Parental Dilemma: Sending Only One Daughter to Study Abroad – Fair or Foul?

Imagine this: You’re a parent of two teenage daughters, both with different interests and attitudes towards life. One is a party animal with a casual approach to academics, the other, a dedicated student with clear career goals. Now, you’re faced with a decision that could change their lives forever. You can only afford to send one of them to study abroad. Who do you choose?

Meet the Daughters: A Tale of Two Personalities

The Party Animal Daughter

The Alcohol Dilemma

The Lockdown Effect

The University Dream… or Nightmare?

The Ultimatum ⏳⚖️

The Other Daughter: A Different Story

The Sober Sister

The Alternative Option

The Final Standoff

A Parent’s Predicament: To Fund or Not to Fund? ‍♀️

Caught in a whirlwind of teenage rebellion, parental love, and financial constraints, this parent is faced with a tough decision. Daughter A, the party-loving high schooler, dreams of studying abroad but has a troubling relationship with alcohol. Daughter B, the studious and sober sibling, also aspires to study overseas. With only enough resources to support one, the parent must decide who gets the golden ticket. Will it be A, with her unchecked habits and unclear academic interests, or B, with her clear career goals and sober lifestyle? Let’s see how the world weighs in on this family drama.

Giving both daughters a fair chance to succeed or fail

NTA for wanting daughter to demonstrate interest in studying abroad

Suggest studying in the home country first, then transfer abroad ✈️

Concerns about drug abuse and workload in Netherlands universities

Loving your kids equally ≠ treating them the same.

Sending A to the Netherlands: Smart or Money Down Well?

NTA: Daughter’s lack of effort and interest in degree questioned.

Concerned about daughter’s well-being abroad due to potential alcohol issues

Studying abroad: a pinnacle of education or just partying?

NTA. Daughter must earn trust, prove responsibility before studying abroad.

NTA for being realistic about different needs. Not all stereotypes!

NTA: Study abroad is a privilege, A should earn it.

NTA, but therapy needed for potential alcoholism. Good luck!

INFO: Daughter wants to study abroad, but has limited options.

INFO: Could A have undiagnosed ADHD? A’s lack of focus and impulse control could be a clue.

Daughter wants to study abroad but shows deception and inability to study. NTA.

Agreeing that actions have consequences, NTA for not sending A

NTA. Setting rules for success and accountability.

Recommend A to study in Australia for a fresh start!

Misread comment leads to NTA judgment. Alcohol caution advised.

NTA. Set boundaries for daughter’s study abroad to balance responsibility ✈️

Parent favors one daughter’s dream over the other, causing resentment. NTA

NTA feels overshadowed by sister’s partying, wants fair treatment

Daughter B’s EU opportunity for free education and financial aid

NTA. A must prove she’s committed to studying abroad.

NTA. Enabling A is like giving alcohol to an alcoholic.

NTA: Treat both daughters equally, but support based on their choices.

Studying abroad on a budget? Check out the Netherlands!

INFO: Can credits transfer? Set a benchmark for A to transfer.

Concerned commenter suggests rehab for depressed daughter’s drinking problem.

NTA. Daughter A wants to follow friends, offer probationary semester.

Sibling rivalry and favoritism – a recipe for resentment

Feeling left out as parents favor siblings with children.

NTA: Justified in sending daughter abroad, but consider rehab first

Sending only one daughter abroad due to drinking concerns. NTA.

NTA. Daughter must prove herself before studying abroad.

NTA: It’s your money, your choice. Maybe A can earn it!

Parent concerned about daughter’s substance abuse and safety abroad.

NTA. Trust issues with daughter’s spending habits and potential alcohol abuse.

Inspiring comment about fairness and setting goals for children.

Parent’s consideration and empathy make them better than many. NTA

Equal opportunities for studying abroad, but one daughter earned it

NTA. Fair to prioritize responsible daughter for study abroad.

NTA, European student shares responsible and frugal study abroad experience ✈️

NTA. Push A to be independent before considering school.

Drinking culture in Denmark: a responsible daughter’s dilemma.

EU citizen curious about commenter’s nationality

Study abroad cautionary tale: NTA warns about partying and irresponsibility

Engage both daughters with essays, rules, and bonuses for fairness

NTA. Privilege of studying abroad, not owed to either daughter.

Top university law program: Does daughter have the grades?

Is A an alcoholic or just a typical teen?

NTA

What are A’s grades like?

NTA. B’s inability to handle therapy and high school suggests she may struggle abroad.

NTA. Give her a chance to prove herself and address concerns.

Considering a trial period for daughter A’s intentions abroad?

Is drug use in the Netherlands really less dangerous than drinking?

Don’t let child A manipulate you! Stand your ground!

NTA. Encourage A to work in Netherlands and explore education.

Netherlands education system explained NTA verdict, but no favoritism!

Homer Simpson dilemma: Sending Bart or Lisa to college? NTA!

Encouraging comment about studying abroad and having a backup plan

Concerns about A’s behavior and equal opportunities for both daughters

NTA Daughter A’s study abroad plans raise suspicions about her intentions

NTA. Personal experience with sibling’s wasted education opportunities.

A chance to study abroad: fair or risky?

Send responsible daughter abroad, let other prove responsibility first.

Don’t stereotype your kids! Give them both a shot at school