents' feelings 💔

Fallout4Addict | Fallout4Addict

User calls out commenter for being cruel towards disabled sibling

greenseraphima | greenseraphima

NTA for not wanting to care for disabled sibling, but YTA for the way it was said. ESH.

irisshadow | irisshadow

YTA for vowing to never check up on your disabled sibling 💔

ol_miss_ana | ol_miss_ana

Don't be guilt-tripped into being a caretaker. #NTA 🙏

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Family conflict: Commenter suggests an open dialogue for better solutions 💬

Dr_Poopski | Dr_Poopski

Not your responsibility to care for disabled sibling. #NTA 👍

alexisleefoster | alexisleefoster

Cruelty to your disabled brother is not acceptable 🤨

612marion | 612marion

OP establishes boundaries and stands up for family's well-being. 💪

lelouchgirl07 | lelouchgirl07

Dumping your disabled sibling in a nursing home and never visiting? YTA 💔

hereforwow | hereforwow

Toxic grooming, neglect, and unfair expectations. NTA.

ReaffirmReality | ReaffirmReality

Leaving disabled sibling in qualified care not a**hole move 💚

ChocolateChipShame | ChocolateChipShame

Controversial stance on disabled sibling's care sparks debate

Squish_the_android | Squish_the_android

Parents didn't plan for disabled sibling's care, ESH for wording.

lexisplays | lexisplays

Caring for severely mentally disabled family members is not easy 💔

bella0520 | bella0520

Being honest was the only way to give them a wake-up call. NTA 👍

happy-gofuckyourself | happy-gofuckyourself

NTA. Taking care of disabled sibling not your responsibility. 👍

mileaf | mileaf

Parent of disabled child shares their fear of leaving them vulnerable. ESH.

ElizabethHiems | ElizabethHiems

NTA. Commenter agrees that the brother is not obligated to take care of his disabled sibling and commends him for standing up for himself. 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Family struggles to care for disabled sibling. NAH/ESH.

justsippingteahere | justsippingteahere

Compassionate response to a difficult family situation ❤

rtfcandlearntherules | rtfcandlearntherules

Big brother not caregiver for disabled sibling. NTA, but frustrated.

itsnotbritneybitch | itsnotbritneybitch

NTA. Family prioritizing one son over the other is abusive. 🚫

Viperbunny | Viperbunny

NTA for not wanting to care for your disabled sibling, but YTA for saying you'd never visit him. 🤔

reallynah75 | reallynah75

Harsh but fair judgement on family dynamics and responsibility 😬

poltyy | poltyy

Cruel comment earns YTA judgment, but valid refusal to care.

lh123456789 | lh123456789

NTA for refusing to uproot your life to parent sibling.

JayK289 | JayK289

Choosing a nursing home for a disabled sibling. NTA.

PuffyPinkCow1 | PuffyPinkCow1

Criticizing parents for taking you for granted is understandable, but abandoning your brother in a nursing home without any visits is a harsh move. ESH.

Significant_Risk | Significant_Risk

User empathizes with siblings of severely handicapped children.

wind-river7 | wind-river7

NTA: Commenter sympathizes with OP's decision to not take in disabled sibling.

Mewshimyo | Mewshimyo

NTA. Prioritized sibling, but OP won't be parents' backup plan 👍

Netherese_Nomad | Netherese_Nomad

Mixed opinions on family responsibilities and delivery of message. ESH.

TheMoralBitch | TheMoralBitch

Honesty is the best policy 👍

LibrarianFish | LibrarianFish

Family pressure to care for disabled sibling is unfair. #NTA

WampireKitt3n | WampireKitt3n

Consider better alternatives than nursing homes for disabled siblings. 👍

Ragnor144 | Ragnor144

NTA- You're not responsible for your disabled sibling. 💪

xHugoBoss | xHugoBoss

Caring for a disabled sibling is noble, but not a moral obligation 💪

guriboysf | guriboysf

Compassionate comment about disabled sibling; criticizing the son's harsh vow. 😢

dtjnder1 | dtjnder1

Sibling shouldn't be expected to take care of disabled sibling. NTA 👏

MaggieAnni | MaggieAnni

NTA. Commenter shares personal experience and opinion on disability.

