Caught in the Middle: Love, Duty, and an Unexpected Caregiver Dilemma 😱💔

Diply Social Team
Diply | Diply

Imagine stepping into a relationship filled with love, only to find yourself in the midst of an emotional rollercoaster that tests the very fabric of your commitment. 🎢💑 This is the story of a woman who thought she was signing up for a partnership, but ended up facing a life-changing decision that would not only impact her relationship but her day-to-day life. As we dive into this tale, remember, not all love stories are straightforward, and sometimes, they come with responsibilities that we never anticipated. 🤯💔 Let's explore this heart-wrenching dilemma together.

A Love Story with a Twist 🌀❤️

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First Impressions and Unexpected Realities 😲

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A Dinner to Remember 🍽️😢

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Change of Plans 🔄🏠

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The Proposal That Changed Everything 💼👨‍👩‍👦

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A Tough Decision 🤷‍♀️💻

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Taking a Step Back 🚶‍♀️🏠

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The Heart of the Matter 💔🤔

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Love vs. Responsibility: A Modern Dilemma 🤷‍♀️💘

In a world where love often finds itself entangled with unforeseen responsibilities, our protagonist faces a decision that could redefine her relationship and her life. 😕👫 With her boyfriend's request putting her in a position she never anticipated, the line between being supportive and preserving one's own sanity becomes blurred. Is she justified in stepping back, or does love demand more from us than we're sometimes willing to give? 💬💔 As we ponder this modern-day quandary, let's dive into the whirlwind of opinions swirling around this emotional saga. 🌪️🗨️

Unilateral decision-making? Not cool. NTA for setting boundaries. 👍

rmm035 | rmm035

Don't sacrifice your career for your boyfriend's brother 🙏

VioletSkyeDreams | VioletSkyeDreams

NTA. BF should not have voluntold you to be caregiver 😑

Maleficent_Ad_3958 | Maleficent_Ad_3958

Partner's brother with disability: NTA for not becoming caregiver.

Maelienydd_Cymru | Maelienydd_Cymru

NTA, caring for an adult with special needs is not your obligation. It's a watershed moment for your relationship, but your safety comes first. 😱

rapt2right | rapt2right

Don't let anyone guilt you into being an unexpected caregiver. 🙏

EvocativeEnigma | EvocativeEnigma

Accusations of lying and guilt-tripping in caregiver dilemma. 😳

Fit-Distribution-252 | Fit-Distribution-252

Hilarious response to a tough situation, with a NTA verdict.

Suprflyyy | Suprflyyy

Partner expects free labor for his brother's care. NTA.


Sibling's duty to care for autistic brother questioned. NTA. 👏


Early caregiving in a relationship: NTA, career first 🙌

galacticbackhoe | galacticbackhoe

Choosing self-care over a year-long relationship 👍

Gopnik_Luigi | Gopnik_Luigi

Stand your ground and prioritize your work. NTA 👏

Disastrogirl | Disastrogirl

Don't let him make his problem your problem 🙅🏼

terrapharma | terrapharma

BF asks GF to become primary caregiver, gets angry when declined. NTA

bamf1701 | bamf1701

Dodging a bullet 👌. NTA, it's not your responsibility to take care of his brother.

fbombmom_ | fbombmom_

Deciding whether to stay or leave when partner has caregiving obligation 🤔

IsThatMarcy | IsThatMarcy

Compassionate response to caregiving dilemma with a hint of guilt.

Logical-Dimension-18 | Logical-Dimension-18

NTA. A heartwarming story of finding the best care for family 😍

Jade_Echo | Jade_Echo

Setting boundaries: NTA for not taking on caregiver responsibility.

Jayelynn25 | Jayelynn25

NTA. BF's lack of planning left you in a bad spot 😠

First_Bumblebee_179 | First_Bumblebee_179

Brother wants OP to take care of sibling, NTA wins 👏

nosyfocker | nosyfocker

Don't let guilt push you into being a full-time caretaker 🙏

Nnd30 | Nnd30

Partner wanted caregiver role until faced with actual labor. NTA 👏

Inner_Goose4664 | Inner_Goose4664

Boyfriend expects full-time caregiving without discussion, NTA to leave 👍

KatEyes1990 | KatEyes1990

You're NTA for not wanting to be a caregiver 🙏

LovelyTina2218 | LovelyTina2218

Kudos for being upfront. Boyfriend is TA for passing responsibility. 💪

atked | atked

As an RN and Psych NP, commenter advises against taking on care. NTA 👍

jello2000 | jello2000

Don't let anyone volunteer you for a job you didn't sign up for! NTA 👏

Damn_Dutchman | Damn_Dutchman

Homecare nurse empathizes with commenter, advises against caregiver responsibility.

Vaunya | Vaunya

Boyfriend's brother, boyfriend's problem. NTA for saying no. 👍

Cocoasneeze | Cocoasneeze

NTA. Run, girl. Run. Boyfriend wants OP to care for his autistic brother.

