PhD Student's Family Feud: A Battle of Priorities 🎓 vs. 🎉

Diply Social Team
Diply | Diply

Ever felt like your family just doesn't get your busy schedule? Meet our 27-year-old PhD student, caught in a tug-of-war between family expectations and academic commitments. Her family loves to plan surprise gatherings, but often forgets to check her availability. While she tries to balance her dissertation writing, teaching, and grading duties, her family feels left out. Let's dive into this family drama, where the struggle is real and the stakes are high. 📚💔

The Busy Bee 🐝

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Family Expectations vs Reality 🎉🕰️

redthrowfamily | redthrowfamily

The Unplanned Surprise 🏨

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The Unexpected Dinner Party 🍽️

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The Final Showdown 📝

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The Accusations Fly 🗣️

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The PhD Student's Defense 🛡️

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The Emotional Aftermath 😔

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A Heartfelt Dilemma: Family or Future? 🎭

Caught in a whirlwind of family expectations and academic responsibilities, our Ph.D. student is left questioning her choices. Her family feels she's pushing them away, while she feels they don't respect her commitments. Despite her efforts to balance both, the tension escalates, leaving everyone upset. Is she wrong for prioritizing her career? Or is her family being unreasonable? Let's see what the internet has to say about this emotional rollercoaster. 🎢🌐

Establish boundaries with your family and prioritize your own needs ✋

ed_lv | ed_lv

NTA. Stand your ground and communicate boundaries with your family 👊

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PhD student shares frustrations of being left out of plans 😡

Yondertheregoes | Yondertheregoes

"Absolutely NTA. In-laws make plans for us without asking. Manipulative!"

PattyNChips | PattyNChips

Setting boundaries with family can be challenging 🙏

Lola_M1224 | Lola_M1224

NTA. Boundaries matter. Respect someone's time and autonomy. 📲

Salty-Lavishness8340 | Salty-Lavishness8340

NTA. Stand your ground, OP, and best wishes on your Ph.D! 🎓

Arbor_Arabicae | Arbor_Arabicae

NTA: Family feud over priorities, but who's really at fault? 🤔

The__Riker__Maneuver | The__Riker__Maneuver

NTA. Family's entitlement and disregard for your life is gaslighting 💥

XaryenMaelstrom | XaryenMaelstrom

Family feud: NTA faces super inconsiderate family 😱

Snoo-91342 | Snoo-91342

NTA - Family refuses to involve OP in planning process 🙄

Complicated_Disaster | Complicated_Disaster

NTA: Stand your ground and prioritize your responsibilities 💪

LuvMeLongThyme | LuvMeLongThyme

"NTA. Set boundaries and let them deal with their rudeness."

bruins_fan | bruins_fan

"NTA - They should support you, even if it gets worse!"

unjessicabiel_evable | unjessicabiel_evable

NTA. Busy schedule, reasonable request. Family being ridiculous. 🙄

wraithofwords | wraithofwords

Not the a**hole. Let the feud begin! 🎉

Icy-Cherry-8143 | Icy-Cherry-8143

NTA. Family counseling could help resolve communication issues 👩‍💻

Silly-Lengthiness-82 | Silly-Lengthiness-82

Take control of your time and prioritize yourself 💪

MzzMolly | MzzMolly

Clingy family suffocating PhD student's dreams. Time to set boundaries! 👊

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NTA: Family needs to involve you in planning, not guilt trip.

CrystalQueen3000 | CrystalQueen3000

Budget your time and money wisely, don't let others dictate.

lapsteelguitar | lapsteelguitar

Supportive comment questions possible sabotage by family. 📲

2squirrelpeople | 2squirrelpeople

"No is a complete sentence." - Setting boundaries like a boss 💪

Starryeyedblond | Starryeyedblond

Grad student solidarity! Embrace the chaos of academia 🎓

gistinn | gistinn

NTA. Family struggles with seeing oldest child as an adult 🙌

glimpseeowyn | glimpseeowyn

Take a stand and stop enabling their behavior! 💪

sdbinnl | sdbinnl

NTA: Plan a lunch they can't make to show their greediness 🎓

Lurkingentropy | Lurkingentropy

Setting boundaries with tourists in a tourist town. NTA 🎓

nklights | nklights

NTA. Plan a weekend away with clear communication. It's not difficult 👍

Violet351 | Violet351

Cut them off! They're stressful and unsupportive 🙄

Risk_Confident | Risk_Confident

NTA: Set boundaries and communicate availability to avoid conflicts 👍

UpstairsAd4783 | UpstairsAd4783

Grown-up struggles: Setting boundaries with grumpy family members 🙋

Peetrrabbit | Peetrrabbit

Family support: Love you when you succeed, criticize when you fail

PA_Archer | PA_Archer

Family excludes PhD student from decision-making. NTA for prioritizing self.

