Imagine having to face your childhood bully at every family gathering. That's the reality for one woman (31F) who married her middle school bully's younger brother. Now, her sister-in-law (31F) isn't speaking to her or any other family members because she refuses to consider her bully-turned-brother-in-law (31M) as family. Despite everyone urging her to move on from the past, she remains firm in her stance. Let's dive into the story that has everyone talking. 🎭
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The Bullying Begins
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High School and Beyond
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Fate Intervenes
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BIL's Reaction
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Years Later
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BIL Moves In
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Family Dinners
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Awkward Interactions
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Sister-in-Law's Outburst
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Standing Her Ground
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Family Fallout
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Moving On?
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Her Stance
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Unresolved Issues
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A Surprising Response
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Forgive and Forget? Not So Fast! 😒
This woman is caught in a tough spot. She's married into a family where her brother-in-law is her former middle school bully, and now everyone expects her to forgive and forget. Despite the pressure, she remains firm in her stance that she doesn't need to consider him family. With no apology or acknowledgment of the past from her brother-in-law, it's no wonder she's holding her ground. But what do people think about this complicated family dynamic? Let's explore some of the top reactions... 🍿
Brother-in-law never apologized for bullying, NTA for not forgiving.
phoebus67 | phoebus67
BIL bullies OP as an adult, refuses to apologize. NTA 👍
fruskydekke | fruskydekke
Brother-in-law is a bully and husband should intervene. NTA 👍
MaxSpringPuma | MaxSpringPuma
Woman refuses to call bully brother-in-law 'family' 😮, but defends marrying his brother.
TheEmpressIsIn | TheEmpressIsIn
SIL caused the drama, NTA for not calling BIL 'family' 😮
Trilobyte141 | Trilobyte141
Unaddressed bullying by BIL, husband supportive but avoiding confrontation. 🤔
plantsandribbons | plantsandribbons
Commenter acknowledges everyone is at fault, suggests therapy. 🙏
YoonLolina | YoonLolina
Stand your ground! Family isn't just blood 💜
your_local_arsonist_ | your_local_arsonist_
NTA. Time doesn't fix everything. Congrats on keeping it classy 👏
CrackersInMyPurse | CrackersInMyPurse
Commenters discuss options for OP's relationship with her in-laws.
jeffsang | jeffsang
Bullying is not a permanent trait, but empathy can develop 👍
phalanxclone | phalanxclone
Apology or not, refusing to call bully BIL 'family' 😮
Swedish-Butt-Whistle | Swedish-Butt-Whistle
Woman refuses to call her bully brother-in-law 'family' 😮
PommeDeSang | PommeDeSang
Stand your ground and define your own family 💪
MissMurderpants | MissMurderpants
Bullying trauma is no joke, NTA for not forgiving him 😠
thornygoth | thornygoth
Standing up to family bullies: NTA and no fixing needed 💪
WinnieThePerson | WinnieThePerson
Curious about husband's feelings, but NTA regardless 👍
Dumpster_fff | Dumpster_fff
Bullying scars can last a lifetime, NTA for keeping distance. 🙏
RunYouCleverDog | RunYouCleverDog
Surviving bullying is hard, but marrying your bully's brother? Epic revenge! 😎
jfeld22 | jfeld22
Victim-blaming won't make the bully brother-in-law family 😡
AskTinaPJ | AskTinaPJ
Commenter defends woman's choice to not call bully BIL 'family' 👍
SoManyWhippets | SoManyWhippets
Standing up to family bullies is always NTA 👏
rtr8384 | rtr8384
Bully brother-in-law gets what he deserves, not family material 😠
JakeysMommy | JakeysMommy
Woman stands up to bully brother-in-law, internet approves 💪
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Bullying's trauma lasts a lifetime. NTA for not forgiving.
Ok-Explorer8303 | Ok-Explorer8303
Bully brother-in-law consistently garbage for 2 decades 😮
Smooth_Fee | Smooth_Fee
Commenter supports OP's decision to not call brother-in-law 'family' 👍
Dc9542 | Dc9542
Forgiveness is a personal choice. Being cordial is enough 👍
HotSalt3 | HotSalt3
Don't let bullies off the hook, even if they're family 💪
bluerox85 | bluerox85
Navigating family conflict, boundaries, and expectations. 👆
starshine1988 | starshine1988
Navigating family dynamics when married to a bully's sibling 🤷♀️
OneTwoWee000 | OneTwoWee000
NTA. Empathizing with OP's bullying experience and supporting her decision. 🙌
ForensicsAndFandoms | ForensicsAndFandoms
NTA. Family reconciliation requires apology. BIL lacks remorse 🤷♀️
kreeperface | kreeperface
Commenter hopes bully doctor works in pathology to avoid people. 😱
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Choosing not to associate with a bully BIL is NTA 👍
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Commenter calls out bully doctor and supports OP. 👍
nynderi | nynderi
No apologies, no effort, no family. Cordial is enough 😮
Badger-of-Horrors | Badger-of-Horrors
Family drama: NTA, but what about husband's relationship with brother? 🤔
gormthesoft | gormthesoft
NTA - Brother-in-law bullied her, won't apologize. In-laws silent. 😮
Scribb74 | Scribb74
NTA. Family drama avoided with a solid relationship foundation. 👏
Niith | Niith
Demanding apology and amends from bully brother-in-law. NTA 👍
poyorick | poyorick
Demanding an apology before calling him family. 👏
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No apology, no family. NTA stands firm 😠
Iseewhatudidthurrrrr | Iseewhatudidthurrrrr
Forgiveness is overrated, bullies rarely change. NTA 👍
YunariaLinus | YunariaLinus
NTA - In-laws need to acknowledge your valid feelings and BIL's actions.
