Parental Dilemma: Sending Only One Daughter to Study Abroad - Fair or Foul?

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Imagine this: You're a parent of two teenage daughters, both with different interests and attitudes towards life. One is a party animal with a casual approach to academics, the other, a dedicated student with clear career goals. Now, you're faced with a decision that could change their lives forever. You can only afford to send one of them to study abroad. Who do you choose? 🤔💔

Meet the Daughters: A Tale of Two Personalities 🎭

kiyaxem | kiyaxem

The Party Animal Daughter 🥳🍻

kiyaxem | kiyaxem

The Alcohol Dilemma 🍷🚫

kiyaxem | kiyaxem

The Lockdown Effect 🏠🔒

kiyaxem | kiyaxem

The University Dream... or Nightmare? 🎓🔮

kiyaxem | kiyaxem

The Ultimatum ⏳⚖️

kiyaxem | kiyaxem

The Other Daughter: A Different Story 📚💼

kiyaxem | kiyaxem

The Sober Sister 🍵📖

kiyaxem | kiyaxem

The Alternative Option 🏠🎒

kiyaxem | kiyaxem

The Final Standoff 🥊💥

kiyaxem | kiyaxem

A Parent's Predicament: To Fund or Not to Fund? 🤷‍♀️💰

Caught in a whirlwind of teenage rebellion, parental love, and financial constraints, this parent is faced with a tough decision. Daughter A, the party-loving high schooler, dreams of studying abroad but has a troubling relationship with alcohol. Daughter B, the studious and sober sibling, also aspires to study overseas. With only enough resources to support one, the parent must decide who gets the golden ticket. Will it be A, with her unchecked habits and unclear academic interests, or B, with her clear career goals and sober lifestyle? Let's see how the world weighs in on this family drama. 🌍🎭

Giving both daughters a fair chance to succeed or fail 👍

scrappy8350 | scrappy8350

NTA for wanting daughter to demonstrate interest in studying abroad 🎓

WebbieVanderquack | WebbieVanderquack

Suggest studying in the home country first, then transfer abroad ✈️

Amara_Undone | Amara_Undone

Concerns about drug abuse and workload in Netherlands universities 🌿💼

dutchgirl2_0 | dutchgirl2_0

Loving your kids equally ≠ treating them the same. 🙌

RoyallyOakie | RoyallyOakie

Sending A to the Netherlands: Smart or Money Down Well?

ChalkButter | ChalkButter

NTA: Daughter's lack of effort and interest in degree questioned.

Seren-hitty | Seren-hitty

Concerned about daughter's well-being abroad due to potential alcohol issues 🍷

lemondagger | lemondagger

Studying abroad: a pinnacle of education or just partying? 🎓🌍

tj1226 | tj1226

NTA. Daughter must earn trust, prove responsibility before studying abroad. 👍

Practical_Heart7287 | Practical_Heart7287

NTA for being realistic about different needs. Not all stereotypes!

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NTA: Study abroad is a privilege, A should earn it.

katchal8a | katchal8a

NTA, but therapy needed for potential alcoholism. Good luck! 🍻

sleepycatbeans | sleepycatbeans

INFO: Daughter wants to study abroad, but has limited options.

b3tchn | b3tchn

INFO: Could A have undiagnosed ADHD? A's lack of focus and impulse control could be a clue. 🤔

the-b1tch | the-b1tch

🚩 Daughter wants to study abroad but shows deception and inability to study. NTA.

Yeniary | Yeniary

Agreeing that actions have consequences, NTA for not sending A

Gypsylee333 | Gypsylee333

NTA. Setting rules for success and accountability. 💪🌴

MidnightWolf239 | MidnightWolf239

Recommend A to study in Australia for a fresh start! 🌎

animalsbeforehumans | animalsbeforehumans

Misread comment leads to NTA judgment. Alcohol caution advised. 🍻

pnutbuttercups56 | pnutbuttercups56

NTA. Set boundaries for daughter's study abroad to balance responsibility ✈️

WeirdCrazyCatLady | WeirdCrazyCatLady

Parent favors one daughter's dream over the other, causing resentment. NTA

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NTA feels overshadowed by sister's partying, wants fair treatment 🎓🎉

Random_51 | Random_51

Daughter B's EU opportunity for free education and financial aid 💰

EmulsionPast | EmulsionPast

NTA. A must prove she's committed to studying abroad. 📚

are_ukejoking | are_ukejoking

NTA. Enabling A is like giving alcohol to an alcoholic.

