Bride-to-be Refuses Family Heirloom Ring 💍: Right or Wrong?

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Picture this: you're planning to marry the love of your life, and his family has a tradition of passing down an engagement ring. However, this ring has already been used in a failed marriage, and you're uncomfortable with the idea of wearing it. Does that make you the bad guy? 🤷‍♀️ One woman found herself in this exact situation, and now she's questioning whether her refusal to accept the ring is causing unnecessary drama. Let's dive into her story!

The Family Tradition 🎎

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The Ring's History 💍

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Ring Returned After Separation 💔

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Proposal Plan: Reusing the Ring 💍

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Her Uncomfortable Feeling 😣

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A Symbol of Their Love 💕

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Mother-in-law's Disapproval 😒

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"Shiny and Expensive" Accusation 💎

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Hours of Shaming 😓

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Adam's Agreement with Mom 🤦‍♀️

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Ring vs. Apartment 🏢

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Adam's Priorities 🤨

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Whose Opinion Matters? 🤔

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Refusing Further Discussion 🚫

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The Great Ring Debate: Who's Right? 🥊

Caught in a whirlwind of family tradition and personal preference, our bride-to-be is left feeling uncomfortable and unheard. Her future mother-in-law insists that she should be honored to wear the family heirloom, while her fiancé, Adam, seems more concerned with pleasing his mom than understanding his partner's feelings. Is she being unreasonable for wanting a ring that represents their unique love story, or is Adam's family putting too much pressure on her to conform to tradition? Let's see what the internet thinks of this tricky situation... 🍿

Partner prioritizing mother over bride-to-be, red flag 🐟

certain_people | certain_people

Take the ring and run...away from this relationship 💋

GothPenguin | GothPenguin

User expresses concern over future conflicts with fiancé's mother.

latefordinner__ | latefordinner__

Breaking family tradition: Bride refuses heirloom ring 💍

PsychologyAutomatic3 | PsychologyAutomatic3

User suspects groom-to-be is a momma's boy 💎 and advises OP to look for more red flags 🍊

Historical_Alarm_889 | Historical_Alarm_889

Stand your ground, but beware of future in-law issues 👀

Smokey_Katt | Smokey_Katt

Stand your ground and don't let MIL control your choices 👊

Texas_malva | Texas_malva

Stand your ground! Don't let MIL control your marriage 💪

Intelligent_Ad_4163 | Intelligent_Ad_4163

Breaking tradition for comfort is NTA, but consider future family dynamics.

snarkyshark83 | snarkyshark83

Controlling mother-in-law and momma's boy - red flags 🚩

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New ring for a fresh start. Partner supports decision. NTA 👍


Partner prioritizing mom's feelings over yours is a red flag 💡

katamino | katamino

FMIL imposing her will, OP urged to consider future events. NTA.

MamaofTwinDragons | MamaofTwinDragons

Bride-to-be refuses family heirloom ring, NTA. It's understandable and common.

Wallflowerheart | Wallflowerheart

Saying no to the heirloom ring is a valid option 💍

tki9 | tki9

Bride-to-be stands up for herself and future, NTA 👏

Ma_Ma_Ma_My_Sharona | Ma_Ma_Ma_My_Sharona

Stand your ground and set boundaries with future MIL. NTA 👍

inoticeiwonder | inoticeiwonder

NTA - Refusing family heirloom ring is reasonable, but discuss values.

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User warns against marrying a momma's boy. NTA, but run! 🚩

Cute-Shine-1701 | Cute-Shine-1701

Personal rings over family tradition. NTA. 🙌

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Supportive comment advises against marrying unsupportive partner 👍

Moon-Queen95 | Moon-Queen95

Choose your own ring: empowering or selfish? 🤔

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Serious warning to reconsider marriage, end it for your happiness. ⚠️

grianmharduit | grianmharduit

Choosing a new ring over a family heirloom: NTA

LastRaysOfDawn | LastRaysOfDawn

Bride-to-be refuses family heirloom ring, gets called out. NTA.

ApartLocksmith1 | ApartLocksmith1

Mother-in-law's heirloom ring causes engagement ring drama. NTA wins.

