Woman's Bold Stand Against Absentee Father: 'I Already Have a Dad'

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Imagine growing up without a father figure, only to have him reappear when you're all grown up. This is the reality for a 24-year-old woman, who we'll call Jane. Jane's biological father, who she refers to as 'Sperm Donor' (SD), was absent for most of her life due to multiple stints in prison. But when he finally reached out, Jane had a clear message for him: 'I already have a dad.' This emotional tale is a rollercoaster of family drama, heartache, and the strength of a woman setting boundaries. 🎢💔

The Absentee Father

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The Devastating Goodbye

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The Real Dad Steps In

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The Return of the Sperm Donor

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The Disappearance Act

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The Confrontation

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The Hurtful Response

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The Lingering Guilt

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The Complex Family Tree

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The Silent Treatment

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A Daughter's Struggle: Balancing Boundaries and Longing

Jane's story is a poignant exploration of family dynamics, emotional boundaries, and the struggle to reconcile with an absentee father. After a life spent largely without her biological father, she was forced to navigate the tricky waters of his return. Despite her desire to know him as a person, she was firm in her stance that she already had a dad, a statement that seemed to push him away. Now, she grapples with guilt and a lingering desire for connection. As we delve into the internet's reactions to this complex situation, let's remember the strength it takes to set boundaries, even when it hurts. 💔

NTA. Absentee father wants to be a grandparent without parenting.

PlaneJaneLane03 | PlaneJaneLane03

NTA. Clear communication is key, but he may have misunderstood. 🤔

thegreatiaino | thegreatiaino

NTA. Your 'Dad' is the person who raised you. 🙌

Nashiker2020 | Nashiker2020

Mom's meddling in your relationship with SD is unnecessary. NTA! ✋

Laramila | Laramila

NTA: Setting boundaries with absent father, he should be grateful 😊

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NTA - Bold truth, but extend an olive branch for closure. 💬

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NTA: Boldly standing up to absentee father, finding a better dad 👏

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NTA. Finding a real dad is a game-changer. 🎯

lady_polaris | lady_polaris

Bold truth-telling: NTA, sometimes the truth hurts 😬

skywalkera420 | skywalkera420

NTA - Reach out to other family members for support ❤️

Swegh_ | Swegh_

NTA. A real dad loves and raises, not just donates.

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NTA. Your mom needs to prioritize your feelings 👏

imjustlurkinghere244 | imjustlurkinghere244

Setting boundaries with absent father, choosing chosen family 💪

bambiintheheadlights | bambiintheheadlights

NTA: Absentee father gets called out, daughter takes a stand

Doris_Useless | Doris_Useless

NTA. SD is a selfish, self-centered human. You deserve better 😡

darkscottishloch | darkscottishloch

NTA - SD is a grown ass baby. He made his bed, now he can lay in it. 💪

skoorie | skoorie

NTA: Husband's father vs. dad, a title earned ❤️

iolaus79 | iolaus79

NTA: Respectful disagreement about sperm donors and infertility struggles.

lea2013 | lea2013

Moving on from absentee father: NTA, but a dead issue.

Equivalent-Horror-67 | Equivalent-Horror-67

NTA. Your sperm donor wants a trophy, not a daughter. You're lucky to have a great dad who stepped up. 👏

Arclet__ | Arclet__

Bold woman stands up to absentee father. Consequences for his actions. 💪

UrbanGhillieSuit | UrbanGhillieSuit

NTA: Absentee father's neglect and rejection, stepdad is true dad ❤️

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NTA stands up to absent father: 'What did he expect? 🤷‍♀️'

NotSoBunny | NotSoBunny

Not the a**hole. Taking a stand against an absentee father. 👏

danythegoddess | danythegoddess

NTA: You have a dad, SD is missing out 👍

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NTA: Standing up to absent birth family, no regrets 🤷🏼‍♀️😆

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NTA - Stand strong, don't let guilt sway your boundaries. 🚫🧔

Limerase | Limerase

NTA: A true parent is there for their child, always. 🙏

sylvanasisBDE | sylvanasisBDE

NTA. Mom defends absentee dad? Unbelievable! 🤬

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👏 NTA. Your dad is the one who raised you. 🙌

Central_Perk_101 | Central_Perk_101

Commenter stands up for herself, prioritizing her own feelings 💪

Individual-Gain-9958 | Individual-Gain-9958

NTA. Reach out slowly, he may feel useless and like a failure.

west-coast-xennial | west-coast-xennial

NTA- Setting boundaries with absent father, creating a chosen family ❤️

terranymph | terranymph

NTA: Taking a stand against a deadbeat dad 💪👊

TypicalManagement680 | TypicalManagement680

Therapist supports woman's decision to set boundaries with absent father ✊

MydogoverTrump | MydogoverTrump

Setting boundaries with absent father: NTA, he's being immature 👏

SassyBSN | SassyBSN

NTA. Setting boundaries to protect yourself from an absent father. 🚫

Aggressive-Sample612 | Aggressive-Sample612

NTA for finding a new dad who loves and supports you ❤️

CastaliaRayne | CastaliaRayne

NTA: Absentee father's questionable involvement with younger half-sisters. 🤔

Diabegi | Diabegi

Changing my last name to my stepdad's was empowering 💪

DinoMaster365 | DinoMaster365

Taking a stand against absent father: 'I owe him nothing' ✊

missy-scribbles | missy-scribbles

NTA. You don't have to fix someone else's mess. 🙌

Dianachick | Dianachick

NTA. It's not about him. 👏

AliManny | AliManny

Bold response to absentee father: 'Too little, too late'

MiserableInevitable9 | MiserableInevitable9

NTA for standing up to absent father. You have a dad 👨🏽‍👦 and he's there for you 👏

PeculiarMicrowave | PeculiarMicrowave

Clear who the a**hole is here, and it's not you 😎

Keltik_ | Keltik_

NTA: Standing up to an absentee father with no remorse 👏

Human_Pickle_2362 | Human_Pickle_2362

NTA- Absentee father's regret hits hard, but you're not to blame 😔

QueenBee0414 | QueenBee0414

"NTA. Who gives a s**t if his feelings are hurt? 🤷‍♀️ You made your intentions clear."

YEAHRocko | YEAHRocko

NTA, but consider clarifying your intentions to avoid misunderstandings.

TurtleDangerMan | TurtleDangerMan

"NTA. You moved on, he needs to live with it. 👏"

Leolover812 | Leolover812

Mom's got your back! You're definitely NTA in this.

Purplestripes8 | Purplestripes8

NTA. Setting boundaries against an absentee father. Don't play his game!

FP11001 | FP11001

Sisters kiss ass, but she calls out absentee 'sperm donor' 😮

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Engaging caption for the comment and its replies

loudent2 | loudent2

"Real" family isn't just about blood. 🙌

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