Woman Refuses to Call Her Bully Brother-in-Law 'Family' 😮

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Imagine having to face your childhood bully at every family gathering. That's the reality for one woman (31F) who married her middle school bully's younger brother. Now, her sister-in-law (31F) isn't speaking to her or any other family members because she refuses to consider her bully-turned-brother-in-law (31M) as family. Despite everyone urging her to move on from the past, she remains firm in her stance. Let's dive into the story that has everyone talking. 🎭

The Bullying Begins

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High School and Beyond

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Fate Intervenes

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BIL's Reaction

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Years Later

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BIL Moves In

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Family Dinners

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Awkward Interactions

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Sister-in-Law's Outburst

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Standing Her Ground

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Family Fallout

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Moving On?

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Her Stance

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Unresolved Issues

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A Surprising Response

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Forgive and Forget? Not So Fast! 😒

This woman is caught in a tough spot. She's married into a family where her brother-in-law is her former middle school bully, and now everyone expects her to forgive and forget. Despite the pressure, she remains firm in her stance that she doesn't need to consider him family. With no apology or acknowledgment of the past from her brother-in-law, it's no wonder she's holding her ground. But what do people think about this complicated family dynamic? Let's explore some of the top reactions... 🍿

Brother-in-law never apologized for bullying, NTA for not forgiving.

phoebus67 | phoebus67

BIL bullies OP as an adult, refuses to apologize. NTA 👍

fruskydekke | fruskydekke

Brother-in-law is a bully and husband should intervene. NTA 👍

MaxSpringPuma | MaxSpringPuma

Woman refuses to call bully brother-in-law 'family' 😮, but defends marrying his brother.

TheEmpressIsIn | TheEmpressIsIn

SIL caused the drama, NTA for not calling BIL 'family' 😮

Trilobyte141 | Trilobyte141

Unaddressed bullying by BIL, husband supportive but avoiding confrontation. 🤔

plantsandribbons | plantsandribbons

Commenter acknowledges everyone is at fault, suggests therapy. 🙏

YoonLolina | YoonLolina

Stand your ground! Family isn't just blood 💜

your_local_arsonist_ | your_local_arsonist_

NTA. Time doesn't fix everything. Congrats on keeping it classy 👏

CrackersInMyPurse | CrackersInMyPurse

Commenters discuss options for OP's relationship with her in-laws.

jeffsang | jeffsang

Bullying is not a permanent trait, but empathy can develop 👍

phalanxclone | phalanxclone

Apology or not, refusing to call bully BIL 'family' 😮

Swedish-Butt-Whistle | Swedish-Butt-Whistle

Woman refuses to call her bully brother-in-law 'family' 😮

PommeDeSang | PommeDeSang

Stand your ground and define your own family 💪

MissMurderpants | MissMurderpants

Bullying trauma is no joke, NTA for not forgiving him 😠

thornygoth | thornygoth

Standing up to family bullies: NTA and no fixing needed 💪

WinnieThePerson | WinnieThePerson

Curious about husband's feelings, but NTA regardless 👍

Dumpster_fff | Dumpster_fff

Bullying scars can last a lifetime, NTA for keeping distance. 🙏

RunYouCleverDog | RunYouCleverDog

Surviving bullying is hard, but marrying your bully's brother? Epic revenge! 😎

jfeld22 | jfeld22

Victim-blaming won't make the bully brother-in-law family 😡

AskTinaPJ | AskTinaPJ

Commenter defends woman's choice to not call bully BIL 'family' 👍

SoManyWhippets | SoManyWhippets

Standing up to family bullies is always NTA 👏

rtr8384 | rtr8384

Bully brother-in-law gets what he deserves, not family material 😠

JakeysMommy | JakeysMommy

Woman stands up to bully brother-in-law, internet approves 💪

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Bullying's trauma lasts a lifetime. NTA for not forgiving.

Ok-Explorer8303 | Ok-Explorer8303

Bully brother-in-law consistently garbage for 2 decades 😮

Smooth_Fee | Smooth_Fee

Commenter supports OP's decision to not call brother-in-law 'family' 👍

Dc9542 | Dc9542

Forgiveness is a personal choice. Being cordial is enough 👍

HotSalt3 | HotSalt3

Don't let bullies off the hook, even if they're family 💪

bluerox85 | bluerox85

Navigating family conflict, boundaries, and expectations. 👆

starshine1988 | starshine1988

Navigating family dynamics when married to a bully's sibling 🤷‍♀️

OneTwoWee000 | OneTwoWee000

NTA. Empathizing with OP's bullying experience and supporting her decision. 🙌

ForensicsAndFandoms | ForensicsAndFandoms

NTA. Family reconciliation requires apology. BIL lacks remorse 🤷‍♀️

kreeperface | kreeperface

Commenter hopes bully doctor works in pathology to avoid people. 😱

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Choosing not to associate with a bully BIL is NTA 👍

