Love Nest or Parents' Nest? Woman Refuses to Move into Boyfriend's Family Home 🏡💔

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Ever dreamt of moving into a love nest with your significant other, only to discover it's more of a family nest? 🏡💔 This is the predicament of a 27-year-old woman, who after a decade-long relationship, finds herself at a crossroads. Her boyfriend's family home, where he grew up, is set to become their future abode. But there's a catch - his parents retain a lifelong right of residence, turning their love nest into a family nest. Let's dive into this domestic drama...

A Decade of Love and a Family Home 🏡

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A House Deal with Strings Attached 📝

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The Unsettling Clause 🚫

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A Hard No from the Girlfriend 💔

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Fear of Future Intrusion 😨

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A Standoff with the Boyfriend and His Family 😠

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Feeling Left Out of the Decision-making 🤷‍♀️

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A Plea for Opinions 🙏

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An Unexpected Viral Story 📈

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A Glimmer of Hope? 💡

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A Love Nest Turned Family Nest: The Ultimate Relationship Test? 💔🏡

Imagine being in a 10-year relationship, ready to move in with your love, only to discover that the 'our home' you dreamt of, is actually 'their home'. This 27-year-old woman is facing the ultimate relationship test. Her boyfriend's family home comes with a lifelong right of residence for his parents. They'll even keep their old bedroom! She fears this will never truly be their home and worries about future intrusions. Despite the guilt-tripping from his family, she's standing her ground. She wants her own place to start a family, not a shared space with her future in-laws. As the internet weighs in, she's hopeful for a resolution. Stay tuned for updates on this domestic drama! 💔🏡

NTA. Lack of freedom in boyfriend's family home contract causes tension 😬

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"NTA. They're trying to use you as a free money ATM 💷"

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Go forth and be single... 🚶‍♂️

BigDollar13 | BigDollar13

NTA. Boyfriend's unilateral decision on living arrangements lacks consideration and respect.

HolyUnicornBatman | HolyUnicornBatman

NTA - You have the right to say no 🙅

Playful-Object-7224 | Playful-Object-7224

NTA!! 🚩 You have every right to refuse to move in with someone no matter what reasoning it is, and this in particular is a good reason. There is a reason your gut reaction is discomfort, and you need to listen to that feeling. A situation like this is ripe for creating a controlling and toxic environment, and it’s actually already starting to happen right now! 🚩

Animegirl300 | Animegirl300

NTA and smart girl for foreseeing future problems with boyfriend's family home 🙌

emmy1905 | emmy1905

"Livelong right of residence: all disadvantages, no advantages" 😂

BruceNY1 | BruceNY1

Stand firm! You're NTA. Don't let guilttrip sway your decision. 👏

Tjibbernaut | Tjibbernaut

NTA. Boyfriend getting a raw deal with unequal inheritance and control. 😱

Impossible-Simple-62 | Impossible-Simple-62

NTA. Run! Get out of this relationship! You're an ATM. 😱

crystallz2000 | crystallz2000

Discussion on moving in together and potential issues with the house 👩‍👨💑

sneeky_seer | sneeky_seer

NTA. Privacy and remodeling concerns in boyfriend's family home 🙏

cassowary32 | cassowary32

NTA, living in parents' home feels like a controlling hotel 🏡💔

jesuikomei | jesuikomei

NTA. Commenter shares personal experience and supports OP's concerns. 👍

hell_1709 | hell_1709

NTA. Sketchy situation with potential to end relationship. 😳

AnotherPanicDisorder | AnotherPanicDisorder

Time to move on and find a partner who's more independent 💔

Affectionate_Oven610 | Affectionate_Oven610

Expecting to be controlled by boyfriend's family? Not the a**hole!

bluejay498 | bluejay498

NTA: In-laws waltzing in? No thanks! 🚫🚶‍♂️🚶‍♀️

NmlsFool | NmlsFool

Boyfriend's parents are taking advantage of him, NTA. 💔

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Curiosity about financial contribution in moving into boyfriend's family home

OblioWasRobbed | OblioWasRobbed

NTA. Stand your ground. It's your future too 👏

Gogowhine | Gogowhine

"NTA. Shittiest deal ever." 💩

R4v3nfall | R4v3nfall

NTA: Don't let ultimatums force you into an uncomfortable living situation 🚫

Affectionate_Data936 | Affectionate_Data936

Commenter questions fairness of brother's inheritance, sparks debate on division.

