Dying Husband's Family Denied Last-Minute Visit: Heartless or Justified? 😢

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Imagine your spouse is dying of cancer, and their family has been largely absent throughout the ordeal. Now, as the end nears, they suddenly want to visit. Would you let them? One woman faced this heart-wrenching dilemma when her husband, Larry, was given only weeks to live. Despite her pleas for his family to visit or call him throughout his illness, they barely made an effort. But now, as Larry's condition worsens, they want to come over. The wife, however, is exhausted and emotionally drained. She refuses their last-minute request, sparking a heated debate. 💔

Larry's Grim Diagnosis 🏥

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Hospice Called In ⌛

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Family's Lackluster Efforts 😔

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Alice's Broken Promises 💔

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No Bad Blood, Just Laziness 😒

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Larry's Rapid Decline 📉

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Doctor's Warning ⚠️

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Family's Disappointing Response 😞

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Hospice at Home 🏠

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Wife's Exhaustion 😩

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Last-Minute Visit Denied ❌

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Family's Anger 😠

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Larry's Wishes 🙏

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Heartfelt Goodbye 💔

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Disappointment and Uncertainty 😟

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Dying Wish or Wife's Exhaustion: Who Wins? 😢

Larry's wife is at her wit's end. She's been caring for her dying husband, dealing with hospice care, and fielding calls from family and friends. She's exhausted, emotionally drained, and her house is a mess. Larry's family, who barely made an effort to visit or call during his illness, now wants to come over. But the wife refuses, saying they had months to visit and chose not to. The family is furious, but what about Larry's wishes? He's too weak to express them, but he did tell his wife to say goodbye to his family for him. As emotions run high, the question remains: should the wife let the family visit, or stand her ground? 💔🤔

Compassionate replies to a simple but poignant question 😢

IFeelLikeBlueSky | IFeelLikeBlueSky

NTA. Caregiving is exhausting. Prioritize your health and boundaries. ❤

Intelligent_Oil9293 | Intelligent_Oil9293

NTA. Caretaking is difficult. Accepting help is important. 🙏

Intelligent_Oil9293 | Intelligent_Oil9293

Visiting a dying loved one can be a selfish act. ❤️

GladysKravitz21 | GladysKravitz21

Family ignored updates and requests to visit, NTA for denying.

Dogmother123 | Dogmother123

Suggests letting family visit but put them to work. 😂

MajorRockstar79 | MajorRockstar79

Heartfelt question about the husband's wishes goes unanswered.

rapt2right | rapt2right

Supportive comment from someone who has been in a similar position 😢

NervousCelebration78 | NervousCelebration78

Commenter suggests withholding judgement until more information is provided 🤔

Dinosaur_Doctor | Dinosaur_Doctor

Don't worry about being the villain, prioritize your needs. 🙏

cassowary32 | cassowary32

Advice from someone who's been there: set boundaries, but accept help ❤️

OneWithoutaName2 | OneWithoutaName2

Heartless family neglects dying husband and caregiver, then demands guilt.

moves_likemacca | moves_likemacca

Overwhelmed caregiver defends decision to deny family visit. 😢

Smooth-Valuable249 | Smooth-Valuable249

Grief is complex and personal. Denial shouldn't hinder goodbyes. 😢

Worried_Aerie_7512 | Worried_Aerie_7512

Larry's desires remain unclear, sparking speculation and curiosity. 🤔

ProfPlumDidIt | ProfPlumDidIt

Heartless or justified? Let Larry see his family one last time 😢

Eunhye_ | Eunhye_

Caregiver advises on self-care and respite care for dying husband.

MaryAnne0601 | MaryAnne0601

Compassionate comment offers support and asks important questions. 👏

CheerilyTerrified | CheerilyTerrified

Caretaker burnout is real. NTA for needing a break 🙏

Substantial_Bench102 | Substantial_Bench102

Compassionate response to caregiver's difficult situation. 🙏

whosyouregirl | whosyouregirl

Curious comment, but no replies to satisfy the question. 🤔

Eunhye_ | Eunhye_

NTA suggests allowing visitation and putting them to work. 😅

Asleep-Hold-4686 | Asleep-Hold-4686

Exhausted caregiver struggles with family visit decision for dying husband. 😢

Ducky818 | Ducky818

Supportive comment to dying spouse, family not needed. 🙏

BasedinBaltimore | BasedinBaltimore

Compassionate reply offers support and predicts family's behavior. ❤️

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Caring for a dying spouse is hard, prioritize your mental health ❤

GeneNeat906 | GeneNeat906

A compassionate suggestion for end-of-life care. 🙏

terpischore761 | terpischore761

Compassionate reply offers support and personal experience. 😊

bunnycook | bunnycook

NTA comment receives support, but questioned by a reply.

