🤔 Is it Disrespectful to Avoid Pronouns for a Transgender Co-worker? 🌈

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Transitioning from one gender to another can be a challenging experience, both for the individual and for those around them. In a conservative industry, one person's attempt to adapt to a co-worker's transition has sparked a debate about whether avoiding gender-specific pronouns is disrespectful or a considerate way to avoid misgendering. 😕🌈

Meet Bob: A Brave Transition 💪

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Apologies in Advance 🙇

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Struggling with Pronouns 😣

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Bob's Patience 🙏

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A Unisex Name Solution? 🤔

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Confidence and Privacy 🤐

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Janet's Opinion 💬

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Sharing the Struggle 😅

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Disrespectful? 🤨

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Seeking Clarity 🧐

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Bob's Absence 🚶‍♂️

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The Verdict? ⚖️

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Edit: Thanks and Improvement 💡

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Future Pronoun Plans 📆

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Avoiding Pronouns: Disrespectful or Considerate? 🤷

Our protagonist struggles with using the correct pronouns for their recently-transitioned co-worker, Bob. In an effort to avoid misgendering, they decide to use Bob's name instead of pronouns. When another colleague, Janet, claims this is disrespectful, our protagonist is left questioning their approach. With Bob unavailable for clarification, the question remains: is avoiding pronouns a thoughtful gesture or a dismissal of Bob's journey? 🌈💭

Trans person approves avoiding pronouns, Janet is a tiny AH.

cyfermax | cyfermax

Using correct pronouns takes time, caring for them is important 👍

Datonecatladyukno | Datonecatladyukno

Practice using proper pronouns to avoid unintended disrespect. 👍

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Trans person explains importance of using correct pronouns at work. ✅

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Defending the use of Bob's name, NTA comment shuts down critic.

Adam_Bomb18 | Adam_Bomb18

Making an effort to use correct pronouns is important. NAH.

JackNotName | JackNotName

Respecting pronouns is important, but Janet is creating unnecessary drama. 🤷

maxhooker | maxhooker

Supportive coworker adjusts to trans colleague's pronouns, offers advice for OP.

patchy_doll | patchy_doll

Using someone's preferred name isn't disrespectful. Just ask Bob! 👍

Guido_Jones | Guido_Jones

Struggling with pronouns for a transgender co-worker? Don't worry, NAH.

nnothmann | nnothmann

Respecting a transgender coworker by avoiding pronouns is NTA 👍

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Using only first names may preserve privacy, but highlights differences. NAH.

JudgeJudAITA | JudgeJudAITA

Trans man shares his perspective on using correct pronouns.

bandsdestroyd | bandsdestroyd

Using a coworker's name as a substitute for pronouns is acceptable 🤝

amopeyzoolion | amopeyzoolion

Janet's performative wokeness called out by commenter. 😎

waterbuffalo750 | waterbuffalo750

Using correct pronouns is hard, but NTA for trying. 👍

RockClimber247 | RockClimber247

Supportive co-worker adjusts language to respect transgender colleague's transition. 👏

cambria90 | cambria90

Effort to use correct pronouns appreciated by NAH commenter ❤️

sbliss35 | sbliss35

Learn to use their pronouns to avoid disrespecting them. 👍

GeorgiaSpellman | GeorgiaSpellman

Mistaken pronoun use is forgivable, Janet is the a**hole 👎

weirdpotato_3 | weirdpotato_3

Respectful use of names > forced use of pronouns. 👍

theiLLmip | theiLLmip

Mistakes happen, NTA. Bob wouldn't be hurt, don't worry 😊

latsyrcami | latsyrcami

Trans man appreciates use of name instead of pronouns. 👍

chrysjarethj | chrysjarethj

Respectful approach to pronouns for transgender co-worker. 👏

BillyJoJive | BillyJoJive

Practice makes perfect when it comes to using correct pronouns 👍

Goldberry42 | Goldberry42

Using someone's name as a first step towards using pronouns. 👍

nocte_lupus | nocte_lupus

Don't let busybodies police your speech. NTA 👍

leberkrieger | leberkrieger

Respecting names is enough; pronouns are confusing and complex. NTA.

ChrisPBacon420Blaze | ChrisPBacon420Blaze

Using correct pronouns can be difficult, but effort is appreciated. NTA.

technoboob | technoboob

A parent of a trans child shares support for using correct pronouns ❤️

Dopefox1980 | Dopefox1980

Using a trans person's name is respectful, NTA for doing so 👍

TawnyFawn | TawnyFawn

Respectful use of name, Janet projecting discomfort. NTA. 👍

CocconutMonkey | CocconutMonkey

Using nongendered pronouns is a respectful solution for everyone involved. 👍

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Respectful intent matters, follow Bob's lead on pronouns. 👍

NachoManSandyRavage | NachoManSandyRavage

Using correct pronouns is important, practice on your own 👍

Evergreen19 | Evergreen19

Practice using correct pronouns for trans co-worker. Apologize if needed.

emersynjc | emersynjc

Respecting someone's pronouns is important, even if it takes time. NTA.