Nerdsona | Nerdsona

NTA. Caring for his disabled brother is his parents' responsibility 👍

woodwitchofthewest | woodwitchofthewest

NTA, but run! Caregiving will ruin your health and relationship 😱

Piefaceofpieland | Piefaceofpieland

Working from home doesn't mean free childcare 👍

Techsupportvictim | Techsupportvictim

User defends OP's decision to not be a free caregiver. 💪

DecadentOrange | DecadentOrange

Break up with him, you deserve better 👌

Glittering-War-5748 | Glittering-War-5748

Volunteering someone to be a caregiver without asking? Not cool. 👎 NTA

MoonlitNightRain | MoonlitNightRain

Stand up for yourself! Don't let others make decisions for you. 🙅‍♀️

Bakecrazy | Bakecrazy

Refusing to be an unpaid caregiver for boyfriend's brother. NTA 👏

angsumnes | angsumnes

Taking care of a low-functioning adult is a full-time job 👨‍🍳. NTA for declining.

jemiiniii | jemiiniii

Managing autistic behavior is a specialized skill. NTA.

Harry_the_Dirty_Dog | Harry_the_Dirty_Dog

Balancing work and caregiving responsibilities. NTA for setting boundaries 👏

Artistic-Rich6465 | Artistic-Rich6465

BF volunteers OP to care for brother, NTA for refusing 👏

crystallz2000 | crystallz2000

Setting boundaries in a new relationship 👍

Pleasant-Tax8290 | Pleasant-Tax8290

Dating and moving in doesn't mean you're a caregiver. NTA 👏

IBeatHimAtChess | IBeatHimAtChess

NTA for refusing to become a caregiver. Red flag relationship 👍

ForestFlower13 | ForestFlower13

NTA. Caregiver burnout is serious and you're not obligated. 🙏

fancyandfab | fancyandfab

Dump the boyfriend; he wanted to use you. 💯

usernaym44 | usernaym44

Boyfriend expects unpaid caregiving while you work? 🤔 NTA.

Illustrious-Band-537 | Illustrious-Band-537

Love vs. Boundaries: Is this relationship worth reconsidering? 🤔

Listen_Mother | Listen_Mother

NTA. Commendable decision to move out. Viable solution suggested. 👍

No-Fun-8054 | No-Fun-8054

Facebook group SibNet for disabled siblings. NTA for OP.

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NTA. Suggest getting a trained carer for bf's brother 🙏

Solgatiger | Solgatiger

Choosing not to be a caregiver can be an act of kindness 🙌

DolceAzria | DolceAzria

Not wanting to care for non-autistic brother. NTA 👍

littlehappyfeets | littlehappyfeets

Boundaries are important. NTA for not taking on his responsibility.

OrangeHexagon90 | OrangeHexagon90

Beware the entitled man who doesn't ask, just expects 👍

happycoffeebean13 | happycoffeebean13

Did he expect you to be his brother's caregiver? 🤔

Ribbon- | Ribbon-

Dump the boyfriend 💔 NTA deserves better

StevesonOfStevesonia | StevesonOfStevesonia

Unfair to demand a sudden caregiver role for his brother. 😑

A-R-U | A-R-U

You're not the a**hole, but is this a dealbreaker? 🤔

Dapper-Wolverine-499 | Dapper-Wolverine-499

Setting boundaries: NTA can't be an unpaid babysitter 🙏

vrcraftauthor | vrcraftauthor

Compassionate response acknowledges limits of caregiving abilities 🙏

AussieBelgian | AussieBelgian

Caring for severely autistic people requires trained caregivers 🚨

SepoJansen | SepoJansen

Safety concerns with caring for autistic adult man. NTA.

littleln | littleln

Partner wants to pass caregiving responsibility to girlfriend. NTA.

Goaerne | Goaerne

Gender bias in caregiving. NTA has valid concerns. 👍

Both-Mud-4362 | Both-Mud-4362

User thinks OP is not the a**hole for not becoming full-time caregiver.

Negative_Shake1478 | Negative_Shake1478

Boyfriend prioritizes work and brother over girlfriend. Not cool 😑

Tricky_Radish | Tricky_Radish

Setting boundaries with family as a caregiver 🙌

vrcraftauthor | vrcraftauthor

Dating for 4 months and expected to be a full-time caregiver? NTA 👏

SigSauerPower320 | SigSauerPower320

NTA. Boyfriend's lack of planning and prioritizing work over yours.

mtngrl60 | mtngrl60

Red flags in the relationship, time to move on. 👋

pisa36 | pisa36

Don't feel guilty for not wanting to be a full-time caregiver 🙏


NTA. Tough love or part ways, it's going to be terrible.

geralt_wolf | geralt_wolf

Being a caregiver and working from home is not feasible. 💼❌ NTA for not being able to provide the care needed. 🙅‍♀️

mrsmmtotten | mrsmmtotten

Don't let him dump his responsibilities on you 💪🏻

YuugenEnsou | YuugenEnsou

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