Meet our 35-year-old hero, who recently found himself at the center of a family financial drama. His wife, a year younger, approached him with a request that left him baffled – a loan of $10,000 to help her brother buy a house. But why the loan? And why the brother? And why does he live in China? The story unfolds with questions, doubts, and a whole lot of family drama. Let’s dive in…
A Surprising Request
The Brother’s Dilemma
The Financial Buffer
The Plan Unfolds
The Repayment Question ❓
The Wealthy American Excuse
The Distance Issue
Past Experiences Haunt
The Fallout
The Silent Treatment
The Self-Doubt
The Housing Market Concern
The Resolution ️
The Financial Transparency
A $10,000 Dilemma: Family Drama or Financial Prudence? ♂️
Our hero finds himself in a quandary, torn between supporting his wife’s family and protecting his own financial security. With a brother-in-law in China, an unstable housing market, and past experiences of burnt fingers, the decision wasn’t easy. His refusal led to a fallout, leaving his wife upset and questioning his support. Yet, he stands firm, believing in financial prudence over emotional decisions. But was he right? Or should family always come first? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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Wife wants husband to loan money to brother-in-law: NTA
“NTA. Setting boundaries with family can be tough. “
Tricky money situation, but NTA for setting boundaries.
Trust your instincts. Don’t be a mark.
NTA. Never loan money to a family member. PERIOD
NTA: Wife wants loan for BIL’s house, unlikely to be repaid ♂️
“NTA. She can lend it to him herself if she’s so confident.”
OP’s refusal to loan money for brother-in-law’s house: Prudent decision?
Chinese culture expects family to chip in for son’s marital home
“INFO: Is your wife financially capable of loaning him the money without your assistance? Is a ‘buffer’ about not being able to pay her portion of the bills, or about not wanting to forgo luxuries?”
NTA: Your money, your decision.
NTA: Setting boundaries to avoid future financial burdens
NTA: Avoiding financial risk with family loans.
Curious about the brother-in-law’s living situation if loan denied?
NTA, wife’s logic flawed. Suggest loaning her own money instead.
OP not the a**hole for refusing to loan money.
NTA: Wife’s money, brother won’t pay back. Hold your ground!
Cultural pressure to support family, but is it worth the risk?
NTA: Wife emotionally blackmailing you for $10k loan. Discuss boundaries.
Concerned about wife’s financial security if loan not repaid
NTA: Husband refuses loan, sparks debate on financial boundaries.
NTA: Trust the brother, not your wife. Valid concern about money.
NTA: Doubts about brother’s intentions in economic crisis
“NTA. Never lend money to friends and family. Gift it instead. “
NTA: Joint decision prevents fallout if he doesn’t pay back
NTA. Silent treatment = manipulation. ♂️
Sneaky move to get money back from family member!
NTA: Wife wants you to take all the risk
