Imagine your spouse is dying of cancer, and their family has been largely absent throughout the ordeal. Now, as the end nears, they suddenly want to visit. Would you let them? One woman faced this heart-wrenching dilemma when her husband, Larry, was given only weeks to live. Despite her pleas for his family to visit or call him throughout his illness, they barely made an effort. But now, as Larry's condition worsens, they want to come over. The wife, however, is exhausted and emotionally drained. She refuses their last-minute request, sparking a heated debate. 💔

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Larry's Grim Diagnosis 🏥

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Hospice Called In ⌛

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Family's Lackluster Efforts 😔

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Alice's Broken Promises 💔

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No Bad Blood, Just Laziness 😒

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Larry's Rapid Decline 📉

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Doctor's Warning ⚠️

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Family's Disappointing Response 😞

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Hospice at Home 🏠

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Wife's Exhaustion 😩

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Last-Minute Visit Denied ❌

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Family's Anger 😠

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Larry's Wishes 🙏

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Heartfelt Goodbye 💔

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Disappointment and Uncertainty 😟

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Dying Wish or Wife's Exhaustion: Who Wins? 😢
Larry's wife is at her wit's end. She's been caring for her dying husband, dealing with hospice care, and fielding calls from family and friends. She's exhausted, emotionally drained, and her house is a mess. Larry's family, who barely made an effort to visit or call during his illness, now wants to come over. But the wife refuses, saying they had months to visit and chose not to. The family is furious, but what about Larry's wishes? He's too weak to express them, but he did tell his wife to say goodbye to his family for him. As emotions run high, the question remains: should the wife let the family visit, or stand her ground? 💔🤔
Compassionate replies to a simple but poignant question 😢

IFeelLikeBlueSky | IFeelLikeBlueSky
NTA. Caregiving is exhausting. Prioritize your health and boundaries. ❤

Intelligent_Oil9293 | Intelligent_Oil9293
NTA. Caretaking is difficult. Accepting help is important. 🙏

Intelligent_Oil9293 | Intelligent_Oil9293
Visiting a dying loved one can be a selfish act. ❤️

GladysKravitz21 | GladysKravitz21
Family ignored updates and requests to visit, NTA for denying.

Dogmother123 | Dogmother123
Suggests letting family visit but put them to work. 😂

MajorRockstar79 | MajorRockstar79
Heartfelt question about the husband's wishes goes unanswered.

rapt2right | rapt2right
Supportive comment from someone who has been in a similar position 😢

NervousCelebration78 | NervousCelebration78
Commenter suggests withholding judgement until more information is provided 🤔

Dinosaur_Doctor | Dinosaur_Doctor
Don't worry about being the villain, prioritize your needs. 🙏

cassowary32 | cassowary32
Advice from someone who's been there: set boundaries, but accept help ❤️

OneWithoutaName2 | OneWithoutaName2
Heartless family neglects dying husband and caregiver, then demands guilt.

moves_likemacca | moves_likemacca
Overwhelmed caregiver defends decision to deny family visit. 😢

Smooth-Valuable249 | Smooth-Valuable249
Grief is complex and personal. Denial shouldn't hinder goodbyes. 😢

Worried_Aerie_7512 | Worried_Aerie_7512
Larry's desires remain unclear, sparking speculation and curiosity. 🤔

ProfPlumDidIt | ProfPlumDidIt
Heartless or justified? Let Larry see his family one last time 😢

Eunhye_ | Eunhye_
Caregiver advises on self-care and respite care for dying husband.

MaryAnne0601 | MaryAnne0601
Compassionate comment offers support and asks important questions. 👏

CheerilyTerrified | CheerilyTerrified
Caretaker burnout is real. NTA for needing a break 🙏

Substantial_Bench102 | Substantial_Bench102
Compassionate response to caregiver's difficult situation. 🙏

whosyouregirl | whosyouregirl
Curious comment, but no replies to satisfy the question. 🤔

Eunhye_ | Eunhye_
NTA suggests allowing visitation and putting them to work. 😅

Asleep-Hold-4686 | Asleep-Hold-4686
Exhausted caregiver struggles with family visit decision for dying husband. 😢

Ducky818 | Ducky818
Supportive comment to dying spouse, family not needed. 🙏

BasedinBaltimore | BasedinBaltimore
Compassionate reply offers support and predicts family's behavior. ❤️

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Caring for a dying spouse is hard, prioritize your mental health ❤

GeneNeat906 | GeneNeat906
A compassionate suggestion for end-of-life care. 🙏

terpischore761 | terpischore761
Compassionate reply offers support and personal experience. 😊

bunnycook | bunnycook
NTA comment receives support, but questioned by a reply.

