When it comes to family planning, things can get complicated. A woman, let's call her 'Jane', and her husband, 'John', have one child. John has always been clear about not wanting more kids, a decision Jane has accepted. However, Jane's birth control pill has been affecting her mental health, and last year, she got pregnant while off it. The couple's decision to terminate the pregnancy was a tough one, especially for Jane, who felt unsupported by John. Now, she's back on the pill, but she's not happy about it. She's suggested that John get a vasectomy, but he's avoiding the topic. Is Jane wrong for asking this of John? 🤷♀️
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A Tale of Pills, Pressure, and Potential Vasectomies
In the aftermath of a difficult abortion, Jane finds herself back on the birth control pill, a medication that negatively impacts her mental health. She suggests that John, who is terrified of having more kids, consider a vasectomy. But John, haunted by a friend's bad experience, keeps dodging the conversation. Jane feels she's being fair, asking him to at least research the procedure. But John feels pressured, even though he hasn't outright refused. Is Jane wrong for pushing the issue, or is John avoiding a necessary discussion? Let's see what the internet has to say about this emotionally charged situation...💔🗣️
NTA: Husband's refusal to get a vasectomy is selfish and unfair 😒
nattyleilani | nattyleilani
NTA: He pressured you for an abortion. He's the a**hole. 💯
CaptainMalForever | CaptainMalForever
He wants sex but not the responsibility? 🤔 NTA.
Themistocles_gr | Themistocles_gr
"No more sex." - A bold move to assert boundaries. 💪
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NTA, it's fair to ask for a vasectomy. 💪
tipsytops2 | tipsytops2
NTA for asking husband about vasectomy. Awful if he expects abortion.
justmy2centsforyou | justmy2centsforyou
NTA. Husband wants sex without responsibility. Not acceptable. 🙄
FryOneFatManic | FryOneFatManic
Husband wants autonomy, but not for his wife? 🤔
MyGoldenDragon | MyGoldenDragon
NTA for requesting a vasectomy. Consider tubal ligation as well. 🤔
rlezar | rlezar
"NTA. He wouldn't pressure you to take the pill, he'll just pressure you to get an abortion then abandon you when you do it! What a champ. Of course you can't force him to get a vasectomy. But you can tell him you aren't comfortable being in a sexual relationship where the full physical and mental burden of family planning falls to you. You will not continue to suffer side effects or have a surgery that is much more invasive than a vasectomy because he refuses to take any responsibility for himself. If that leads to no more sex and the likely end of your marriage, so be it." 😳
lightwoodorchestra | lightwoodorchestra
NTA. Taking the pill affects your health, not fair for him.
Tessa_Kamoda | Tessa_Kamoda
Engaging in birth control conversation: NTA, NAH, or ESH? 👍
wanderingmind47 | wanderingmind47
NTA wants husband to take responsibility, but he's hesitant. 🤔
gizzle2019 | gizzle2019
NTA. Your husband's behavior is unfair and disrespectful. 🚫👨⚕️
mextrawork | mextrawork
NTA suggests pausing intimacy until mature conversation about vasectomy.
terribleterrabyte | terribleterrabyte
NTA. Take control, leave him, and find happiness elsewhere. 🙏
princessofperky | princessofperky
Her prerogative to not go back on the pill, his choice.
JustMaintenance7 | JustMaintenance7
Husband's fear of vasectomy vs. pressure to take pill. NTA 🤔
TheTask2020 | TheTask2020
NTA. Asserting bodily autonomy and setting personal boundaries. 👏
NorthrnSwede | NorthrnSwede
"Guy feels pressured for vasectomy after pressuring abortion. NTA obviously."
pretenderist | pretenderist
NAH. Husband's refusal to support pregnancy is sad. Can't pressure him.
PitifulWatercress7 | PitifulWatercress7
Seek counseling for a tough situation. 💔
bjorgear | bjorgear
Condoms failed and other birth control is bad for her. 🙅♀️
ChrysosAU79 | ChrysosAU79
Birth control responsibility debate: abortion, mental health, and pill methods 🤔
ownbeeswax | ownbeeswax
"NTA, after suffering, it's Lysistrata in my house. No snip, no me."
babyredhead | babyredhead
NTA: Men who pressure partners on birth control are a**holes 😱
skubes27iidc | skubes27iidc
NTA: Take control of your contraceptive choices and communicate openly.
