When Love for Music Turns into a $8K ‘Hobby’: A Girlfriend’s Dilemma

Meet our 29-year-old heroine, living in harmony with her 28-year-old boyfriend, whose love for strumming the guitar was as melodious as their relationship. But what happens when this sweet symphony turns into a cacophony of cash-draining ‘hobby’? When the soothing strumming becomes a $8K financial burden, our heroine finds herself in a dilemma, questioning the legitimacy of her boyfriend’s ‘music career’. Let’s dive into this discordant saga.

The Sweet Symphony Begins

From Hobby to ‘Career’

The Band Practice Begins

The Cash Drain Begins

The House Turns into a Music Store

Work Hours Cut, No Gigs Landed

A Disappointing Band Practice

The Unfinished Song

The ‘Fun’ Band with No Gigs

The Confrontation Begins

The Accusation of Non-Support

A $8K Hobby or a Music Career? The Dilemma Continues…

Our heroine finds herself caught in a whirlwind of confusion, frustration, and financial strain. As the $8K ‘hobby’ continues to drain their resources, she questions the legitimacy of her boyfriend’s so-called ‘music career’. Despite the lack of gigs, reduced work hours, and an unfinished song from two years ago, he insists she’s unsupportive. As the discordant notes of this saga continue, we’re left wondering: Is she really the bad guy here? Or is it time for her boyfriend to face the music? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

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