Knittingfairy09113 | Knittingfairy09113

Bride-to-be stands her ground on rejecting family heirloom ring 💍

CandylandCanada | CandylandCanada

Momma's boy or not, NTA for refusing heirloom ring 💍

highoncatnipbrownies | highoncatnipbrownies

Don't marry into a family that doesn't respect you 💍❌

PresentationFew2014 | PresentationFew2014

Bride-to-be stands up for herself and rejects family heirloom ring 💍

Illustrious-Tour-247 | Illustrious-Tour-247

Choose the ring that makes you happy, NTA 💍✨

tomtink1 | tomtink1

Bride-to-be declines family heirloom ring, suggests a compromise 💍

violetrosesnyc | violetrosesnyc

Firmly taking a stand against a controlling partner. 💪 NTA

wanderingdragon91 | wanderingdragon91

Avoiding momzilla drama on wedding day. 💍

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Think twice before marrying someone who prioritizes his mom's wants 👉🏻

SubRedditLurker08 | SubRedditLurker08

Partner prioritizing mother's opinion over yours is a red flag 👊

Diamond-TTB | Diamond-TTB

User advises to break up if partner prioritizes mother over spouse 💔

That_Contribution720 | That_Contribution720

Choosing your partner's desires over your own - NTA comment.

KeepLkngForIntllgnce | KeepLkngForIntllgnce

Don't ignore the red flags. NTA. 👍

goddessmayari | goddessmayari

Bride-to-be receives advice to leave controlling fiancé 🚩

Dylanspencer13 | Dylanspencer13

Is a family heirloom ring just a loaner for 25 years? 🤔

Flipnsip | Flipnsip

Partner prioritizes MIL's feelings, red flags for future decisions. 💎

Dry-Hearing5266 | Dry-Hearing5266

Bride-to-be receives heirloom ring backlash. NTA for refusing.

NYCQuilts | NYCQuilts

Bride-to-be receives NTA advice to run from relationship 👟💨

StellaThunderG | StellaThunderG

Debating the importance of family heirlooms in wedding traditions 💍

WabbitFan | WabbitFan

User suggests temporary wear of family heirloom ring for tradition 🤔

throwawayjustsayhay | throwawayjustsayhay

Curious about FMIL's marriage status, commenter deems NTA.

zzbeargoddess | zzbeargoddess

Bride-to-be wants a ring picked out for her, not a family heirloom 💍

DrinKwine7 | DrinKwine7

Get out while you can! 🏃‍♀️ NTA

Rbuff187 | Rbuff187

Passing down a ring someone wants is nice. Forcing it isn't. NTA 👍


Stand your ground and prioritize your happiness! 💍

bureaucratic_drift | bureaucratic_drift

Bride-to-be's partner needs to cut the cord with his mother 💍

InfiniteItem | InfiniteItem

Don't let his mother control your life. NTA 💍

InfiniteItem | InfiniteItem

Bride-to-be not wrong for refusing 'bad juju' heirloom ring 💍

Crazyboutdogs | Crazyboutdogs

Beware of Mama's boys 🐶. Consider if you're ready for that dynamic.

Vivid-Explanation951 | Vivid-Explanation951

Family heirloom ring causes drama, future bride hesitant to engage 💍

ceruleanblue66 | ceruleanblue66

Beware of future MIL interference, get boundaries and counseling. 👆

Careless-Image-885 | Careless-Image-885

Fiancé's mommy issues: 🚩 or dealbreaker?

Heart2001 | Heart2001

Stand your ground and put the ball in his court 👊

Select_Hall_6248 | Select_Hall_6248

Creative solution to ring dilemma. Not the a**hole.

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Fiance's mom is a red flag. Establish your authority 👑

meifahs_musungs | meifahs_musungs

Don't settle for a partner who doesn't value your opinions 👍

ILoatheCailou | ILoatheCailou

Supportive comment on relationship issue. 🤝

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Marriage snapshot: NTA but consider future MIL involvement 💍

TeaLoverGal | TeaLoverGal

NTA. Adam's loyalty to his mother is a red flag. 💔

voluntold9276 | voluntold9276

Suggests a solution while calling out the BF's lack of support 🤔

rainwaterkisses | rainwaterkisses

Ring symbolizes relationship, not wrong to refuse heirloom. 💍

A_Brit_Abroad | A_Brit_Abroad

Keeping family heirloom in the family. Good suggestion! 👍

personofpaper | personofpaper

Bride-to-be refuses family heirloom ring. NTA. Fiance's priorities questioned 💍

biancanevenc | biancanevenc

Choosing a ring over partner's opinion? Not a good start 😭

Pretend-Panda | Pretend-Panda

Think twice before marrying into a family that's not supportive 👍

Alicia0510 | Alicia0510

Dump the boyfriend! Commenter supports bride-to-be's decision. 👍

specsyandiknowit | specsyandiknowit

Insulted for not accepting heirloom ring? Relationship red flag. NTA.

Drive-by-poster | Drive-by-poster

Red flag alert! Partner won't defend you from mother's drama. NTA.

secretlifofme | secretlifofme

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