WabbitFan | WabbitFan

NTA... Uncomfortable with living arrangements. Determine if worth marriage. 💔

RedBullMetal | RedBullMetal

NTA, but is he the right man? 🤔 Intense family involvement.

an_imperfect_lady | an_imperfect_lady

🚩 Red flags everywhere! 🚩

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Clause in boyfriend's family home prevents woman from refusing visits. NTA.

Mommy-Q | Mommy-Q

NTA: Clever loophole for selling property to kids 👍

blu3str | blu3str

NTA. Bad contract. No partnership. House won't fully be yours.

Starfish-1982 | Starfish-1982

"His parents' dumb stipulations and his willingness to go along with it will be the reason your relationship ends, if it ends. 🙄 NTA."

Lotex_Style | Lotex_Style

Experience shows it's a recipe for misery. Don't do it! 🚫

Crazy_by_Design | Crazy_by_Design

Boyfriend's family home: bad deal or terrible plan? 😱

Kettlewise | Kettlewise

10 years of dating, but is it a time waste? 😩

PsycheKaos | PsycheKaos

NTA - Forever impediment in privacy and home life 🚫

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OP warns against moving into boyfriend's family home, a potential con job 🤪

JCWa50 | JCWa50

🏠💔 NTA! Don't be an invisible roommate in his parents' house!

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Nightmare in-law situation ends relationship. Protect your privacy! 😱

Screambloodyleprosy | Screambloodyleprosy

RUNNNN! Leave this man and avoid becoming the family maid! NTA

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Uncomfortable with moving in? NTA, trust your instincts! 🙏

Mama_Bee21 | Mama_Bee21

Setting boundaries to avoid future problems. You're not the a**hole. 👍

puppyfarts99 | puppyfarts99

Dealing with intrusive in-laws and a guilt-tripping family. NTA! 🙅

Jimmywtv | Jimmywtv

Why not buy a new house and start fresh? 💡

lockmama | lockmama

Claim your own nest! It's never going to be yours. 🏡💔

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NTA - Building a future together means finding a home together 💔

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"Oh hell no!" Woman refuses to move into boyfriend's family home 😱

LingonberryPrior6896 | LingonberryPrior6896

Is there a future after 10 years of not living together? 🤔

Miserable_Panda6979 | Miserable_Panda6979

"NTA You're right. It'll never be 'your home' 😊💔"

Substantial-Gain-903 | Substantial-Gain-903

NTA. Beware of the financial and emotional implications of this offer 💰

MythologicalRiddle | MythologicalRiddle

NTA- Don't let his parents take advantage of you! 🙌

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NTA. Boyfriend's parents trying to control relationship. Run! 😱

Flashy_Claim5158 | Flashy_Claim5158

NTA, boyfriend's failed launch, contract guilt trip 🤔

juliaskig | juliaskig

NTA - Excluded from discussions, now expected to go along. 🏠

somethingclever1712 | somethingclever1712

NTA- BF's family wants your money, not your best interests 💔

spaceyjaycey | spaceyjaycey

NTA. Leave him. You deserve respect and inclusion. 💔

No-Rough-2521 | No-Rough-2521

NTA: Check out r/justnomil for living-with-parents horror stories 😱

fuck_my_Life_today | fuck_my_Life_today

NTA. Share the house if you're financially contributing 💔

Intelligent_Stop5564 | Intelligent_Stop5564

🚩 NTA. Time to end it. Red flags everywhere. 🚩

Raxendyl | Raxendyl

"NTA They should sell it for market value and let each brother have their “half.” Boyfriend can take his half and put it down on a condo or smaller starter home. If boyfriend couldn’t qualify for a condo with their gift of a down payment, he has no business taking that home on anyway. Maintenance is insane. A roof is easily $20,000. Also, if they retain some type of “ownership,” does that mean when they die, bought out brother has a right to claim some of the equity that’s accrued since the first buyout? He’s their heir after all. People get crazy when death and money come to town. Brother may be a saint now but that doesn’t mean the relationship will be solid 20 years from now." 💔💼💰

CarolineSloopJohnB | CarolineSloopJohnB

🏠 Boyfriend's family home: no inheritance, no ownership, no solution.

bigmamma0 | bigmamma0

NTA. Don't do it. It won't end well. 🚫

napswithdogs | napswithdogs

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