Caught in the Crossfire: A Mother's Dilemma Over Her Children's Sibling Bond

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Imagine this: You're a 46-year-old woman, your marriage ends due to your husband's infidelity, and the woman he cheated with births a child. Fast forward ten years, you've managed to co-parent your children effectively with your ex. But then, the 'other woman' reaches out, pleading for you to help her child - your children's half-sibling - establish a relationship with your kids. Now, you're caught in a whirlwind of emotions, moral dilemmas, and unanswered questions. Do you step in or step aside? 🤷‍♀️

The Betrayal That Shattered A Family 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦💔

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The Unwanted Revelation 👶📝

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The Divorce That Couldn't Be Avoided 💔📃

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Co-Parenting Amidst the Chaos 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦🔄

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The Unexpected Message 📩😮

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The Plea for Connection 👩‍👧‍👦🤝

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The Moral Dilemma 🤷‍♀️💡

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The Firm Stand 🙅‍♀️🚫

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The Accusation and the Question 🧐🎯

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The Age Factor 🧒👧👦

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Caught in a Sibling Bond Dilemma: A Mother's Unwanted Responsibility

Caught in a whirlwind of past betrayals and present dilemmas, our protagonist is faced with a tricky question - should she facilitate a bond between her children and their half-sibling, born out of her ex-husband's infidelity? She's torn between her responsibility as a mother and her resentment towards the 'other woman'. She's firm in her stand - she won't obstruct a relationship, but neither will she actively facilitate it. But the 'other woman' insists it's her duty. So, is she right in her stand, or is she setting a bad example? Let's see what the internet has to say about this tangled web of relationships and responsibilities. 🕸️💔

NTA - The audacity of that woman! Block her and move on. 🙄

shitsandfarts | shitsandfarts

NTA-she's an experienced home wrecker; if she wants her child to have siblings with whom to have a direct relationship, she can find another man to sire some with her. Hopefully someone who is NOT MARRIED this time. You owe her and her child ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. You are a much better person than I am to even consider allowing your children to have a relationship with this child of your ex-husband's affair. It is not the child's fault how they came to be, however you and your children are not to be expected to be openly welcoming them into your lives. This woman sounds like the type of person who would s**t on your head and expect you to thank her for the 'chat'.

Nikkoshen | Nikkoshen

NTA: Children's choice not to bond with half-sibling respected 🤝

WTFNingen | WTFNingen

Not your responsibility, let your kids decide. 🙌

Sylvurphlame | Sylvurphlame

NTA OP! Commendable stance on sibling bond despite entitlement of woman. 👏

herpy_McDerpster | herpy_McDerpster

Encouraging sibling bond despite dad's mistake. Kids' choice matters ❤️

charitymw7 | charitymw7

NTA. Stand your ground and prioritize your stable co-parenting situation. 👍

Maximum_System_7819 | Maximum_System_7819

Homewreaker said what? Not the a**hole. 😱

SnowWhiteCampCat | SnowWhiteCampCat

NTA. Bold move, lady! 😮

PissedOffMama | PissedOffMama

NTA: No obligation to assist the home wrecker Barbie 🚫

markdmac | markdmac

Let the kids decide, you can't force sibling relationships. 🤷‍♀️

Mareepsheep99 | Mareepsheep99

Healing from a complex situation, forging a new relationship 💔

erised1313 | erised1313

Comment removed due to violation of rules. Be civil!

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NTA: Co-parenting drama and responsibility. Time for her to step up!

Viperbunny | Viperbunny

NTA - Prioritize your children, not your ex's affair partner's child. 🚫

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Don't let your ex's irresponsibility ruin your own happiness! 🚫

beccah42 | beccah42

Ex is responsible, not you. Don't entertain that sh*t 💁‍♀️

beachygirl12 | beachygirl12

You're not the a**hole. You owe them nothing. 💁‍♀️

silent_whisper89 | silent_whisper89

Let the kids decide later if they want a relationship 👨‍👩‍👧

Sol_Cerezo | Sol_Cerezo

Divorce doesn't mean you stop caring. 🤷‍♀️

soph_lurk_2018 | soph_lurk_2018

NTA, she's the problem. Cut her off and move on.

breakfastpitchblende | breakfastpitchblende

Bold move! This woman has some serious courage! 😮

Tesmarin | Tesmarin

No obligation to her or her child. Ex's lawyer knows.

CompetitiveLecture5 | CompetitiveLecture5

NTA. No sympathy for the woman who slept with a married man.

HoldFastO2 | HoldFastO2

NTA. Respect her audacity or desperation? 🤔 Surprising turn of events.

SinglePastryChefLife | SinglePastryChefLife

NTA. Block button saves the day! 🙌

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NTA. Ex's mistake, no obligation to help. 🙅‍♀️

FloatingPencil | FloatingPencil

NTA: Let your ex know, block her. Not your responsibility.

Bambie-Rizzo | Bambie-Rizzo

NTA. Respect her boundaries and let her handle her issues.

kb-g | kb-g

You're not the a**hole, don't clean up their mess 💁‍♀️

TattieMafia | TattieMafia

Not your responsibility, but it sucks for the child 😔

Calm_Initial | Calm_Initial

Age of kids: Important or irrelevant? A debate ensues. 🤔

GrWr44 | GrWr44

Savage clapback shuts down the 'other woman' with brutal honesty 😱

CirrusMoth | CirrusMoth

NTA. Not your kid, Not your problem. 🤷‍♀️

strawberryshoelace | strawberryshoelace

NTA. Not your job. Let them figure it out. 🤷‍♀️

rawsugar87 | rawsugar87

NTA. Father's irresponsibility affects innocent child. Messy situation all around.

FluffyPal | FluffyPal

Mistress asks wife for favor?! The audacity! NTA. 😂

JasminRR | JasminRR

NTA- Woman has nerve! 😱

lacyjacobs | lacyjacobs

NTA. Dad should handle the half-sibling relationship, not you. 🙅‍♀️

DiligentPenguin16 | DiligentPenguin16

NTA. Let your ex-husband handle the sibling relationship 🚫🤝

cookingstephen | cookingstephen

Let him deal with it. Not your problem. 🙅‍♀️

primeirofilho | primeirofilho

NTA. Ex's affair, not your job. She failed, you didn't.

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NTA. No moral obligation to encourage relationship with half sibling.

bobi2393 | bobi2393

NTA. Woman sets bad example by sleeping with married man. 😎

dbf06 | dbf06

West family stays out of the messy sibling drama. 🙅‍♀️

Educational-Mine-827 | Educational-Mine-827

NTA, let him handle his child, focus on coparenting relationship.

Dachshundmom5 | Dachshundmom5

🔥 NTA: Ex-wife stands up against husband's mistress for her children

cpic015 | cpic015

Cut ties with her! Don't let her ruin your happiness! 🚫

Ak40-couchcusion | Ak40-couchcusion

NTA...but don't let her guilt trip you! 🙅‍♀️

nightcana | nightcana

"NTA - Ex isn't involved, not your responsibility. Tell her to stop contacting you."

chiterkins | chiterkins

👏 Standing up for single mothers and their choices!

iluvcats17 | iluvcats17

A heartwarming tale of a mother embracing her children's bond ❤️

squishy_squish_9 | squishy_squish_9

NTA - You're not responsible for his relationship with his other child

Izzy4162305 | Izzy4162305

Ex's mistress meddling in family time? NTA, set boundaries! ✋

chatondedanger | chatondedanger

A mother's dilemma and the audacity of her actions. NTA

boojangles02 | boojangles02

NTA, let the ex know and let the lawyers handle it! 🎪

wwtddgeekgirl2 | wwtddgeekgirl2

Understanding both perspectives: NTA for setting boundaries, NAH overall.

Overwhelmedmomma39 | Overwhelmedmomma39

Not the a**hole - a mother's dilemma over sibling bond

aggrosnaps | aggrosnaps

NTA. Divided homes, divided time. No obligation to force relationship. 🚫

brazentory | brazentory

"NTA. She's an a**hole for demanding help from someone whose marriage she helped break up. Your ex is an a**hole for cheating and for treating his other child like they don't exist. This is not your circus and these are not your monkeys. She should be thankful that you aren't actively opposed to your children having anything to do with hers." 😳

Pollypocketful | Pollypocketful

NTA: Ex's mistress resurfaces after 10 years, set boundaries and block.

IamGroot4263 | IamGroot4263

NTA for letting kids decide, but it's tough for excluded child 😔

Pale_Natural3655 | Pale_Natural3655

NTA. She's doing too much. Not your problem! 🙄

Any_Advance_8222 | Any_Advance_8222

NTA. Ex-husband's lack of involvement is harmful to the child 😕

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Let the kids decide if they want a sibling relationship! 🙌

Vinushka23 | Vinushka23

NTA sues ex for child support, now wants a piece 💰

independent_lunatic | independent_lunatic

🚫 NTA. She got pregnant by a married man, expecting too much.

River_Song47 | River_Song47

Warning: Kids may resent new sibling due to parental breakup. NTA.

Lynnel_McQueen | Lynnel_McQueen

Nope. Not the a**hole. 😎

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NTA. Don't let her guilt trip you. Block and move on. 🙌

Allonsydr1 | Allonsydr1

NTA: Ex's partner overstepping boundaries, let them handle their child.

kuraim | kuraim

Block her! Dad's mess, not your responsibility. #NTA 🙌

Erisedstorm | Erisedstorm

NTA. Shutting down the ex with a sassy one-liner. 💁‍♀️

DelsMagicFishies | DelsMagicFishies

Heartbroken and betrayed, she refuses to clean up their mess. 💔

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NTA: Block her 🚫

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You're not responsible for your ex's mistress's child. 🙅‍♀️

whitecloudesq | whitecloudesq

NTA: Not your problem, he messed up. 🤷‍♀️

GroundbreakingAd5224 | GroundbreakingAd5224

NTA. You're doing the right thing by not forcing your kids to have a relationship with their half-sibling. 👍

Holographic_honeybee | Holographic_honeybee

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