It’s not uncommon for couples to have a bit of friendly competition, but what happens when it goes too far? In this story, a husband and wife working in the tech industry find themselves at odds over their respective careers and intelligence. The wife hasn’t received a promotion or proper raise in nearly two years, leading to an income imbalance between the couple. The husband, on the other hand, earns double what she does. This has sparked jealousy and tension, ultimately leading to a heated argument that may have crossed the line. Let’s dive into their story.
Same Industry, Different Paths ️

Income Imbalance

Jealousy Creeps In

Banter Gone Wrong

IQ Test Showdown

Unexpected Results

Hitting Below the Belt

Silent Treatment

A Marriage on Thin Ice ❄️
This tech couple’s friendly competition took a turn for the worse when the wife’s jealousy over their income imbalance led to a heated argument. After a series of IQ tests, the husband scored higher, resulting in the wife lashing out and hitting below the belt. In response, he called her a “dumb jealous b***h.” Now, she’s giving him the silent treatment and sleeping in a guest bedroom. While the husband feels somewhat justified, he can’t help but feel guilty for using her insecurities against her. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this intense situation…
NTA stands their ground in heated argument with partner.

Wife’s jealousy causes verbal abuse. NTA, get therapy or leave.

Gender bias in judgement of relationship issues. NTA.

“She sounds like she has issues.” – NTA comment

NTA. Have an honest discussion and determine if there’s more.

NTA verdict with a hint of sympathy for tech wife.

Wife’s jealousy pushes husband to breaking point. NTA wins.

Spouse’s jealousy and competitiveness requires therapy and counseling. NTA.

Partner’s toxic behavior leads to justified reaction. NTA

NTA. Woman bullies OP, crosses the line with dead mother insult. Couples therapy suggested.

Navigating jealousy and insults in a relationship. NTA verdict.

Partner’s jealousy at work leads to abusive behavior at home.

Supportive comment suggests therapy or divorce for jealous wife.

NTA for wanting to leave abusive partner, therapy not always solution

Wife’s jealousy is a red flag. Think twice before committing

Encouraging therapy for spouse with name-calling incident. NTA.

Partner’s behavior is not acceptable, seek counseling or leave
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Clapback at jealous partner who insulted and cried. NTA wins.

Blunt tech couple needs therapy and empathy, according to commenter.

Insults, belittling, and an IQ test gone wrong. ESH.

Insecurity and trauma should never be used as insults

Supportive comment defends against jealousy accusations with logical reasoning.

Jealousy in a marriage can be abusive and unhealthy.

NTA defends himself against sexist partner, gender bias highlighted

NTA. Red flags in income gap. Couple’s therapy recommended.

Insulting each other won’t solve your relationship problems ♂️. Both need to talk.

IQ test score competition is childish. Seek counseling.

NTA commenter advises therapy for spouse’s jealousy issues

IT worker defends OP and suggests wife seek help for insecurities

NTA defends against jealousy and superiority accusations
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Defending oneself with ad hominems: NTA or ESH?

NTA commenter defends against ‘anti-men’ modern feminism accusations.

Spouse’s jealousy and insults revealed in NTA comment

Defending oneself from hurtful comments doesn’t make you TA

NTA. Responding to an insult doesn’t make you an a**hole

Wife’s abuse pushed him to snap, NTA, marriage counseling recommended

Birth insult? NTA claps back at controllable behavior.

Leave before sunk cost fallacy takes over. NTA.

Defending oneself against insults is not being the bad guy

NTA. Devastatingly abusive relationship. Divorce her.

NTA claps back at immature partner, fair guest room arrangement

Spouse’s jealousy over income leads to toxic behavior. NTA.

NTA commenter advises counseling and job search for wife.

NTA. Commenter advises seeking therapy for partner’s escalating behavior.

Standing up to toxic behavior with a touch of sass

Encouraging response advocating for therapy and personal growth

NTA, but this relationship needs work. Brutal words hurt.

Relationship meltdown: From ballistic to black hole. NTA, breakup imminent.

Misdirected anger and lack of self-value, but NAH. Therapy needed.

Tech couple’s jealousy resolved with mutual celebration of achievements

Overcoming adversity and toxic relationships, a story of resilience

Spouse’s resentment turns into anger and contempt. NTA.

Reacting to toxic behavior doesn’t make you an a**hole
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Partner’s bullying crossed the line. NTA for reacting. Therapy recommended.

Couple’s workplace sexism leads to misguided blame and name-calling. ESH.

Addressing workplace issues is key to resolving tech couple’s jealousy.

NTA, management is harder than tech. My fiancé prefers less stress.

NTA comment defends OP and criticizes sub’s sexism

A woman in tech suggests addressing the salary gap with empathy

When jealousy takes over, everyone loses. ESH.

Red-handed! Commenter calls out fake IQ test story

User defends OP’s response to emotionally abusive spouse.

Using OP’s painful past to insult him? NTA. Therapy needed.

Spouse belittles intelligence and discounts success due to gender bias

Insecurities caused a normal reaction. Therapy and apology needed.

Partner’s jealousy turns ugly, commenter defends NTA with empathy.

Developing people skills is just as important as technical expertise

Insecurity and cruelty in a tech couple’s marriage ♀️

Advice for wife to switch companies every few years for pay

Gender bias leads to ugly jealousy, but ESH in situation.

NTA for tech couple’s jealousy turning ugly, counseling may worsen.

Is this marriage worth saving? Tough questions to ask

Savage comment shuts down salary jealousy with NTA judgment
