Stepmom Stops Helping Stepdaughter: Justified or Cruel? 😱

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Diply | Diply

Meet our protagonist, a 38-year-old stepmom who has been with her husband for over 6 years. Together, they have two kids: his daughter Kim (15) and their son Sam (6 months). She's been helping raise Kim since she was 9, as her biological mother isn't in her life. But things took a turn for the worse when a simple request for help with chores led to a heated argument and a shocking revelation from Kim. 💔

First-time Poster, Long-time Reader 📖

marchrose1 | marchrose1

The Blended Family 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

marchrose1 | marchrose1

Raising Kim Since She Was 9 👧

marchrose1 | marchrose1

Chore Request Sparks Conflict 🏠

marchrose1 | marchrose1

The Harsh Truth Comes Out 😢

marchrose1 | marchrose1

Husband Takes Stepdaughter's Side 😠

marchrose1 | marchrose1

The Sit-down 🛋️

marchrose1 | marchrose1

John's Stance on Housework 🧹

marchrose1 | marchrose1

Heartbroken Stepmom 💔

marchrose1 | marchrose1

A Painful Realization 😞

marchrose1 | marchrose1

Setting Boundaries 🚧

marchrose1 | marchrose1

Dividing the Parenting Duties 👩‍👧‍👦

marchrose1 | marchrose1

The New Arrangement 🔄

marchrose1 | marchrose1

Limited Help 🍽️

marchrose1 | marchrose1

Family Struggles with Change 😓

marchrose1 | marchrose1

Best Friend's Opinion 👭

marchrose1 | marchrose1

Seeking Unbiased Opinions 🧐

Feeling torn and guilty, our protagonist seeks an unbiased opinion on whether she's in the wrong for withdrawing her support from Kim. She's been true to her word, limiting her help to cooking and laundry, but both her husband and stepdaughter are struggling to adjust. Her best friend says she's not in the wrong, as this is exactly what they asked for. Could an apology be the key to mending this fractured family? Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 🤔

NTA stepmom faces husband problem and needs counseling. 😱

ParsimoniousSalad | ParsimoniousSalad

Teaching responsibility or being cruel? 🤔

reo12312 | reo12312

Petty revenge or justified boundary? 🤔

WhichChest4981 | WhichChest4981

Husband accused of being the worst for not helping with chores 😤

Pandas-Brat | Pandas-Brat

Stepmom receives support for stopping laundry for 15-year-old stepdaughter. 👏

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Commenter feels used by stepdaughter and husband, worries for future 😔

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Commenter suggests family therapy for stepfamily, expresses concern over unequal household responsibilities. 👍

Maine04330 | Maine04330

Teaching responsibility or being too harsh? 🤔

teresajs | teresajs

Chores and homework at 16? NTA, it's not too much 🤔


Stepparent struggles with disrespectful stepdaughter and unsupportive husband. 🤷‍♀️

LibraWoman1 | LibraWoman1

Stepmom shares household chores with husband, NTA for stopping help.

xelithemmaline | xelithemmaline

Stepmom stops helping stepdaughter with laundry. NTA strikes back 😎

25thQueenoftheCats | 25thQueenoftheCats

Stepmom sets boundaries with entitled stepdaughter, suggests therapy. 🙌

TwoCentsPsychologist | TwoCentsPsychologist

Teaching responsibility early on. 🧺👩‍🍳

telepathicathena | telepathicathena

OP is NTA for stopping help; stepdaughter and husband asked for it 😊

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Encouraging NTA comment on stepmom's decision to stop helping stepdaughter.

alesunbi | alesunbi

Stepmom sets boundaries with stepdaughter, commenters agree 👍

Individual_Crab8836 | Individual_Crab8836

Stepmom stands up for herself as a parental figure. 👏

Romantic_AroAce | Romantic_AroAce

Stepmom receives support for setting boundaries with stepdaughter. 🙌

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Stepmom prioritizes self-care after being rejected by stepdaughter and husband 😔💔

LetThemEatHay | LetThemEatHay

Stepmom receives support for not doing stepdaughter's laundry. 👍

Knittingfairy09113 | Knittingfairy09113

Stepmom suggests husband do more chores for stepdaughter 👍

Double_Reindeer_6884 | Double_Reindeer_6884

Stepmom stops helping stepdaughter. Commenter says NTA and explains why. 👍

Worth_Raspberry_11 | Worth_Raspberry_11

Stop doing everything for them. Rethink your relationship. 💪

Vivid_Key7949 | Vivid_Key7949

Stepmom and stepdaughter conflict; husband the real a**hole 😠

abuster86 | abuster86

Stepmom's justified choice handled poorly. Therapy recommended for family dynamics. 👨🏻‍👩🏻🙏


