We all know that weddings can be a sensitive topic, especially when it comes to deciding who makes the guest list. But what happens when you’re snubbed from a close friend’s wedding, only to be asked to plan their birthday party later? One person found themselves in this exact situation, and they’re wondering if they’re being petty for not wanting to do it. Let’s dive into their story and see if we can make sense of this emotional rollercoaster.
The Friendship: A Brief History
Enter Bob, the Boyfriend
Bubble Buddies During Lockdown
The Engagement Party
The Wine Glass and the Texts
Bob’s Birthday Bash
The Mysterious Birthday Trip ️
Bachelorette Party Blues
The Big Wedding Snub
Feeling Hurt and Confused
The Silent Treatment
The Unexpected Request
Addressing the Wedding Elephant
The Dilemma: To Plan or Not to Plan?
Edit: A Clarification
A Wedding Snub and a Birthday Party Dilemma
After being close friends with Jane for years, our protagonist was left out of her wedding and her birthday celebrations. They even threw Jane an engagement party, but when it came time for the big day, they weren’t on the guest list. Now, Jane’s husband Bob has asked them to plan Jane’s birthday party, claiming they’re the best at it. Feeling hurt and confused, they’re wondering if they’re being petty for not wanting to take on the task. It’s a tough situation, and emotions are running high. Let’s see what the internet has to say about this predicament…
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NTA – Snubbed from wedding, now expected to plan birthday party?
NTA: Bob should ask someone else to plan the party
NTA. Snubbed from wedding, now expected to plan birthday party? Dump them
Frozen out, now they want something? Time to move on.
NTA. Excluded from wedding, now expected to plan birthday party?
NTA. No space issue, just waning friendship. Don’t plan party.
NTA, don’t waste time on friends who don’t value you.
NTA. Block and ghost. This is the way.
NTA. They’re using you as a free event planner.
NTA. Huge wedding, plenty of people to plan party without you.
NTA, turn the tables and charge for Jane’s birthday party!
They want an event planner, not you. Sorry. NTA
Friend feels used and confronts couple about their behavior
NTA. Jane isn’t your friend anymore. They’re using you.
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Savage revenge: Plan the same thing they did for yours!
Snubbed from wedding, now expected to plan birthday party? NTA
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Politely decline to plan the party and wait for their response.
Validated for feeling undervalued, you’re not obliged to plan birthday.
Find new friends who appreciate you for you
NTA: Cut ties and live a fabulous life without them!
They should have made space for you. Not the a**holes.
Friends snubbed you from wedding and birthday. Time to move on!
NTA. They aren’t your friends, just users.
NTA, but consider going to the party.
