Picture this: a mixed race woman with curly hair, married into a white family, sits down for a family dinner. She's closer to her in-laws than her own family, and they're all discussing the hurtful comments she's been facing lately. But when her sister-in-law (SIL) suggests she straighten her hair to look less 'ethnic' and avoid racism, things take a dramatic turn. 😲🌀
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Curly Hair and Family Dynamics
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Family Dinner Discussions
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Hurtful Comments and Soda Cans
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SIL's 'Helpful' Hair Advice
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A Shocked Response
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Awkward Silence Ensues
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Reflecting on SIL's Intentions
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SIL's Background
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Update and Clarifications
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SIL Not Racist, Just Ignorant
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Taking the NTA Verdict
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Meeting Up with SIL
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Building Bridges, Not Walls
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Hair Advice Ignites Family Tension 🔥
So, was our curly-haired protagonist in the wrong for calling out her SIL's hair advice? The internet seems to think not. It's important to remember that while her SIL may not have had malicious intentions, her comment was still hurtful and ignorant. Our protagonist has taken this as an opportunity to educate and build bridges, rather than shutting down the conversation. Who knows, maybe this family dinner drama will lead to a stronger bond between them in the end. 🌉💕
NTA! SIL's comments were racist and victim-blaming. She owes an apology.
amb-ly | amb-ly
NTA commenter suggests reaching out to ignorant but well-meaning SIL 😊
indecisive_maybe | indecisive_maybe
NTA. Commenters discuss coded language, self-protective measures, and cultural appreciation.
CumulusTattoos | CumulusTattoos
POC educates ignorant friend on race, seeks to mend relationship 👍
sollicitusmeraki | sollicitusmeraki
Navigating cultural differences in hair can be a minefield 😱
FastWalkingShortGuy | FastWalkingShortGuy
Stand your ground! 🙌 NTA gets blamed for family drama
princessofperky | princessofperky
Handling ignorance with grace and perspective. NTA 👏
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NTA. SIL and BIL equating their hurt feelings to violent racism 🤯
LuckyGhostie | LuckyGhostie
POC commenter discusses victim blaming and lack of sympathy towards SIL
xiaoyukhei | xiaoyukhei
OP's friend suggests educating SIL on POC issues, not malice.
99angelgirl | 99angelgirl
Support for NTA comment on victim blaming 👏
sweetsunny1 | sweetsunny1
NTA- SIL's white tears and BIL's text were unacceptable 😠
Readingreddit12345 | Readingreddit12345
Helpful advice sparks family drama, but opportunity for growth exists 👍
thegreattemptation | thegreattemptation
Fighting casual racism: why it's insidious and deleterious 🤔
Veridical_Perception | Veridical_Perception
Reply challenges commenter's lack of nuance and empathy 😕
Rogues_Gambit | Rogues_Gambit
NAH comment and replies discuss colorism in Asian culture.
AdventurerMax | AdventurerMax
Navigating family drama over hair advice with empathy 🤝
nan1ta | nan1ta
Empathetic comment acknowledges both sides of the situation 😢
Krish1986 | Krish1986
NTA commenter calls out racist comment, encourages apology and growth 💪
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Suggests a diplomatic approach to address ignorant comment 👍
StillOnAMountain | StillOnAMountain
Teachable moment: Embracing diversity and rejecting white privilege 👍
Jyslina | Jyslina
Mixed-race hair advice leads to family drama and apologies
soullessginger93 | soullessginger93
NTA for standing up against ignorance and racism 💯
dramaandaheadache | dramaandaheadache
Empathetic commenter offers reading recommendations for cultural understanding. 👍
femmemalin | femmemalin
Don't take the blame for someone else's embarrassment. 🙅🏼
GodzillaSuit | GodzillaSuit
Commenter defends woman's ignorance, calls out immaturity. NTA.
PipTitwhistle | PipTitwhistle
NTA for calling out ignorance and lack of common courtesy 🔥
minahmyu | minahmyu
NTA stands up against ignorance in hair advice debacle 💪
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Supportive comment encourages standing up against racism 👏
coconutshave | coconutshave
Standing up for yourself against family ignorance 💪
marvelouseevee | marvelouseevee
Supportive comment sparks agreement in hair advice drama 👍
wacko-warlock | wacko-warlock
Heartbreaking experience of racism over a hairstyle. NTA, educate her. 😢
BernieTheDachshund | BernieTheDachshund
NTA calls out micro-aggressions and excuses that perpetuate racism 💯
gulwver | gulwver
Commenter calls out ignorance and cultural insensitivity. 🔥
PrincessofRampage | PrincessofRampage
Handling family drama like a saint 🙌
Moravic39 | Moravic39
Educating ignorance: Impact of words matter, not intentions. #NTA 🙌
Mrbigmoney7 | Mrbigmoney7
Embrace your natural hair and ignore the haters! 💪🏼
Bitxhlasagna | Bitxhlasagna
Commenter praises someone for learning about white privilege 👏
wontonbitch | wontonbitch
Don't tell mixed race women to look "less ethnic" 😠
chaosindeep | chaosindeep
Compliment and empathy for woman's struggles with racism 😢
solennwolf | solennwolf
Stand up for yourself and address comments head on! 💪
RyanKennedy911 | RyanKennedy911
Short and sweet: commenter is not the a**hole 👍
Kalixshnikov | Kalixshnikov
Setting boundaries is key. 🚫 NTA teaches a lesson.
yonk182 | yonk182
Commenter supports woman's hair advice, suggests learning experience. 🙌
auntieB367 | auntieB367
Shocked commenter defends woman's hair advice. 🤩
ThatZach | ThatZach
Short and sweet - commenter agrees with original poster! 👍
paradiseisalibrary31 | paradiseisalibrary31
SIL humiliated herself, commenter gives 100% NTA approval 👍
wordsareweapons14 | wordsareweapons14
Supportive comment encourages education and understanding for ignorant friend 👏
rumf00rd | rumf00rd
Offer to educate gently for better future family gatherings 👍
maryjayne9191 | maryjayne9191
NTA commenter calls out racism and ignorance, demands accountability 👏🏽
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Commenter defends OP's response to hair advice drama 👏
chatty_introvert88 | chatty_introvert88
NTA comment and replies: Stand up for yourself 💪
awkwardly_competent | awkwardly_competent
Standing up against victim blaming with a sharp smack 💯
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Supportive comment encourages self-work and understanding of racial inequality 👏
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Teaching kids to be kind is easy 👍
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Commenter calls out victim blaming and suggests changing hair is wrong 🙄
spagbahagwag | spagbahagwag
Envy for gorgeous curls and support for standing up against unintentional insults 😍
Sub_Umbra | Sub_Umbra
Encouraging response to ignorant comment, promoting open-mindedness 🙌
FairyFartDaydreams | FairyFartDaydreams
Acknowledging privilege can be uncomfortable but necessary for growth. 👏
leafyleafleaves | leafyleafleaves
NTA comment explains victim blaming and offers advice for education 👍
sweadle | sweadle
Engage in a respectful conversation to educate and connect 👍
MaedayDuck | MaedayDuck
