Mom of Twins in a Tug-of-War Over Childcare Costs: Who's Right? 😲

Diply Social Team
Diply | Diply

Meet our heroine, a 39-year-old mother of adorable twins, Lucas and Leah. She's locked in a battle of wills with her ex-partner, Billy, over childcare costs. Billy, a father of five, wants her to foot the bill for their twins' childcare, but there's a twist - he's not providing any proof of these costs. Our mom is standing her ground, refusing to pay without evidence. But is she in the wrong? Let's dive into this dramatic tale. 🎭

Meet the Family 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

ask_enough | ask_enough

The Split and the Strain 😔

ask_enough | ask_enough

The Childcare Conundrum 🤷‍♀️

ask_enough | ask_enough

The Girlfriend's Struggles 😓

ask_enough | ask_enough

A Mother's Offer Rejected 😞

ask_enough | ask_enough

Billy's Solution: Childcare for All 🏫

ask_enough | ask_enough

The Cost Conundrum: No Proof, No Pay? 💸

ask_enough | ask_enough

A Standoff Over Paperwork 📄

ask_enough | ask_enough

A Compromise Rejected 😡

ask_enough | ask_enough

Caught in the Crossfire 🎯

ask_enough | ask_enough

The Waiting Game ⏳

ask_enough | ask_enough

A Mother's Perspective 👩‍👧‍👦

ask_enough | ask_enough

A Final Note 📝

ask_enough | ask_enough

A Mother's Stand: To Pay or Not to Pay? 💰🤷‍♀️

Our heroine, a mother of twins, is caught in a childcare cost clash with her ex-partner, Billy. Billy, father of five, insists she pays for their twins' childcare, but won't provide any proof of these costs. Despite her generous offer to pay half, Billy and his girlfriend demand the full amount, citing financial struggles. With no official agreement in place yet, our mom is standing her ground, refusing to pay without evidence. But, is she in the wrong? Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🕵️‍♀️

NTA: Demand evidence of childcare costs, don't pay for all 5 kids. 😲

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA: Stand your ground and demand official receipts for transparency 😲

sizzlingtofu | sizzlingtofu

"NTA. Why pay for childcare when kids are with Billy? 😲"

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA suspects something fishy and plans to investigate the daycare. 🤔

Only-Primary-6584 | Only-Primary-6584

NTA - Childcare isn't family time, it's a load of nonsense. 😲

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA, plenty of options available. What does the agreement say?

WanderingWedding | WanderingWedding

Mom refuses to pay for childcare, sparks debate over responsibility 😲

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA - Ex should pay for childcare costs, not OP. 😲

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA 😲 You've offered solutions, he refused. Get invoice directly from source.

Unlucky-Profession41 | Unlucky-Profession41

Stick to your guns and demand an invoice. Case closed! 💪

UmeBark | UmeBark

NTA. Don't pay without receipts or bills. He's trying to scam you! 😲

DoctorFujiOD | DoctorFujiOD

NTA offers reasonable solution 👍

Sujynx | Sujynx

NTA. Set clear boundaries and responsibilities to avoid future conflicts. 🙌

SunshineandMurder | SunshineandMurder

NTA. Billy has the right to reject childcare arrangement. 🤷‍♂️

Homer_04_13 | Homer_04_13

NTA: Fiery response to ex's refusal to pay childcare costs! 🔥

bright_copperkettles | bright_copperkettles

NTA - Lawyer up! Don't let your ex take advantage. 😲

BigBoiPrettyKitty | BigBoiPrettyKitty

NTA. Maybe he shouldn't have had more children with someone who isn't willing to watch them? 😲

lmholot1981 | lmholot1981

NTA - Assert your rights and consult a lawyer for advice. 👍

HowardProject | HowardProject

NTA, demand receipts and formalize custody to prevent future issues. 👌

[deleted] | [deleted]

"NTA You don't need proof. It's his responsibility. Make him pay!"