Eagle_Pancake | Eagle_Pancake
🩺 Woman stops taking pill, asks husband to handle birth control. NTA
Dana07620 | Dana07620
"NTA. Birth control should be a shared responsibility. 👥👥"
RidleyAteKirby | RidleyAteKirby
NTA: Husband needs to man up and get a vasectomy. 🤔
Toyotafan123 | Toyotafan123
NTA, husband's manipulative pressure. Discuss options with OBGYN. 👍
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NTA: Husband's responsibility to prevent pregnancy after pressuring abortion. 🤔
Affectionate-Hat-57 | Affectionate-Hat-57
NTA. Communicate your feelings about abortion and body autonomy. 👍
kreeves9 | kreeves9
NTA...fair request, but hypocritical stance on contraception. 😐
Elinbj | Elinbj
NTA: Husband should get vasectomy if he doesn't want more kids 🤔
Nathan_77 | Nathan_77
NTA - Justified request or unfair pressure? 🤔
tcsweetgurl | tcsweetgurl
NTA, but have you considered other birth control options? 🤔
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NTA, husband should step up after witnessing labor and BC.
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Woman shares her justified request for her husband's vasectomy
LAM_humor1156 | LAM_humor1156
NTA: Woman requests husband's vasectomy, highlights gendered birth control burden. 🤔
sleepwalker34 | sleepwalker34
Husband's hypocrisy and manipulation leads to justified request for vasectomy. 🤔
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Husband's refusal to communicate: NTA, but serious f**king issues! 🤔
hammocks_ | hammocks_
NTA - Husband's double standards: man up and face reality! 🤔
princessharleigh | princessharleigh
NTA. Fair to ask husband for vasectomy after his pressure.
ollyator | ollyator
NTA. Husband has 3 choices: vasectomy, condom, or abstinence. 🤔
ODU2K1 | ODU2K1
Husband's hypocrisy: Unfair pressure on wife for vasectomy? 😐
Fettnaepfchen | Fettnaepfchen
NTA. Female birth control has side effects, vasectomies are safer.
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Taking control of your own body and desires 💪
HappyLucyD | HappyLucyD
Husband's immaturity puts unfair pressure on wife for vasectomy. 🙄
pugfacekillaaa | pugfacekillaaa
Hypocritical husband refuses vasectomy but pressures wife for abortion. 😱
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Men's desire for control over reproductive rights discussed. 🤔
bdbaylor | bdbaylor
🔥 Woman suggests a clever strategy to address unfair pressure for vasectomy
kaitou1011 | kaitou1011
NAH. Respect each other's autonomy. Find a compromise or move on. 👍
MatlockHolmes | MatlockHolmes
Vasectomy: Easy peasy or big damn baby? 🤔
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Shared responsibility: discuss options with doctor for fair contraception. 👍
CaChriSo | CaChriSo
NTA. His choice, his responsibility. No need to complicate things. 👍
ferociousFerret7 | ferociousFerret7
NTA calls out double standard and challenges OP to stand firm. 🤔
poopsiedaisie | poopsiedaisie
Huge double-standard: husband okay with abortion but scared of vasectomy? 😳
Sahris | Sahris
NTA: After he forced you into an abortion, fair request 😊
PasDeTout | PasDeTout
Empowered woman sets boundaries for birth control and reproductive choices. 💪
RueGman | RueGman
NTA. Communicate your needs and seek couples counseling for support. 👍
judge1492 | judge1492
NTA: Husband's fear is valid, but conversation about shared burden needed. 👍
Alseids | Alseids
He wants no baby but expects you to suffer? 🤔 NTA!
Nebelherrin | Nebelherrin
Bold ultimatum: vasectomy or 18 years of child support? 🤔
GeeWhiskers | GeeWhiskers
NTA. Copper IUD as alternative to vasectomy, but snip is easier. 🤔
A_wild_Mel_appears | A_wild_Mel_appears
NTA: Hypocritical husband pressured wife, now it's his turn. 🤔
Colly_fleur | Colly_fleur
No baby, no vasectomy? 🤔
aeiou-y | aeiou-y
Husband's bodily autonomy vs. wife's request: Unfair or justified? 🤔
redheadeddisaster | redheadeddisaster
Woman shares her justified request for husband's vasectomy after multiple pregnancies 🤔
NachoMama34 | NachoMama34
"YTA, unfair double standards! His body, his choice. Just stop having sex."
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