When Love for Music Turns into a $8K 'Hobby': A Girlfriend's Dilemma 🎸💔

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Meet our 29-year-old heroine, living in harmony with her 28-year-old boyfriend, whose love for strumming the guitar was as melodious as their relationship. But what happens when this sweet symphony turns into a cacophony of cash-draining 'hobby'? When the soothing strumming becomes a $8K financial burden, our heroine finds herself in a dilemma, questioning the legitimacy of her boyfriend's 'music career'. Let's dive into this discordant saga. 🎸💔💸

The Sweet Symphony Begins 🎸💕

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From Hobby to 'Career' 🎸🚀

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The Band Practice Begins 🎸🎹

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The Cash Drain Begins 💸😱

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The House Turns into a Music Store 🏠🎸

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Work Hours Cut, No Gigs Landed 😕🎸

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A Disappointing Band Practice 😞🎸

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The Unfinished Song 🎵😔

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The 'Fun' Band with No Gigs 🎸😒

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The Confrontation Begins 💔😡

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The Accusation of Non-Support 🎸💔

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A $8K Hobby or a Music Career? The Dilemma Continues... 🎸💔💸

Our heroine finds herself caught in a whirlwind of confusion, frustration, and financial strain. As the $8K 'hobby' continues to drain their resources, she questions the legitimacy of her boyfriend's so-called 'music career'. Despite the lack of gigs, reduced work hours, and an unfinished song from two years ago, he insists she's unsupportive. As the discordant notes of this saga continue, we're left wondering: Is she really the bad guy here? Or is it time for her boyfriend to face the music? Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🎸💔💸

Is music really a career or just an excuse to drink?

milee30 | milee30

NTA. Setting boundaries for a boyfriend's expensive music 'hobby' 🎸

Moonshae295 | Moonshae295

NTA. Supporting a music career takes dedication and understanding. ♥️

mlfern90 | mlfern90

NTA. COVID makes gigs harder, but partner's lack of progress concerning.

Paperback_Writer | Paperback_Writer

NTA. His band doesn't support his music career. 🎵

geman11 | geman11

NTA: Boyfriend needs to focus on starting his music career 🎸

Chimpbot | Chimpbot

"NTA. Asking valid questions doesn't make you an a**hole. 😊"

cpplearning | cpplearning

Hold him accountable for expenses and see if he steps up 👍

DazzleLove | DazzleLove

🏃‍♀️💔 RUN! NTA. Thousands spent on unused equipment for a 'hobby'?

Mr_Curious_Cat | Mr_Curious_Cat

Exes unite! Same story, different names. 😂

Purple__Unicorn | Purple__Unicorn

NTA. Boyfriend's 'playing rock star' is not a viable profession 🎸

mikuzgrl | mikuzgrl

Discussing future goals is crucial for a healthy relationship 💔

Kerri_23 | Kerri_23

Supporting his music career is key to a harmonious relationship! 🎸

Madam_Cholet | Madam_Cholet

Sugar mamma to a beautiful bouncing shitty garage band? 🎶💸

buttercream_bounce | buttercream_bounce

NTA. Boyfriend's unacceptable behavior upsets him. 🤔

wdtfs90 | wdtfs90

NTA. Girlfriend wants lazy boyfriend to get a real job. 🙅

seajay26 | seajay26

NTA: Musician stuck in high school jam mode, missing opportunities. 🎸

CulturalMarksmanism | CulturalMarksmanism

NTA. Communicate financial concerns respectfully to avoid resentment. Good luck! 👍

totallyoverthis | totallyoverthis

Professional musician shares the reality of making a living in music.

8va | 8va

Girlfriend wants to stop enabling boyfriend's expensive music hobby. 💔

sawdeanz | sawdeanz

NTA. Don't fund his hobby. You deserve better. 💔

Mycatsitslikehesppl | Mycatsitslikehesppl

Obsession or career? NTA's take on music love 🎸💔

TopaztheBigBoss | TopaztheBigBoss

NTA. Separate finances, charge rent, encourage full-time work for stability.

BlueTaco500 | BlueTaco500

NTA: No music career, just an expensive hobby! 🎸

hammocks_ | hammocks_

Is this a mid-life crisis or just a musical passion?