SevsMumma21217 | SevsMumma21217

Offered childcare, but ex wants money. Who's right? 😲

iolaus79 | iolaus79

"Definitely NTA. You're not liable for childcare costs. 😲"

Batty_Kat89 | Batty_Kat89

NTA: Split childcare costs based on time spent with children 👨‍👩‍👦

90sLady | 90sLady

NTA, stop being a doormat. Nice kick up your butt! 😲

LonelyTrack6 | LonelyTrack6

NTA. Take matters into your own hands and get the facts! 👍

RindaC10 | RindaC10

Ex's BM inflated costs, demanded 50%, but got called out 😲

pisa36 | pisa36

Demand proof of childcare costs, be involved in decision-making. 🙌

LitBit_618 | LitBit_618

INFO. No custody agreement, but girlfriend shouldn't dictate child care. 😲

Peacesalam | Peacesalam

"NTA. You deserve an invoice for childcare costs. 😲"

laurakershaw | laurakershaw

🤔 Interesting question about names and fake identities in comments

[deleted] | [deleted]

"NTA: Your ex should be responsible for childcare during custody 😲"

milee30 | milee30

NTA! You've offered an alternate solution to avoid the costs 😲

vaulthuntervalkyrie | vaulthuntervalkyrie

Stand up for yourself and take it to court! 🙌

lonnielee3 | lonnielee3

NTA. Settle it in court. Don't pay without an invoice. 😲

UnhappyCryptographer | UnhappyCryptographer

Mom refuses to pay all childcare costs, sparks custody dispute. 😲

aquasaurex | aquasaurex

NTA: Brutal honesty about ex's irresponsibility and need for sterilization. 😲

Only-Primary-6584 | Only-Primary-6584

NTA. Don't pay. Make sure divorce decree covers childcare costs. 💪

Cgt1234 | Cgt1234

NTA. Offered alternative, rejected. Get 'right of first refusal' court order.

SoValkyrieMama | SoValkyrieMama

NTA, don't let him make you pay for all 4 kids 😲

lululovebox | lululovebox

NTA, don't pay for childcare on his time! 😲

mfruitfly | mfruitfly

👩‍⚖️ Get the courts involved to set fair ground rules.

Inner-Nothing7779 | Inner-Nothing7779

NTA, but honey, get a lawyer fast. Thankfully I've seen the light. :)

lavenderthembo | lavenderthembo

Generous offer to watch kids for free, but he refuses? NTA 😲

kittensjamesandlily | kittensjamesandlily

Don't waste your time or money, let him pay up! 💵

TequilaMockingbird80 | TequilaMockingbird80

No agreement, no payment. It's his responsibility. 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA: Stand your ground and prioritize your kids' well-being. 👏

thedaybefore1 | thedaybefore1

Divorced mom stands her ground on childcare costs. 💪

cat-congrats | cat-congrats

NTA. Dad should step up and take responsibility. 😲

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA. Get a lawyer for a formal custody agreement ASAP! 😲

murano84 | murano84

NTA. You're not on the childcare's list? Hands off, Billy!

MalsPrettyBonnet | MalsPrettyBonnet

Generous offer or fishy situation? NTA in childcare cost dispute. 😲

likeahike | likeahike

NTA: Ex's new partner underestimated the challenges of parenting. 🤷‍♀️

just-peepin-at-u | just-peepin-at-u

"NTA, demand proof of payment & explore 'first right of refusal' 😲"

HKFukIt | HKFukIt

NTA refuses to pay for childcare, offers compromise, but rejected. 😲

[deleted] | [deleted]

Mom refuses to pay for childcare, sparks debate. 😲

boinktheclown | boinktheclown

NTA: He wants custody, he pays; can't afford it, give up.

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA. Keep your money for child support. 👤

NagaApi8888 | NagaApi8888

Mom asserts her right to not pay for childcare costs. 😲

Trasl0 | Trasl0

NTA. Get a lawyer to protect yourself from his manipulation. 😲

saurellia | saurellia

Not the a**hole for standing up for childcare costs! 👏

DecayingFruit | DecayingFruit

Don't let him fleece you! Stand up for fair childcare costs! 💪

[deleted] | [deleted]

Filed Under: