Imagine waiting your whole life for someone to step up and be your father, only to watch him fulfill that role for someone else. This is the heartbreaking reality for a 23-year-old woman, who was left in tears after her stepsister referred to her own father as ‘dad’. This tale of longing, heartbreak, and familial drama will tug at your heartstrings.
A Childhood of Waiting ️
The ‘Fun Relative’
Call Me ‘Adam’, Not ‘Dad’
The Offer to Move In
Enter Stepmom and Stepsiblings
The Heartbreaking Moment
Confronting ‘Adam’
The Resentment Revealed
The Fallout ️
A Heartbreaking Tale of a Daughter’s Longing for a Father’s Love
This is a tale of a woman who spent her childhood waiting for her father to be ready to be a father. When she heard her stepsister call him ‘dad’, it shattered her heart. She confronted him, expressing her resentment for his readiness to be a father for her stepsister but not for her. This has led to a fallout, with her grandparents saying she was wrong to hold his past against him. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this emotionally charged situation…
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NTA! Stepsister’s dad prioritized himself over OP’s needs
NTA. Valid feelings. Dad needs to take you seriously. Therapy recommended.
OP’s unmet needs and wishes, therapy can help heal. NTA
NAH, but your grandparents kinda are. They are guilt tripping you for very valid feelings. Its very sad that your dad couldn’t be there for you when you were younger. But to repair that relationship he needs to see your feelings or at least you need to express them to somebody. Maybe a family therapy might help.
Sometimes the storm is needed so all family members are aware of each others feelings, here mainly your dad about yours.
Conflict is not necessarily a bad thing, it might be a chance to get together and for your dad to really see how you are and to keep working on the relationship.
NTA…he never acknowledged your feelings. It takes a man to be a father.
“NTA. Holding him accountable for his actions. Grandparents are wrong. “
“NTA. Dad’s choices caused abandonment feelings. Seek therapy for acceptance.”
Heartbroken woman shares her pain of unequal treatment from her dad
Heartbroken by absent father, but grandparents filled the void
Grandparents should talk to your dad, not put onus on you.
NAH – OP feels cheated, hurt, and bitter while dad learns from his mistake
Valid feelings, mature response. Hope for resolution with “Adam”
“NTA. Heartbreaking realization that he never wanted to be your father. “
NAH, but step sister’s dad should’ve prioritized his child first
Heartbreak shared, but spared the kiddo.
Heartbroken stepsister calls dad ‘dad’, commenter advises open communication.
Heartbreaking situation, but NAH. Empathy needed for all involved.
Grandparents enabling deadbeat dad, prioritize your safety and wellbeing.
NTA: The damage is done, it’s up to him to fix it
NTA. Heartbreaking situation. Seek professional help for unbiased support ❤️
Heartbreaking story of emotional abandonment and finding closure with family
NTA. OP’s dad’s actions show disregard, ignorance, and selfrightousness
Heartbroken woman confronts dad about stepsister’s hurtful comment.
NAH, he tried but it was too little, too late
Seek therapy to navigate overwhelming thoughts and emotions.
Validating comment and supportive replies. Consider therapy or journaling.
“NTA, it’s heartbreaking when family fails you. Stay strong “
Heartbreaking moment when stepsister calls her dad ‘dad’
Heartbreaking story of a distant father and step-siblings’ different relationships
Heartbroken by absent dad, but hopeful for future with stepmom. ❤️
NTA – Adults mishandled situation, father didn’t support you calling him dad
Empathetic comment validates feelings and condemns disrespectful behavior.
Heartbreak and healing: NTA, let him show his true colors
NTA, but dad needs to step up and make amends
Heartbreaking situation, but no a-holes here. There’s hope for healing. ❤️
Complicated family dynamics, valid emotions, and the need for communication.
Heartbreak and resentment over dad’s different treatment of step-sisters
Valid feelings, but expecting a 14 yo to be dad?
Understanding the complexities of family dynamics and finding a way forward
NTA OP. Absent father, valid feelings.
Heartbreaking betrayal by father and family. You deserve better
Heartwarming comment suggests counseling or a frank discussion ❤️
NTA. Heartbreaking situation, but healing is possible. Seek support
Understanding the complex dynamics of blended families
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Heartbroken OP seeks validation and healing after family betrayal.
Valid feelings, dad should feel like s**t.
Seek therapy, talk it out, your feelings are valid
NTA. Dad betrayal sets fire to the ball of family bonds.
NTA: Dad’s failure to transition caused heartbreak
Express your feelings to your dad/Adam and have an honest discussion
“It’s okay to feel upset, seek therapy to work through it.”
Heartbroken woman defends father’s hurt feelings over stepchild’s name change
NTA, emotionally mature response to step sister’s hurtful action
Heartbreak and family drama. NTA, Adam is the worst.
Heartbroken by dad’s rejection, grandparents TA for blaming you. NTA
Heartbroken woman calls out absent father, receives support
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Heartbroken stepsister called ‘Dad’ – strength, tears, and tattling
NTA. You didn’t ask to be born.
NTA, grandparents and dad share blame for shattered family dynamics
Heartbreaking situation, but you’re definitely NTA for feeling upset
“Adam” is heartbroken? He’s the dad, the parent.
Heartbreaking childhood trauma, but therapy can bring healing.
NTA. Your pain is valid, don’t let anyone make you feel bad
Validating response. Give him a chance to make amends ❤️
Heartbreak avoided! NTA wins stepsister’s respect and love. ❤️
NTA. Therapy can help process feelings. Good luck!
Heartbreaking situation Your feelings are valid, take time for yourself.
Heartbreak averted as stepsister acknowledges shared father ❤️
Heartbroken woman shares her pain of being neglected by her dad
OP seeks therapy and reconciliation with father. NTA
Valid feelings ignored by immature father and enabling grandparents.
“F**king hell. NTA. As a father, if that’s what he wants to be, it’s his job to sit there and take it. All the shitty things he did, the idiotic mistakes of youth, the poor decisions, the lack of time he spent just being there. That’s all on him. Yes, he was young and dumb, but that was him. You don’t get a do over on being a father. Raising a kid is like carving a stone, any mark you make is left. You could carve it out, but that’s an even bigger mark. And the other part of being a father is taking all of that shit, some of it justifiable, sometimes it’s not, and loving your kid anyway. I’m sure there are some extreme examples where someone’s child is so horrendously monstrous you’d want to disown them, but I can’t imagine one that would make me change my stance on my own children. I’d be disappointed and upset, but I’d still love them. You’re going to hold this over his head until the day he dies, and he has to be comfortable with that. Even if you manage to move past it, you’ve literally grown around this. It’s a part of who you were as a child, and has defined what you’ve become as an adult. Dude needs to read some parenting books, talk to some other parents, heck – talk to his own father. And the f**ked up thing is, he’ll probably realise these lessons far too late with his new family. Focus on your own healing for now. You’re just not ready to apologise, maybe in 16 years time. Maybe not.”