NTA stands firm, updates to come 👏

MissContrariwise | MissContrariwise

Stepmom receives NTA judgement, John's reaction is criticized 🙅

nbrown1119 | nbrown1119

Stepmom stops helping stepdaughter and is justified. 👍

nathashanails | nathashanails

Stepmom's reaction to stepdaughter's behavior causes family tension. ESH 😕

Nordenfeldt | Nordenfeldt

Boundaries set with a hint of tough love 👍

benslady | benslady

Stepmom draws a line in supporting stepdaughter. NTA 👏

real_witty_username | real_witty_username

NTA. Valid concerns about husband's bias. Therapy needed for resolution. 👏

ProfCatWhisperer | ProfCatWhisperer

Stepmom stops helping stepdaughter with laundry. NTA or cruel? 🤔

nral23 | nral23

Stepmom teaches responsibility, husband condones stepdaughter's outbursts. NTA 👏

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Encouraging response suggests counseling to maintain family relationships. 👍

jamrae23 | jamrae23

Red flags in the husband's behavior. More issues at play.

mspixieriot | mspixieriot

Stepmom takes drastic action against pos's. 💰👩‍⚖️

TheLostMasterpiece | TheLostMasterpiece

Stepmom not a servant, expects love and respect from family ❤️

nomoreroger | nomoreroger

Commenter sympathizes with OP's situation and suggests counseling. 🙏

NickiCodeRed | NickiCodeRed

Husband needs to step up and parent his acting-out teen 💪

caterpillarsnever | caterpillarsnever

Stepmom stands up to entitled stepdaughter, NTA 👏

kimbeth66 | kimbeth66

Respecting boundaries is key 👍

Lani_567 | Lani_567

Stepmom disengages from stepdaughter. NTA. Reasonable requests ignored. 👍

apology_for_idlers | apology_for_idlers

Passionate comment about stepmom's responsibility, with some profanity 😱

moonshinetemp093 | moonshinetemp093

ESH but family therapy is crucial to heal the situation 👥👨👩👦

wifelost | wifelost

Empower your stepdaughter and stand up to your husband. 💪

MaryAnne0601 | MaryAnne0601

Stepmom receives NTA but needs to resolve conflict with husband and stepdaughter 👏

balitoridae | balitoridae

Offering support and understanding to a struggling stepfamily 👍

stringrandom | stringrandom

Teaching responsibility or harsh parenting? 🤔

Kindly_Caregiver_212 | Kindly_Caregiver_212

Stepmom not at fault, husband should have backed her up. 👍

readbackcorrect | readbackcorrect

Stepmom stops doing stepdaughter's laundry. Fair or harsh? 🤔

mommak2011 | mommak2011

Shakespearean NTA comment shuts down entitlement with humor 😂

Billiam201 | Billiam201

Opportunity lost? Stepdaughter's relationship with stepmom ruined. 😞

laura-pt | laura-pt

Stop doing their laundry and make them fend for themselves 😏

rst012345 | rst012345

Stepmom sets boundaries, husband is AH 👎

bookshelfie | bookshelfie

Stepmom deserves appreciation for her effort and husband's support lacking 💯

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Stepmom's stepdaughter's abandonment issues may be causing her behavior. 😔

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Stepmom stands her ground, demands apology from husband and daughter. 💪

Kaiser93 | Kaiser93

Commenter points out typo in name, gets clarification 🤔

Rock_grl86 | Rock_grl86

Stepmom's retaliation towards stepdaughter is building resentment and division. ESH 😑

No-Primary-9011 | No-Primary-9011

Clear-cut NTA comment shuts down discussion 👍

GayGunGuy | GayGunGuy

Stepmom stops doing stepdaughter's laundry, commenters agree NTA 👍

michelle504 | michelle504

Stepmom rightfully seeks therapy for husband and stepdaughter. 👏

Coco_Dirichlet | Coco_Dirichlet

Commenter suggests separating households for fair division of labor. 👍

Leesidge | Leesidge

Stepmom and stepdaughter clash over chores and attention. ESH.

Mynoseisgrowingold | Mynoseisgrowingold

Commenter seeks more information before making a judgement. 🤔

CissiE_33 | CissiE_33

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