Firethorn101 | Firethorn101

NTA for setting boundaries with parents about disabled sibling.

wrong_tr0users | wrong_tr0users

NTA, but could have handled the situation more tactfully. 🤔

AlgaroSensei | AlgaroSensei

Parent of two sons shares perspective on sending disabled child to nursing home

Jamielei | Jamielei

NTA, but watch the language. You're right, don't let others sway you.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Caring for a disabled sibling can be difficult, but communicate kindly. 💕

DisabledSecretPolice | DisabledSecretPolice

Sibling with disability: NTA for considering nursing home. Shitty situation 💔

fireextinquisher | fireextinquisher

The commenter sympathizes with the difficult situation but calls out the resentment towards the disabled sibling and lack of concern for their future. ESH

Sashleeyy | Sashleeyy

Compassion lacking: OP and parents are all assholes. 💩

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💔 YTA comment receives advice on caring for disabled sibling.

nannylive | nannylive

Caring for disabled siblings: Personal responsibility vs. nursing homes. ESH.

Urkelxgrue | Urkelxgrue

Compassionate reply defends placing disabled sibling in nursing home. NTA ❤️

Ethan0307 | Ethan0307

Sibling conflict escalates with cruel vow to abandon disabled brother.

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Caregiving is tough, but YTA for cruelly inflicting maximum pain 😕

Terrific_Raccoon | Terrific_Raccoon

Mixed feelings on OP and parents, but consider being involved.

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Caring for elderly relatives can be challenging. NTA for wanting boundaries 👏

RubioPaarmann | RubioPaarmann

Being polite won't work- it's time to be brutally honest. 💔

DeathBahamutXXX | DeathBahamutXXX

ESH. Brother's care, language unnecessary. Parents have expectations. 💬

cate2283 | cate2283

Caring for a disabled family member isn't easy, but NTA for seeking help 💙

[deleted] | [deleted]

Parental pressure on siblings with disabled siblings can be overwhelming 😔

[deleted] | [deleted]

It's not your responsibility to care for your disabled sibling 💪

Eponarose | Eponarose

Honesty is key! 🗝️ NTA for having a difficult conversation.

Samsamsamadam | Samsamsamadam

Sibling sent to nursing home, commenter relates and gives NAH judgment.

6thMagrathea | 6thMagrathea

Parents force sibling care, but son's comment was cruel 😢

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Navigating disabilities and sibling relationships with empathy 💜

NikNakMuay | NikNakMuay

Take a deep breath and explain your feelings calmly 🙏

Robokat_Brutus | Robokat_Brutus

NTA. It's not your responsibility to care for him. 🤷‍♂️

alyssajade23 | alyssajade23

Choosing to send disabled sibling to nursing home. NTA.

CeeGeeWhy | CeeGeeWhy

Caring for a disabled adult is a huge burden, NTA 👍

BergJatte79 | BergJatte79

Caring for disabled sibling is tough, but abandoning them is heartless. ☹️

fkansh | fkansh

Prioritizing family doesn't make you heartless ❤️. Reassure your parents.

katherinemma987 | katherinemma987

OP is justified but ESH for expecting them to drop everything

Dhannah22 | Dhannah22

NTA. It's understandable to not want to care for Drew 💔

xcrunner2019 | xcrunner2019

Cruelty is never okay. Set boundaries and have a plan.

RedditDK2 | RedditDK2

Cruel comment but no obligation to be hands-on caregiver. ESH 🤷‍♀️

sheramom4 | sheramom4

Sibling refuses to take care of disabled brother, but parents need a plan 🤔

tmchd | tmchd

Support for NTA making tough but necessary decision 💪

damwookie | damwookie

You're not obligated to care for your disabled sibling 💪

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA. Commenter sympathizes with OP and doubts his intentions.

MysticDragon14 | MysticDragon14

NTA but use kinder words. Parents shouldn't hinder your potential.

[deleted] | [deleted]

A caregiver suggests finding a nice home for Drew. 🙏

YouAreNotMyRobot | YouAreNotMyRobot

Caring for a disabled sibling is not always black and white. 💭

elizabethmegan | elizabethmegan

NTA with a special needs perspective and a reasonable approach 👍

icky-chu | icky-chu

Balancing empathy and resentment while questioning quality of life. 😕

SaraMarsh245 | SaraMarsh245

Setting up a revocable trust can ease the burden financially 💰

CrazyCarl1986 | CrazyCarl1986

Redditor calls out lack of empathy in sibling's vow 🙄

ejmci | ejmci

Sibling of disabled person shares their experience and gives advice.

VanillaClay | VanillaClay

💔Threatening to abandon family is never okay, even in frustration.

lolaboats | lolaboats

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