TerrorAlpaca | TerrorAlpaca

Family holding back PhD student from independence. 😭

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Cut ties with them. You're not the a**hole. 🚫

Tkote420 | Tkote420

NTA. Balancing work and family can be challenging. 🤷‍♂️

OcelotTea | OcelotTea

No a-hole here. A harmonious battle of priorities 🎉

ynvesoohnka7nn | ynvesoohnka7nn

Stand your ground! They don't understand the PhD grind. 💪

KaetzenOrkester | KaetzenOrkester

NTA. Stand your ground and let them learn from their actions! 👏

Actual_Geologist_316 | Actual_Geologist_316

NTA. Set boundaries and communicate openly with your family. 👍

that_was_way_harsh | that_was_way_harsh

NTA: Family excludes PhD student from activities, disrespectful and rude 😠

khalibats | khalibats

Scheduling time with friends to escape clingy family 🙌

JustJudgin | JustJudgin

"No. I'm >twice your age and my mom (in her 80s) still does what your family does. I just say "no" and move on. I think it's a mom thing. I learned years ago to not explain why I wouldn't go because it then gave room for argument/negotiation; if she pushes i just say "Mom, I said I'm not going, it's not open for debate". As a parent of adults I also get it. I tell my kids I'm going to X on Y-Z dates and you're welcome to come; and depending on their schedules they do or they don't. Obviously I'd love them to come but we all have our own schedules." 🙏

Flamingo33316 | Flamingo33316

Family guilt trips? NTA, set boundaries and live your life! 🙌

SnooWords4839 | SnooWords4839

NTA. Priorities clash: family vs. PhD. Who's entitled? 🤔

Pyewacketkitty | Pyewacketkitty

NTA. Prioritize your own life and don't feel guilty about it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Apprehensive_Cat_73 | Apprehensive_Cat_73

Birthday plans always made without me, but now they consult.

AnnieLosAngeles | AnnieLosAngeles

Setting boundaries: NTA uses app to maintain family calendar 📅

The1983Jedi | The1983Jedi

Overcoming family obligations and resentment: NTA, prioritize your well-being 👍

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Not the a**hole, but what's the story behind it? 🤔

Nefarious-kitten | Nefarious-kitten

Bartender's struggle with mom's weekend plans. Relatable and frustrating 🙄

Maddyherselius | Maddyherselius

Exile toxic family? NTA battles controlling behavior. 🚫

diefree85 | diefree85

NTA. PhD struggles: misunderstood, interrupted, and underappreciated. Keep pushing forward! 🎓

RevKyriel | RevKyriel

NTA if they don't appreciate your heavy workload and guilt trip you. 📚

Kindly-Platform-2193 | Kindly-Platform-2193

NTA. Your success doesn't define their self-worth. Keep shining! ✨

loginorregister9 | loginorregister9

Family undermining PhD student? 🤔

Key_Draft4255 | Key_Draft4255

"NTA! It's a darn shame they don't respect your career and goals. 🙏"

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Set boundaries and communicate your schedule. Some people won't understand 🙄

wyecoyote2 | wyecoyote2

Family feud: NTA, but they're selfish and inconsiderate. Stand your ground! 💪

MerlinBiggs | MerlinBiggs

NTA: Family doesn't respect your adulthood, causing ongoing conflicts 🙅

digitydigitydoo | digitydigitydoo

Stand your ground and make your boundaries crystal clear! 💪

Thyumos | Thyumos

NTA - Family unrealistic, prioritizing career, horror of their demands! 😱

bureaucratic_drift | bureaucratic_drift

Stand up for yourself! 🚫👑 Don't let them treat you like a kid.

Picnut | Picnut

NTA. Embrace your dreams and priorities, let entitled family cope 😊

PsychologyAutomatic3 | PsychologyAutomatic3

Family doesn't understand PhD student's demanding career. Frustrating situation 😔

Knittingfairy09113 | Knittingfairy09113

NTA. Prioritizing your future and setting boundaries is important 👍

4U2NV1981 | 4U2NV1981

Grad school stress and boundaries with parents. NTA 🙏

ComprehensiveBand586 | ComprehensiveBand586

NTA: Family doesn't get the sacrifices of a PhD student 🎓

Algebralovr | Algebralovr

Balancing work and family: NTA prioritizes job over plans 🎓

Shamira25 | Shamira25

NTA. Independence and respect are key in adult relationships. 🙌

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NTA. Communication is key. 📱

augustwindfire | augustwindfire

Take charge of your life! Remind your parents who's boss 🎓

serenasplaycousin | serenasplaycousin

Stand up for yourself and set boundaries with your family. 💪

JHawk444 | JHawk444

Stand your ground! You're an adult, set your boundaries 💪

legallylarping | legallylarping

NTA. Embrace your independence and enjoy life beyond family obligations! 🎓

Safe_Frosting1807 | Safe_Frosting1807

NTA. They're ridiculous. 😂

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NTA. Boundaries with mom: plans, friends, boyfriend, and introversion.

immadriftersbody | immadriftersbody

NTA: Don't let others make plans without your input 👍

rainbownectarstudios | rainbownectarstudios

NTA. Family doesn't understand PhD expectations, lacks consideration for schedule.

TaliesinMerlin | TaliesinMerlin

Common decency: ask before expecting. Not the a**hole. 👍

Cyarsonix | Cyarsonix

NTA. Guilt trip? Not on your watch! 🎉

Quicksilver1964 | Quicksilver1964

NTA. Family disrespectful of your time. Prioritize grades and dissertation. 🎓

Careless-Image-885 | Careless-Image-885

Balancing fairness and family: A PhD student's noble dilemma ✨

tarosselli | tarosselli

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