Mixed Race Woman's Hair Advice Sparks Family Drama 😱

Diply Social Team
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Picture this: a mixed race woman with curly hair, married into a white family, sits down for a family dinner. She's closer to her in-laws than her own family, and they're all discussing the hurtful comments she's been facing lately. But when her sister-in-law (SIL) suggests she straighten her hair to look less 'ethnic' and avoid racism, things take a dramatic turn. 😲🌀

Curly Hair and Family Dynamics

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Family Dinner Discussions

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Hurtful Comments and Soda Cans

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SIL's 'Helpful' Hair Advice

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A Shocked Response

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Awkward Silence Ensues

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Reflecting on SIL's Intentions

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SIL's Background

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Update and Clarifications

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SIL Not Racist, Just Ignorant

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Taking the NTA Verdict

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Meeting Up with SIL

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Building Bridges, Not Walls

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Hair Advice Ignites Family Tension 🔥

So, was our curly-haired protagonist in the wrong for calling out her SIL's hair advice? The internet seems to think not. It's important to remember that while her SIL may not have had malicious intentions, her comment was still hurtful and ignorant. Our protagonist has taken this as an opportunity to educate and build bridges, rather than shutting down the conversation. Who knows, maybe this family dinner drama will lead to a stronger bond between them in the end. 🌉💕

NTA! SIL's comments were racist and victim-blaming. She owes an apology.

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NTA commenter suggests reaching out to ignorant but well-meaning SIL 😊

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NTA. Commenters discuss coded language, self-protective measures, and cultural appreciation.

CumulusTattoos | CumulusTattoos

POC educates ignorant friend on race, seeks to mend relationship 👍

sollicitusmeraki | sollicitusmeraki

Navigating cultural differences in hair can be a minefield 😱

FastWalkingShortGuy | FastWalkingShortGuy

Stand your ground! 🙌 NTA gets blamed for family drama

princessofperky | princessofperky

Handling ignorance with grace and perspective. NTA 👏

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NTA. SIL and BIL equating their hurt feelings to violent racism 🤯

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POC commenter discusses victim blaming and lack of sympathy towards SIL

xiaoyukhei | xiaoyukhei

OP's friend suggests educating SIL on POC issues, not malice.

99angelgirl | 99angelgirl

Support for NTA comment on victim blaming 👏

sweetsunny1 | sweetsunny1

NTA- SIL's white tears and BIL's text were unacceptable 😠

Readingreddit12345 | Readingreddit12345

Helpful advice sparks family drama, but opportunity for growth exists 👍

thegreattemptation | thegreattemptation

Fighting casual racism: why it's insidious and deleterious 🤔

Veridical_Perception | Veridical_Perception

Reply challenges commenter's lack of nuance and empathy 😕

Rogues_Gambit | Rogues_Gambit

NAH comment and replies discuss colorism in Asian culture.

AdventurerMax | AdventurerMax

Navigating family drama over hair advice with empathy 🤝

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Empathetic comment acknowledges both sides of the situation 😢

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NTA commenter calls out racist comment, encourages apology and growth 💪

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Suggests a diplomatic approach to address ignorant comment 👍

StillOnAMountain | StillOnAMountain

Teachable moment: Embracing diversity and rejecting white privilege 👍

Jyslina | Jyslina

Mixed-race hair advice leads to family drama and apologies

soullessginger93 | soullessginger93

NTA for standing up against ignorance and racism 💯

dramaandaheadache | dramaandaheadache

Empathetic commenter offers reading recommendations for cultural understanding. 👍

femmemalin | femmemalin

Don't take the blame for someone else's embarrassment. 🙅🏼

GodzillaSuit | GodzillaSuit

Commenter defends woman's ignorance, calls out immaturity. NTA.

PipTitwhistle | PipTitwhistle

NTA for calling out ignorance and lack of common courtesy 🔥

minahmyu | minahmyu

NTA stands up against ignorance in hair advice debacle 💪

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Supportive comment encourages standing up against racism 👏

coconutshave | coconutshave

Standing up for yourself against family ignorance 💪

marvelouseevee | marvelouseevee

Supportive comment sparks agreement in hair advice drama 👍

wacko-warlock | wacko-warlock

Heartbreaking experience of racism over a hairstyle. NTA, educate her. 😢

BernieTheDachshund | BernieTheDachshund

NTA calls out micro-aggressions and excuses that perpetuate racism 💯

gulwver | gulwver

Commenter calls out ignorance and cultural insensitivity. 🔥

PrincessofRampage | PrincessofRampage

Handling family drama like a saint 🙌

Moravic39 | Moravic39

Educating ignorance: Impact of words matter, not intentions. #NTA 🙌

Mrbigmoney7 | Mrbigmoney7

Embrace your natural hair and ignore the haters! 💪🏼

Bitxhlasagna | Bitxhlasagna

Commenter praises someone for learning about white privilege 👏

wontonbitch | wontonbitch

Don't tell mixed race women to look "less ethnic" 😠

chaosindeep | chaosindeep

Compliment and empathy for woman's struggles with racism 😢

solennwolf | solennwolf

Stand up for yourself and address comments head on! 💪

RyanKennedy911 | RyanKennedy911

Short and sweet: commenter is not the a**hole 👍

Kalixshnikov | Kalixshnikov

Setting boundaries is key. 🚫 NTA teaches a lesson.

yonk182 | yonk182

Commenter supports woman's hair advice, suggests learning experience. 🙌

auntieB367 | auntieB367

Shocked commenter defends woman's hair advice. 🤩

ThatZach | ThatZach

Short and sweet - commenter agrees with original poster! 👍

paradiseisalibrary31 | paradiseisalibrary31

SIL humiliated herself, commenter gives 100% NTA approval 👍

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Supportive comment encourages education and understanding for ignorant friend 👏

rumf00rd | rumf00rd

Offer to educate gently for better future family gatherings 👍

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NTA commenter calls out racism and ignorance, demands accountability 👏🏽

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Commenter defends OP's response to hair advice drama 👏

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NTA comment and replies: Stand up for yourself 💪

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Standing up against victim blaming with a sharp smack 💯

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Supportive comment encourages self-work and understanding of racial inequality 👏

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Teaching kids to be kind is easy 👍

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Commenter calls out victim blaming and suggests changing hair is wrong 🙄

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Envy for gorgeous curls and support for standing up against unintentional insults 😍

Sub_Umbra | Sub_Umbra

Encouraging response to ignorant comment, promoting open-mindedness 🙌

FairyFartDaydreams | FairyFartDaydreams

Acknowledging privilege can be uncomfortable but necessary for growth. 👏

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NTA comment explains victim blaming and offers advice for education 👍

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Engage in a respectful conversation to educate and connect 👍

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