Man Devastated After Being Told He's 'Not a Parent' 😢

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Imagine being there for your late best friend's family, providing emotional and financial support for over a decade, only to be told you're 'not a parent.' That's the heartbreaking situation one man found himself in after his friend's wife, A, delivered the crushing blow. Despite being involved in the lives of A's children since their birth, the man was excluded from a school event and left feeling unappreciated. Read on to learn more about this emotional story and how it unfolded. 😢

The Tragic Beginning 🕯️

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Stepping Up to Help 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

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Becoming the Support System 💪

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From Diapers to Preschool 🍼

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The Promotion and Travel ✈️

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Continued Support Despite Distance 🌍

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A New Partner Enters the Scene 💑

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The School Event 🏫

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The Painful Rejection 💔

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The Heartbreaking Statement 😢

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The Fight and Fallout 🥊

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The Emotional Impact 😔

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Feeling Unappreciated and Heartbroken 💔

After over a decade of being there for his late best friend's family, this man was devastated when A told him he wasn't a parent. Despite providing emotional, practical, and financial support, he was excluded from a school event and left feeling unimportant in their lives. As he tries to make sense of the situation, the pain and heartbreak are evident. Let's see what the internet thinks of this emotional rollercoaster... 😢

NTA comment receives supportive replies, offers advice for resolution. 👍

VagabondBackbone | VagabondBackbone

NTA comment defends OP's role as a parent, suggests stepping aside.

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Commenter receives heartwarming support after being told 'not a parent' 😭

Capital-Guard | Capital-Guard

Petty but relatable NTA comment sparks supportive replies 😂

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Heartbreaking situation. NTA but OP invested too much without rights 😢

imadinosaurlawlz | imadinosaurlawlz

Mother's bad timing and delivery caused miscommunication, not AH behavior.

evasmum | evasmum

NTA, but a difficult situation. Have a calm conversation with her 👍

Arobee | Arobee

Advice for OP on adjusting to new boundaries with family.

ftjlster | ftjlster

Commenter argues OP is TA for not anticipating inevitable boundary.

grimbaldi | grimbaldi

Man excluded from event after being told he's 'not a parent' 😢

blizzardswirl | blizzardswirl

YTA for making a 'joke' and not hearing her boundaries 🙄

DoctorNovakaine | DoctorNovakaine

Heartbreaking comment and replies to cruel statement. 😢

Clarity4me | Clarity4me

Uncle's heartbreak: Being told he's not a parent 😢

Lozzif | Lozzif

Generous benefactor struggles with diminishing role in family dynamics 😢

TowelsRintheDryer | TowelsRintheDryer

Man not recognized as parent despite doing parental duties 🤔

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Woman asserts her role as parent after OP's overreaction 😢

darthbane83 | darthbane83

Man's fatherly love for kids causes emotional turmoil. 😢

theforceisfemale | theforceisfemale

NAH for helping raise the kids, but unrealistic to compete.

acmtsa | acmtsa

Unique situation, but spent personal time, not a parent. NAH.

Teykos | Teykos

A possible explanation for the hurtful comment. 🤔

whocameupwiththis | whocameupwiththis

Heartbreaking story of being used as a stepfather. NTA 😢

tasteslikepocky | tasteslikepocky

Advice for navigating changing family dynamics with potential stepdad 👨🏻‍👦👦👦

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Uncle's love shouldn't be underestimated. NTA for setting boundaries. 🙌

smartliner | smartliner

NTA for feeling hurt, but communication could have been better 👍

Wrecking-Bull | Wrecking-Bull

Being a parent is more than biology 👨🏻‍💻

EggsAndMilquetoast | EggsAndMilquetoast

NTA. Commenter acknowledges hurtful truth but defends OP's role as parent.

fastidiousavocado | fastidiousavocado

Being a godparent is just as important as being a parent 💜

PuzzleheadedUnit1 | PuzzleheadedUnit1

NTA who grew a bond with children devastated by exclusion 😢

saymoreme | saymoreme

Man takes on role of parent for deceased friend's children. Receives ungrateful comment from mother. Replies discuss his relationship with the children and the impact if he were to stop supporting them. 👨🏻👦🏻

CinderDroplet | CinderDroplet

Supportive comment, acknowledges hurtful behavior of other parent. 👍

taylorgone | taylorgone

Supportive comment suggests setting up college trusts for the kids 📚

Kittytigris | Kittytigris

Commenter suggests OP may have inserted themselves into situation. 🤔

Lallipoplady | Lallipoplady

Establishing boundaries and moving into an uncle role. 👍

I_want_nomnoms | I_want_nomnoms

Man not biologically a parent, but definitely parented them. NTA.

ChrisPBacon420Blaze | ChrisPBacon420Blaze

NAH, but OP is understandably upset. Communication is key 📢

hamillhair | hamillhair

NTA, but situation is complicated. Financial support for kids continues.

nixon469 | nixon469

Civil conversation leads to resolution in parenting dispute 👍

kristallnachte | kristallnachte

Commenter sympathizes with NTA and condemns insensitivity 😢

CoastalCerulean | CoastalCerulean

NTA for stepping up as a parent. She's TA for lack of communication.

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Ouch! The truth hurts, but maybe it's time to move on.

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Misunderstanding leads to hurtful comment, but NAH in the end 🙏

Brainsonastick | Brainsonastick

ESH commenter advises OP to respect boundaries and reevaluate involvement.

unwritten_otter | unwritten_otter

Heartbreaking situation where 'playing daddy' isn't enough 😢

Superbikethrowaway | Superbikethrowaway

NTA. Legal agreement and custody arrangement should be discussed calmly. 👍

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Being a family member is more important than being a parent 🙌

ChinaLea | ChinaLea

New guy uncomfortable with arrangement? NTA seeks advice 🤔

comettheconquerer | comettheconquerer

NTA! Unofficially parenting kids is just as important as legally parenting.

Mando_The_Moronic | Mando_The_Moronic

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