Adorable_Accident440 | Adorable_Accident440

Caregiver explains why last-minute visits are not always possible. NTA 🙏

Apprehensive-Sun-358 | Apprehensive-Sun-358

Empathetic comment suggests letting husband decide on last-minute visit. 😢

Murderhornet212 | Murderhornet212

Heartfelt comment offers support to grieving spouse. 💖

PenniesandSense | PenniesandSense

OP's uncertainty about dying husband's wishes sparks concern 😔

LingonberryPrior6896 | LingonberryPrior6896

Curious comment sparks no replies in emotional section. 🤔

shannofordabiz | shannofordabiz

Family denied last-minute visit, commenter says NTA. 📱

AshlandSouth | AshlandSouth

Protecting personal space during a loved one's death. 🙏

amosc33 | amosc33

Focus on your husband and let go of those who don't care. 👍

beccabee333 | beccabee333

Compassionate comment offers support and understanding during difficult time. ❤️

dexterdarko2009 | dexterdarko2009

Putting yourself first isn't selfish. NTA 👏

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Heartfelt comment on the importance of being with loved ones.

walrusfacelady | walrusfacelady

Heartbreaking comment on family neglect with relatable reply. 😢

Nevyn-57 | Nevyn-57

Compassionate response to denied visit. 😢

lapsteelguitar | lapsteelguitar

Compassion over reputation: allow visit before dying husband passes away. ❤

Fickle_Map_3703 | Fickle_Map_3703

Allowing family to visit dying loved one: YTA if you don't

Msmediator | Msmediator

Spouse's dying wish denied: YTA for not allowing visit? 😢

Unlikely-Fun-371 | Unlikely-Fun-371

Family denied last-minute visit to dying husband: Should they be allowed?

KarenMaca | KarenMaca

Family's lack of effort to visit dying husband justified. 😞

Linzy23 | Linzy23

Self-care is important, even in difficult situations. 👍

AccomplishedAd9969 | AccomplishedAd9969

Compassionate suggestion to avoid hurting dying husband's feelings 😢

Over_Animal8484 | Over_Animal8484

Spouse's exhaustion causes conflict over dying husband's visitation. 🤷‍♀️

ShalnarkRyuseih | ShalnarkRyuseih

Caregiving is mentally trying, OP has the right to set boundaries. 🙏

AmsterdamJimmy420 | AmsterdamJimmy420

Regretful commenter shares personal story, supports NTA's decision.

Accomplished_Cup900 | Accomplished_Cup900

Listen to the person dying, not the visitors 🙌

IrishCaz | IrishCaz

Reddit users question the credibility of the OP's posts.

bubbyshawl | bubbyshawl

NTA for denying last-minute visit. Support for caretaker role. ❤

cyraquil | cyraquil

Caring for a dying loved one is hard. NTA for setting boundaries.

dasbarr | dasbarr

Larry's wishes matter most in this situation. 🙏

The_Bookish_One | The_Bookish_One

Regret what? This comment needs more context. 🤔

mugofanxitea | mugofanxitea

YTA comment urges action in dying husband's family visit. 🙌

verdebot | verdebot

Spouse's family bans dying husband's family from visit. ESH.

winepastacheesecake | winepastacheesecake

Compassionate reply advises letting dying husband's family visit despite past conflict ❤️

fourjoys99 | fourjoys99

Consider the husband's wishes before allowing last-minute visit. 🙏

Crosshairqueen | Crosshairqueen

Compassionate reply offers support to grieving commenter. ❤️

Tranqup | Tranqup

Last chance to see dying father, don't take it away. 😢

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Respect husband's wishes, not yours. 🤔 NAH or ESH?

morbidcuriosity86 | morbidcuriosity86

Larry's mysterious desires leave commenters scratching their heads 🤔

xdsagecat | xdsagecat

Compassionate comment receives no replies. Spread kindness today! 🙏

Ihavenoclueagain | Ihavenoclueagain

Engage in empathy: consider the dying husband's wishes 💔

randomroxie | randomroxie

Commenter advises against punishing family for grieving differently. 🙏

No-Primary-9011 | No-Primary-9011

Wife's refusal to let dying husband's family visit: AH or justified? 😢

Erindanyele | Erindanyele

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