Imagine growing up with an older brother who despised you from the moment you were born. For one woman, this was her reality. Her brother, Lance, made her life a living hell, and their parents struggled to put an end to his abusive behavior. After years of torment, the sister finally found peace when Lance moved out. But when tragedy struck and he lost his life, she faced a difficult decision: should she attend her abuser's funeral? 🤔💔

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Despite the backlash from her family, this brave woman stood her ground and refused to attend her abusive brother's funeral. Her parents eventually came around, apologized, and made amends. Now, she's finally getting the chance to meet her nephews. 💕👩👦👦 But, the question remains: Did she make the right choice by skipping the funeral? Let's see what people have to say about this heart-wrenching situation... 💬
Skipping abusive brother's funeral - NTA, but strained family relationships 💔

everythingyellow22 | everythingyellow22
Skipping abuser's funeral, OP is NTA but parents are.

Stabmesomemore | Stabmesomemore
NTA for skipping abusive brother's funeral, family ignored abuse. 👍

whynousernamelef | whynousernamelef
NTA for not attending abusive brother's funeral. 👏

Alert-Potato | Alert-Potato
Skipping the funeral of an abusive brother - NTA 👏

SmoochNo | SmoochNo
Commenter finds closure at abusive cousin's funeral 😭

fantasticfugicude | fantasticfugicude
Family cuts out abused sister for not attending abusive brother's funeral 😔

BushElk | BushElk
Skipping an abuser's funeral is okay. NTA 👍

TheArkangelWinter | TheArkangelWinter
NTA. Funerals should be for those who actually loved the deceased 💔

Aromatic-Ice-968 | Aromatic-Ice-968
Commenter judges abuser and enablers, uses NTA and AHs 👍

flowersandpeas | flowersandpeas
Skipping abusive brother's funeral: NTA, but consider parents' feelings 🙏

DeadInnlife | DeadInnlife
NTA commenter refuses to attend abusive brother's funeral. 😱

candysncr | candysncr
NTA. Commenter highlights parents' role in creating abusive brother. 👏

compassionfever | compassionfever
Commenter supports OP's decision to skip abusive brother's funeral. 💪

Kore888 | Kore888
NTA. OP stands up to abusive brother and parents, prioritizes mental health 👏

Trania86 | Trania86
Respecting the deceased's wishes 🙏

Critical_Aspect | Critical_Aspect
Skipping abusive brother's funeral: NTA, no need to pretend. 👍

upthecreekwthnocanoe | upthecreekwthnocanoe
Support for skipping abusive brother's funeral. NTA 👏

try1988 | try1988
NTA commenter criticizes parents for cutting contact with second child.

Jollydancer | Jollydancer
Victim receives support for skipping abuser's funeral. 👏

MsSonderbar | MsSonderbar
Skipping brother's funeral after years of abuse - NTA explained 👍

UnnecessaryReactions | UnnecessaryReactions
Curious about the effectiveness of intervention in abusive behavior 🤔

combatwombat1192 | combatwombat1192
Debate over attending abusive brother's funeral sparks conflict 🤷🏼♀️

AlwaysPlaysAHealer | AlwaysPlaysAHealer
Setting boundaries after abusive brother's death. NTA 👍

FirebirdWriter | FirebirdWriter
Redditor's wise words: 'A dead AH is still an AH' 🙌

Humanbeingplschill | Humanbeingplschill
Survivor refuses to attend abuser's funeral, not the a**hole. 👍

AlreadyAway | AlreadyAway
Toxic parents threatening to disown their abused child? NC ASAP! 😱

Difficult-Field3054 | Difficult-Field3054
Parents downplayed abuse as sibling rivalry. Not the a**hole (NTA).

Bloubloum | Bloubloum
Sibling reconciles with parents after skipping abusive brother's funeral 🙏

Fetivers | Fetivers
Victim-blaming? Not cool. This commenter gets it 👏

AlaskaNebreska | AlaskaNebreska
Survivor stands up to abusive brother, internet approves 👏

soullessginger93 | soullessginger93
NTA. Your parents chose your abusive brother over you. 👍

The-Moocat | The-Moocat
NTA: The brother's final act of bullying was to stand up for yourself. Remember this moment when your parents come crawling back 👍

nopedontcareatall | nopedontcareatall
Standing up to abuse takes strength, not pride. NTA.

tompba | tompba
Growing up in tornado territory can be terrifying. NTA OP 🙏

MaineGirl_1923 | MaineGirl_1923
Funerals are for the living, and in this case, it's necessary. #NTA

Sparky9367 | Sparky9367
Commenter agrees with NTA verdict, CPS should have intervened 👍

Daymutez | Daymutez
Family loyalty shouldn't excuse abuse. NTA 👍

Fun-Calligrapher980 | Fun-Calligrapher980
Victim of sibling abuse finds support in comment section 👏

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Resentment lingers even after death 💔

zoomzoom42 | zoomzoom42
Funerals are for the living. NTA for not attending.

A_Brit_Abroad | A_Brit_Abroad
Heartbreaking NTA comment on losing a sibling to abuse.

Hutchoman87 | Hutchoman87
Skipping the funeral was justified. NTA. But funerals aren't places to speak ill of the dead. 🙏

cat_is_cat | cat_is_cat
Skipping abusive brother's funeral, NTA. Parents chose abuser over you 💔

ReadTheRainbow42 | ReadTheRainbow42
Don't be pressured to be the 'bigger person' forever 👍

Secure-Illustrator73 | Secure-Illustrator73
Sister refuses to attend abusive brother's funeral 😱💔

meoemeowmeowmeow | meoemeowmeowmeow
Skipping the funeral was the right decision. NTA 👍

AJs3rdAlt | AJs3rdAlt
Skipping abusive brother's funeral, NTA. Family needs counselling. 🙏

BarbarianSpoonie | BarbarianSpoonie
No regrets: commenter supports sister's decision not to attend funeral 👍

sbargos | sbargos
Victim and supporters wear red to abusive relative's funeral 👍

GrandmasBigEyes | GrandmasBigEyes
Brother locked sister out during tornado warning, NTA for skipping funeral 🌧

loneOstrich | loneOstrich
Debate on whether sister should have attended abusive brother's funeral 🤔

deadlyhausfrau | deadlyhausfrau
Parents should prioritize mental health, not just their own grief. 👏

StitchandReuben | StitchandReuben
Standing your ground and prioritizing your own healing 👏

PeachBlossom1234 | PeachBlossom1234
Skipping abusive brother's funeral: NTA and absolutely correct 👍

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Standing up to abuse, even from family, is important. #NTA 👏

Neither_March4000 | Neither_March4000
NTA, abusive brother put on pedestal, parents abandoned only remaining child 😔

TofuDumplingScissors | TofuDumplingScissors
Sibling abuse and neglect, justified no-show at funeral. NTA 👏

Hooligans_Momma | Hooligans_Momma
Internet stranger says karma is a b***h to abusive brother. NTA 👍

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