EzBernardo | EzBernardo

Using preferred pronouns is appreciated but not necessary, NTA.

gay_coffee_ | gay_coffee_

Fighting against a non-issue, much like the offended white people 🙄

goodwillhunting30 | goodwillhunting30

Playing it safe with pronouns for trans co-worker - NTA 👍

skweekycleen | skweekycleen

Using chosen name isn't disrespectful. Patience needed during transition period. 👍

numbersthen0987431 | numbersthen0987431

Respecting someone's identity is not a burden. NTA 🌈

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Avoiding pronouns for trans co-worker may not be helpful 😔

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Support for using correct name and pronouns, with a fiery ending 🔥

StableMolotov | StableMolotov

Avoiding pronouns is not disrespectful, but gossiping is a**hole-ish 💁

beldaran1224 | beldaran1224

Respect Bob's pronouns, ask for them if unsure. 👍

ElisaAnne | ElisaAnne

Using "they" as a transition is helpful for pronoun changes. 👍

Kepheo | Kepheo

Using chosen name is effective way to train for pronouns. 👍

PepperPilots | PepperPilots

Respectful intentions, ask Bob for preferred pronouns. 👍

DontTakeMyNoise | DontTakeMyNoise

Ask for their preference and use their name as a stopgap 🤷‍♀️

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Using 'they' as a default isn't disrespectful, NTA wins 👍

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Respecting transgender identity: NTA for avoiding pronouns, speak to Bob.

TheAloePlantTower | TheAloePlantTower

Respect trumps pronouns for trans co-worker. NTA 🏳️‍🌈

ssj4majuub | ssj4majuub

Respecting pronouns is important, but intentions matter too. NAH.

a1337sti | a1337sti

Emphatic agreement with NTA, no need to use pronouns. 🙌

Diane_Mars | Diane_Mars

Respecting pronouns is important, but ultimately up to individual preference. NTA.

HiImDavid | HiImDavid

Respect Bob's pronouns even when he's not around. NTA.

DeliSoupItExplodes | DeliSoupItExplodes

Using 'they' instead of gendered pronouns for trans co-workers. 👍

Afoolsjourney | Afoolsjourney

It's okay to struggle with pronouns, just work on it 👍

525600bitches | 525600bitches

Transitioning to gender-neutral language shows effort towards inclusivity 👍

nu_rekt | nu_rekt

Using someone's name isn't disrespectful. NTA for avoiding pronouns.

ItsJustDeno | ItsJustDeno

Respectful approach to using correct pronouns for transgender co-worker. 👍

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Respecting pronouns is important, but Janet needs to back off.

verminiusrex | verminiusrex

Using gender-neutral pronouns like 'they' can make communication easier. 👍

SomebodyToldMe113 | SomebodyToldMe113

Respectful effort to use correct pronouns, with room for error 👍

EmpathicallyAnxious | EmpathicallyAnxious

Respectful use of gender-neutral pronouns appreciated by trans co-worker 👍

higginsnburke | higginsnburke

Practice makes perfect when it comes to using correct pronouns 👍

ZooktheCloak | ZooktheCloak

Trying to respect a transgender co-worker, but struggling with pronouns 🤔

StealthMarmot | StealthMarmot

Retraining our language takes time, NAH for trying. 👍

KaijuAlert | KaijuAlert

NAH. Use correct pronouns, but calling by name is okay 👍

TheRoseSorcerer | TheRoseSorcerer

Respectful post about using correct pronouns for transgender co-worker. 👏

srtmadison | srtmadison

Trans commenter suggests using name instead of pronouns, NTA.

okay_skylar | okay_skylar

Using a coworker's name or neutral pronouns is respectful 🤝

NaturalJustification | NaturalJustification

Respecting pronouns takes time, but NTA for trying. 🌈

josiebadcat | josiebadcat

Using correct pronouns while avoiding harm to co-worker. NTA 👍

whatcolorizthat | whatcolorizthat

Respectful use of names over pronouns, NTA. 👍

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Respecting a transgender co-worker, NTA for avoiding pronouns. 👍

imeanokig | imeanokig

Respecting preferred name shows respect for transgender co-worker's identity. 👍

one-of-the-daltons | one-of-the-daltons

Respecting preferred pronouns is key, NTA for making effort 👍

liquidjeans | liquidjeans

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