Adorable_Accident440 | Adorable_Accident440
Caregiver explains why last-minute visits are not always possible. NTA 🙏

Apprehensive-Sun-358 | Apprehensive-Sun-358
Empathetic comment suggests letting husband decide on last-minute visit. 😢

Murderhornet212 | Murderhornet212
Heartfelt comment offers support to grieving spouse. 💖

PenniesandSense | PenniesandSense
OP's uncertainty about dying husband's wishes sparks concern 😔

LingonberryPrior6896 | LingonberryPrior6896
Curious comment sparks no replies in emotional section. 🤔

shannofordabiz | shannofordabiz
Family denied last-minute visit, commenter says NTA. 📱

AshlandSouth | AshlandSouth
Protecting personal space during a loved one's death. 🙏

amosc33 | amosc33
Focus on your husband and let go of those who don't care. 👍

beccabee333 | beccabee333
Compassionate comment offers support and understanding during difficult time. ❤️

dexterdarko2009 | dexterdarko2009
Putting yourself first isn't selfish. NTA 👏

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Heartfelt comment on the importance of being with loved ones.

walrusfacelady | walrusfacelady
Heartbreaking comment on family neglect with relatable reply. 😢

Nevyn-57 | Nevyn-57
Compassionate response to denied visit. 😢

lapsteelguitar | lapsteelguitar
Compassion over reputation: allow visit before dying husband passes away. ❤

Fickle_Map_3703 | Fickle_Map_3703
Allowing family to visit dying loved one: YTA if you don't

Msmediator | Msmediator
Spouse's dying wish denied: YTA for not allowing visit? 😢

Unlikely-Fun-371 | Unlikely-Fun-371
Family denied last-minute visit to dying husband: Should they be allowed?

KarenMaca | KarenMaca
Family's lack of effort to visit dying husband justified. 😞

Linzy23 | Linzy23
Self-care is important, even in difficult situations. 👍

AccomplishedAd9969 | AccomplishedAd9969
Compassionate suggestion to avoid hurting dying husband's feelings 😢

Over_Animal8484 | Over_Animal8484
Spouse's exhaustion causes conflict over dying husband's visitation. 🤷♀️

ShalnarkRyuseih | ShalnarkRyuseih
Caregiving is mentally trying, OP has the right to set boundaries. 🙏

AmsterdamJimmy420 | AmsterdamJimmy420
Regretful commenter shares personal story, supports NTA's decision.

Accomplished_Cup900 | Accomplished_Cup900
Listen to the person dying, not the visitors 🙌

IrishCaz | IrishCaz
Reddit users question the credibility of the OP's posts.

bubbyshawl | bubbyshawl
NTA for denying last-minute visit. Support for caretaker role. ❤

cyraquil | cyraquil
Caring for a dying loved one is hard. NTA for setting boundaries.

dasbarr | dasbarr
Larry's wishes matter most in this situation. 🙏

The_Bookish_One | The_Bookish_One
Regret what? This comment needs more context. 🤔

mugofanxitea | mugofanxitea
YTA comment urges action in dying husband's family visit. 🙌

verdebot | verdebot
Spouse's family bans dying husband's family from visit. ESH.

winepastacheesecake | winepastacheesecake
Compassionate reply advises letting dying husband's family visit despite past conflict ❤️

fourjoys99 | fourjoys99
Consider the husband's wishes before allowing last-minute visit. 🙏

Crosshairqueen | Crosshairqueen
Compassionate reply offers support to grieving commenter. ❤️

Tranqup | Tranqup
Last chance to see dying father, don't take it away. 😢

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Respect husband's wishes, not yours. 🤔 NAH or ESH?

morbidcuriosity86 | morbidcuriosity86
Larry's mysterious desires leave commenters scratching their heads 🤔

xdsagecat | xdsagecat
Compassionate comment receives no replies. Spread kindness today! 🙏

Ihavenoclueagain | Ihavenoclueagain
Engage in empathy: consider the dying husband's wishes 💔

randomroxie | randomroxie
Commenter advises against punishing family for grieving differently. 🙏

No-Primary-9011 | No-Primary-9011
Wife's refusal to let dying husband's family visit: AH or justified? 😢

Erindanyele | Erindanyele