Love Across Borders: A Tale of Chores, Conflict, and Compromise 😲💔

Diply Social Team
Diply | Diply

Meet our heroine, a 30-year-old American woman living in Japan, and her long-distance boyfriend. Their love story is a bit different from the usual. When he plans a visit, she isn't just worried about the health risks in these uncertain times, she's also concerned about...chores? 🧹🥘 Yep, you read that right. During his last visit, he didn't lift a finger around her tiny apartment, leaving her to juggle cooking, cleaning, and washing dishes while he relaxed. His defense? 'I'm on vacation.' Let's dive into their story and see what unfolded...😮

The Long-Distance Love Story 🌍❤️

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

A Disagreement Brews 🌩️

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

The Chore Conflict Begins 🍽️🧹

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

The Dish Dilemma 🍽️🤷‍♀️

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

His Vacation Defense 🏖️

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

The Financial Factor 💵

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

Is Chilling Equal to Bonding? 🤔

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

The Hotel Savings 💰

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

The Expectation of Help 🙏

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

The Self-Doubt Sets In 😕

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

The Decision 🚀

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

The Ultimatum 🚫

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

The Payment Paradox 💸

chickadeedoodah | chickadeedoodah

Love, Chores, and the Battle of Expectations 😲🥊

Our heroine, living in Japan, is grappling with a unique love conflict. When her long-distance boyfriend plans a visit, she's not just worried about pandemic safety, but also about the domestic duties he shirked on his last trip. He sees his visits as a vacation, a time to relax, not to help with chores. She, on the other hand, feels the burden of extra cooking and cleaning his presence brings. His financial contributions during their outings don't quite balance the scales for her. Now, she's questioning her expectations and the future of their relationship. Let's see what the internet thinks about this domestic drama... 😮🍿

👍 You're right to be concerned. NTA. 🤔

milee30 | milee30

"NTA!! It's a glimpse of your future. He's disrespectful." 😲

zesty_heron | zesty_heron

Fairness in relationships: Should vacation expenses be split equally? 🤔

analag | analag

👏 NTA! Get ready for a lifetime of chore debates! 😅

travellingdink | travellingdink

Long distance: a good way to keep him for a while 😲

nannylive | nannylive

NTA. Prioritizing safety during the outbreak 😲💔

justmy2centsthroaway | justmy2centsthroaway

NTA. Boyfriend should help with chores for quality vacation time 💔

GinericGirl | GinericGirl

Double the work, double the frustration! Time for a talk 👍

nhannon87 | nhannon87

🚩 Opt out of visits, find a new model. NTA.

UnCertainAge | UnCertainAge

Fair request: he's visiting, he can help with dishes 💔

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GF vs. Mother: Who's really in charge? 🤩

DrSaks | DrSaks

NTA. You're saving him money but he won't help clean? 😲

acnhliab | acnhliab

NTA: Set boundaries and expect equal effort in a relationship.

22feetistoomany | 22feetistoomany

"NTA. He's staying at someone's home. He should help clean."

WaDaEp | WaDaEp

NTA! Lazy partner ruins trip, while others have helpful boyfriends 😲💔

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Future warning: Don't become your bf's housemaid 🏃‍♀️

Booom_Box | Booom_Box

NTA: Clean up after yourself, it's not a hotel! 😲

OpossumExpert | OpossumExpert

Don't be his maid! Take a stand and prioritize yourself. 🙏

ThePolyMoose | ThePolyMoose

Long distance love: Should he help or not visit? 😲💔

mamachonk | mamachonk

Marriage woes: NTA, but hold off on wedding plans 😲

my_my_my_delihla | my_my_my_delihla

NTA! Long distance love means helping with chores and practicing for the future 💔

Moogoom | Moogoom

NTA, asking bf to help with chores is reasonable 👍

NorsePearl | NorsePearl

Guests should help with chores, a sneak peek for future 💔

hermionebelth | hermionebelth

🚩 Major red flags! Have a serious talk and consider leaving.

MaxTheWonder | MaxTheWonder

Equal division of household chores during maternity leave? 🤔

Tinkerbellhair | Tinkerbellhair

🚫💔 Don't stay with an a**hole! Find someone better!

sisanelizamarsh | sisanelizamarsh

NTA. Messy bf, future concerns. Talk it out for concessions 👏

hullaballooloo | hullaballooloo

Partner should help with chores to spend more quality time 👭

outlawedmoon | outlawedmoon

"NTA! Long distance chores can be fun and bonding 😊"

bumblebeehunnybee | bumblebeehunnybee

Lazy partner holds money over head, NTA for standing up 💪

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