Feeling-better2day | Feeling-better2day

NTA: Treat both daughters equally, but support based on their choices.

NorthernLitUp | NorthernLitUp

Studying abroad on a budget? 🌍 Check out the Netherlands!

MindSwipe | MindSwipe

INFO: Can credits transfer? Set a benchmark for A to transfer.

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Concerned commenter suggests rehab for depressed daughter's drinking problem. 💔

Charliestockz | Charliestockz

NTA. Daughter A wants to follow friends, offer probationary semester. 🎓

CatsnBrujerias | CatsnBrujerias

Sibling rivalry and favoritism - a recipe for resentment 😠

Rayne2522 | Rayne2522

Feeling left out as parents favor siblings with children. 😔

OverthinkingWanderer | OverthinkingWanderer

NTA: Justified in sending daughter abroad, but consider rehab first 🍻

the-tennismaster | the-tennismaster

Sending only one daughter abroad due to drinking concerns. NTA.

SweeetasCinnamon | SweeetasCinnamon

NTA. Daughter must prove herself before studying abroad. 💪

Kunoichi_Kya | Kunoichi_Kya

NTA: It's your money, your choice. Maybe A can earn it!

cgriff86 | cgriff86

Parent concerned about daughter's substance abuse and safety abroad. 💔

Forsaken_Silver9854 | Forsaken_Silver9854

NTA. Trust issues with daughter's spending habits and potential alcohol abuse.

holisarcasm | holisarcasm

Inspiring comment about fairness and setting goals for children.

twentycharacterz | twentycharacterz

Parent's consideration and empathy make them better than many. NTA

Square-Concept | Square-Concept

Equal opportunities for studying abroad, but one daughter earned it 🎓

re_nonsequiturs | re_nonsequiturs

NTA. Fair to prioritize responsible daughter for study abroad.

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NTA, European student shares responsible and frugal study abroad experience ✈️

Don_R_L | Don_R_L

NTA. Push A to be independent before considering school. 🧐

Babaloo_Monkey | Babaloo_Monkey

🍻 Drinking culture in Denmark: a responsible daughter's dilemma. 🤔

DKhoneybadger89 | DKhoneybadger89

EU citizen curious about commenter's nationality 🌍

CheerilyTerrified | CheerilyTerrified

Study abroad cautionary tale: NTA warns about partying and irresponsibility 🌍🍻

throw-away_fri | throw-away_fri

Engage both daughters with essays, rules, and bonuses for fairness 😊

ThexDgirly | ThexDgirly

NTA. Privilege of studying abroad, not owed to either daughter.

GrayManGroup | GrayManGroup

🎓 Top university law program: Does daughter have the grades?

Flashy-Consequence28 | Flashy-Consequence28

Is A an alcoholic or just a typical teen? 🤔

PanamaViejo | PanamaViejo

NTA What are A's grades like? 🤔

AnnaBanana3468 | AnnaBanana3468

NTA. B's inability to handle therapy and high school suggests she may struggle abroad.

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NTA. Give her a chance to prove herself and address concerns.

burnalicious111 | burnalicious111

💰 Considering a trial period for daughter A's intentions abroad?

Avversariocasuale | Avversariocasuale

Is drug use in the Netherlands really less dangerous than drinking?

rilooij | rilooij

Don't let child A manipulate you! Stand your ground! 😡

intrepidpeace | intrepidpeace

NTA. Encourage A to work in Netherlands and explore education. 👍

alixanjou | alixanjou

Netherlands education system explained 🇳🇱 NTA verdict, but no favoritism!

sheneededahero | sheneededahero

Homer Simpson dilemma: Sending Bart or Lisa to college? NTA!

juniorista1987 | juniorista1987

Encouraging comment about studying abroad and having a backup plan

ltlyellowcloud | ltlyellowcloud

🍻 Concerns about A's behavior and equal opportunities for both daughters

passmetheTP | passmetheTP

NTA Daughter A's study abroad plans raise suspicions about her intentions 🤔

treoni | treoni

NTA. Personal experience with sibling's wasted education opportunities.

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🌍🚀 A chance to study abroad: fair or risky? 🤔

FictionWeavile | FictionWeavile

Send responsible daughter abroad, let other prove responsibility first. 👍

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Don't stereotype your kids! Give them both a shot at school 💪

Eat_trash26 | Eat_trash26

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