SteveyBuscemey | SteveyBuscemey

Not the a**hole. Share your story! 💔

keigan123 | keigan123

Different financial goals and conflicting career aspirations. 👥

dampew | dampew

Don't fund his expensive hobby! Let him foot the bill 💸

MonkeyWrench | MonkeyWrench

NTA. Band gigs aren't enough for a full-time career. Expensive hobby.

skyeboatsong | skyeboatsong

NTA, he needs a reality check on his music career 🎸💔

ChaosQueeen | ChaosQueeen

NTA: Music hobby vs career? Life crisis waiting to happen 🎸💔

annoyedpotatolady | annoyedpotatolady

Supportive SO financially exploited by music-loving partner. 💔

010997jk | 010997jk

Spending big on hobbies: Is it worth the financial sacrifice? 🤔

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"Is this the future you want? 🤔🎶"

parisskent | parisskent

NTA. Lazy boyfriend wants girlfriend to fund his music 'career' 🎸

YourDearOldMeeMaw | YourDearOldMeeMaw

Dump the loser and find someone better! 💔

alicedeelite | alicedeelite

Supporting a lazy musician? NTA, let him hustle for it!

seba_make | seba_make

Bandmate exploits trust and support, girlfriend calls him out. NTA

pdhot65ton | pdhot65ton

Supporting his 'music career' or just a fun hobby? 🎵🤔

athemrlis | athemrlis

NTA: Cut the losses, sell the excess, demand equal contribution 👌

fanlism | fanlism

NTA. Wake up your boyfriend! Don't be his ATM 👋

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"NTA. He's not pursuing a career, just an expensive hobby."

CompetitiveLecture5 | CompetitiveLecture5

He's using you...but you're aware. NTA. Time for tough love.

Cassinderella | Cassinderella

Girlfriend's frustration with financing boyfriend's expensive music hobby. ESH 🙄

teresajs | teresajs

Dump him! 🚮 He's been lying and leeching off you!

nau5 | nau5

No career, just a costly hobby 🎸

AccomplishedDatabase | AccomplishedDatabase

No plan, no future: Girlfriend questions boyfriend's lack of ambition

oldcreaker | oldcreaker

NTA. Making it in music is a tough and risky journey 🎸💔


Band life: A side job for fun, not a music career.

tonemant | tonemant

NTA. Passionate musician's $8K gear dilemma and impact on relationships 🎸

sagerideout | sagerideout

Dating a delusional musician: a retail worker's perspective 🎸

masterB0SHI | masterB0SHI

NTA: Music as a profession vs. hobby. Let's discuss expectations. 🎸

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Engaging comment from a professional musician about supporting a partner's music career 🎸

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Hilarious musical mishaps that will leave you in tears of laughter

forestfairy23 | forestfairy23

Not the a**hole. Let's hear the juicy details! 🤪

Galakyta | Galakyta

Becoming a pro musician: Talent vs. collecting instruments 🎸

Ann3Nym | Ann3Nym

"NTA. He doesn't have a music career, just an expensive hobby. 💸"

karatemummy | karatemummy

Girlfriend questions boyfriend's commitment and financial responsibility. 🤔

botabought | botabought

Professional musician says boyfriend wasting time and money. NTA.

GalacticaActually | GalacticaActually

NTA, he needs a reality check. Financial plan required 💰

mfruitfly | mfruitfly

Supporting a beer-drinking boyfriend's 'music career'? Definitely NTA! 👏

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NTA, give him an ultimatum: gigs or job. 🎸💔

Assliam- | Assliam-

NTA: Girlfriend's frustration with boyfriend's expensive guitar hobby 🎸

dat_unlucky_derp | dat_unlucky_derp

NTA, if his expensive hobby is impacting your lives financially 💸

stellamcmillan | stellamcmillan

NTA! Talk to him about selling unused stuff and his band practice schedule 👍

ncklpz | ncklpz

Turning a passion into a business: NTA's advice for musicians 🎸

jennifaux69 | jennifaux69

NTA: Girlfriend frustrated with boyfriend's expensive music 'hobby' 🎸

[deleted] | [deleted]

Supporting a musician boyfriend: financial boundaries and emotional support 🎸

InquisitiveGemini85 | InquisitiveGemini85

Commenter relates to OP's situation and offers advice and empathy 💔

NeptuneAndCherry | NeptuneAndCherry

Spending money on music gear: fun or financial irresponsibility? 🎸

responsible4self | responsible4self

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