StellaLuna108 | StellaLuna108
NTA. SIL's expectations for relationship with bully BIL are unrealistic. 😞
AntiqueBaby | AntiqueBaby
Brother-in-law is still a bully, NTA for not accepting him 😠
Renbarre | Renbarre
Bullying survivor stands with OP, NTA! 💪
Sparky9367 | Sparky9367
Choosing to be cordial with a bully is not petty 💪
Weirdsist | Weirdsist
Sibling-in-law drama: NTA refuses to call bully BIL 'family' 😮
SnooPeppers1641 | SnooPeppers1641
Brother-in-law excluded her from family, NTA for not reciprocating.
Consistent_Language9 | Consistent_Language9
Respectful relationship with BIL, entitled to feelings about family status 👍
randomperson1993 | randomperson1993
Standing up to family bullies. NTA 💪
OtterlyLost | OtterlyLost
No obligation to play happy families with unapologetic bully 👍
wingding456 | wingding456
Forgiving past bullying, but drawing the line at hurtful comments 🙅
olneyvideo | olneyvideo
Standing up to family bullies is never easy 🙌
mouse_attack | mouse_attack
NTA stands up to bully brother-in-law, demands apology 💪
Im_not_nice81 | Im_not_nice81
Blood doesn't make you family, marriage sure as hell doesn't either 😮
ThunderInFlorida | ThunderInFlorida
Bullying's long-term effects are real. NTA for setting boundaries.
cutelittlehellbeast | cutelittlehellbeast
Simple and clear judgement: Not the a**hole! 👍
pacalaga | pacalaga
No apology, no family. NTA stands their ground 💪
Knittingfairy09113 | Knittingfairy09113
Facing the past can be tough, but it's necessary 💪 #NTA
poorladlemonadestand | poorladlemonadestand
Polite but distant: Dealing with an unapologetic bully brother-in-law 😏
GothPenguin | GothPenguin
Commenter is not the a**hole in this situation 👍
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NTA stands up against family bully, demands apology 👏
a_little-lost | a_little-lost
BIL bullied her, never apologized. Cordial is best he gets. 😮
HoldFastO2 | HoldFastO2
NTA stands up to bullying brother-in-law, sets healthy boundaries 💪
ImNotBothered80 | ImNotBothered80
Forgiveness is earned, not demanded. NTA for setting boundaries. 👏
DinoDracko | DinoDracko
Family ties strained by unapologetic bully brother-in-law. NTA.
Book_devourer | Book_devourer
Bully brother-in-law? Not family. NTA for cutting ties. 🙌
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Commenter defends NTA's decision to not call bully BIL 'family'
adotfree | adotfree
Validating NTA comment, acknowledging difficulty of situation 😢
GiddyGabby | GiddyGabby
Dealing with a bully brother-in-law, stay cordial? 🤔
paradox_oxymoron1 | paradox_oxymoron1
Medical professional should know better. NTA, demand apology.
candles_0904 | candles_0904
Bully brother-in-law causes family feud, NTA stands her ground 🙌
UisgeRuithe | UisgeRuithe
Brother-in-law's bullying backfires, sister-in-law stands her ground. NTA 👍
Tugstest | Tugstest
Bullying leaves deep scars, NTA for not calling him family 😮
fairygirl255425 | fairygirl255425
BIL hasn't changed, family toxic, move or avoid interactions. 😡
AlwaysSomebodyCool | AlwaysSomebodyCool
NTA, family should hold bully accountable for his actions. 💪
Squinky75 | Squinky75
Standing up to family bullies: Hard NTA 😎
Mind_and_Iron | Mind_and_Iron
Forgiveness is possible, but not without reconciliation and effort ✌️
SoybeanArson | SoybeanArson
No apology, no family. NTA stands her ground 😎
thepinkprioress | thepinkprioress