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Commenter calls out bully doctor and supports OP. 👍

nynderi | nynderi

No apologies, no effort, no family. Cordial is enough 😮

Badger-of-Horrors | Badger-of-Horrors

Family drama: NTA, but what about husband's relationship with brother? 🤔

gormthesoft | gormthesoft

NTA - Brother-in-law bullied her, won't apologize. In-laws silent. 😮

Scribb74 | Scribb74

NTA. Family drama avoided with a solid relationship foundation. 👏

Niith | Niith

Demanding apology and amends from bully brother-in-law. NTA 👍

poyorick | poyorick

Demanding an apology before calling him family. 👏

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No apology, no family. NTA stands firm 😠

Iseewhatudidthurrrrr | Iseewhatudidthurrrrr

Forgiveness is overrated, bullies rarely change. NTA 👍

YunariaLinus | YunariaLinus

NTA - In-laws need to acknowledge your valid feelings and BIL's actions.

StellaLuna108 | StellaLuna108

NTA. SIL's expectations for relationship with bully BIL are unrealistic. 😞

AntiqueBaby | AntiqueBaby

Brother-in-law is still a bully, NTA for not accepting him 😠

Renbarre | Renbarre

Bullying survivor stands with OP, NTA! 💪

Sparky9367 | Sparky9367

Choosing to be cordial with a bully is not petty 💪

Weirdsist | Weirdsist

Sibling-in-law drama: NTA refuses to call bully BIL 'family' 😮

SnooPeppers1641 | SnooPeppers1641

Brother-in-law excluded her from family, NTA for not reciprocating.

Consistent_Language9 | Consistent_Language9

Respectful relationship with BIL, entitled to feelings about family status 👍

randomperson1993 | randomperson1993

Standing up to family bullies. NTA 💪

OtterlyLost | OtterlyLost

No obligation to play happy families with unapologetic bully 👍

wingding456 | wingding456

Forgiving past bullying, but drawing the line at hurtful comments 🙅

olneyvideo | olneyvideo

Standing up to family bullies is never easy 🙌

mouse_attack | mouse_attack

NTA stands up to bully brother-in-law, demands apology 💪

Im_not_nice81 | Im_not_nice81

Blood doesn't make you family, marriage sure as hell doesn't either 😮

ThunderInFlorida | ThunderInFlorida

Bullying's long-term effects are real. NTA for setting boundaries.

cutelittlehellbeast | cutelittlehellbeast

Simple and clear judgement: Not the a**hole! 👍

pacalaga | pacalaga

No apology, no family. NTA stands their ground 💪

Knittingfairy09113 | Knittingfairy09113

Facing the past can be tough, but it's necessary 💪 #NTA

poorladlemonadestand | poorladlemonadestand

Polite but distant: Dealing with an unapologetic bully brother-in-law 😏

GothPenguin | GothPenguin

Commenter is not the a**hole in this situation 👍

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NTA stands up against family bully, demands apology 👏

a_little-lost | a_little-lost

BIL bullied her, never apologized. Cordial is best he gets. 😮

HoldFastO2 | HoldFastO2

NTA stands up to bullying brother-in-law, sets healthy boundaries 💪

ImNotBothered80 | ImNotBothered80

Forgiveness is earned, not demanded. NTA for setting boundaries. 👏

DinoDracko | DinoDracko

Family ties strained by unapologetic bully brother-in-law. NTA.

Book_devourer | Book_devourer

Bully brother-in-law? Not family. NTA for cutting ties. 🙌

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Commenter defends NTA's decision to not call bully BIL 'family'

adotfree | adotfree

Validating NTA comment, acknowledging difficulty of situation 😢

GiddyGabby | GiddyGabby

Dealing with a bully brother-in-law, stay cordial? 🤔

paradox_oxymoron1 | paradox_oxymoron1

Medical professional should know better. NTA, demand apology.

candles_0904 | candles_0904

Bully brother-in-law causes family feud, NTA stands her ground 🙌

UisgeRuithe | UisgeRuithe

Brother-in-law's bullying backfires, sister-in-law stands her ground. NTA 👍

Tugstest | Tugstest

Bullying leaves deep scars, NTA for not calling him family 😮

fairygirl255425 | fairygirl255425

BIL hasn't changed, family toxic, move or avoid interactions. 😡

AlwaysSomebodyCool | AlwaysSomebodyCool

NTA, family should hold bully accountable for his actions. 💪

Squinky75 | Squinky75

Standing up to family bullies: Hard NTA 😎

Mind_and_Iron | Mind_and_Iron

Forgiveness is possible, but not without reconciliation and effort ✌️

SoybeanArson | SoybeanArson

No apology, no family. NTA stands her ground 😎

thepinkprioress | thepinkprioress

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