Imagine having to make a life-changing decision that could affect your family and your sister with Down syndrome. One woman (36f) is facing this heart-wrenching dilemma as her mother's health declines. With a husband, three small children, and a brother who has gone through a recent transition, she's questioning if she can provide the necessary care for her sister, Ann (24f). Let's dive into this emotionally charged story. 😢

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This woman is caught in an emotional whirlwind, trying to decide what's best for her sister with Down syndrome, Ann. With her mother's health declining and her brother refusing to take responsibility, she's left to make a difficult choice. Can she balance her own family's needs and still provide the care Ann requires? The inheritance could provide for Ann's care home, but at what cost to their relationship? Let's see how the internet is reacting to this heartrending situation... 💬
Caring for a disabled adult is a huge undertaking. NTA for wanting independent lives. Look for a good care facility.

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Siblings discuss inheritance and long-term care for sister with empathy.

Adept-One-819 | Adept-One-819
Care homes can provide more social interaction and diverse activities. 🏠

WeirdCrazyCatLady | WeirdCrazyCatLady
Group homes may be better for sister's care, NTA.

martinigirl2004 | martinigirl2004
Don't feel guilty, NTA! Your sister's care is not your responsibility. 🙏

MooseyMoo1973 | MooseyMoo1973
NTA commenter offers helpful advice for sister's care and inheritance.

SnooGuavas4531 | SnooGuavas4531
A care home could provide Ann with independence and stimulation 🙌

ParanormalSpiderlily | ParanormalSpiderlily
Putting family first: a tough decision for a loving sister ❤️

Radiant-One5411 | Radiant-One5411
Helpful advice for transitioning Ann to a group home 🙏

Bananamorous | Bananamorous
Researching care homes for sister, supportive of brother. 💜

subversivesocialite | subversivesocialite
Friendly reminder to be mindful of trans individuals and community 🙏

bobsie-boo | bobsie-boo
Proactive planning is key. Don't wait for a crisis. 🙌

Kythsharra | Kythsharra
Sibling caregiving boundaries: NTA for not becoming sister's guardian 🙏

wickedlucky214 | wickedlucky214
Caring for Ann is tough, but NTA for seeking help 🙏

Nononsense_BATMAN | Nononsense_BATMAN
Letting professionals care for your sister with special needs. 🙌

aQ1tmxMP | aQ1tmxMP
Inheritance aside, NTA for choosing care home over chaos. 🙏

hivemind_MVGC | hivemind_MVGC
Encouraging comment reminds OP to prioritize their own well-being ❤️

toomuchreddittoday | toomuchreddittoday
Suggests managing inheritance for care home fund and visits. 🙏

justatemp82 | justatemp82
Choosing a care home for a loved one is tough 😢

huuueeeeee | huuueeeeee
Finding a care home for a sibling with Down Syndrome 🙏

lunar_lena | lunar_lena
Caring for a delusional parent is tough. Professional care is best. 😢

ketchikan78 | ketchikan78
Choosing a care home for a loved one is tough 😢

14793759308 | 14793759308
Don't feel guilty, it's not your problem 🙏

BenjaminaPugsington | BenjaminaPugsington
Prioritizing family safety is key. NTA made the right choice.

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Don't assume older siblings will take care of disabled siblings. Look into group homes and transition places. Live your life 👌

jenn5388 | jenn5388
Choosing a care home for a loved one with disabilities 💔

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Choosing a care home over family care: a difficult decision 😔

Book_devourer | Book_devourer
A care home is the best solution. Find one nearby. 💕

Laramila | Laramila
Choosing care home or chaos? NTA makes tough decision.

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Group homes can provide better care and independence for adults.

undeadgorgeous | undeadgorgeous
Plan for Ann's future care before it's too late. 😢

butlermommy | butlermommy
Sister receives support after making tough decision. 🙏

kappalandikat | kappalandikat
Sending Ann to a care home could be the best option 🙏

MikkiTh | MikkiTh
A care facility might improve your relationship with your sister 😊

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Exploring prenatal testing for Down syndrome with helpful replies 👍

Daveywheel | Daveywheel
Caring for a sister with Down's syndrome is a heavy burden. NTA.

No_Proposal7628 | No_Proposal7628
Consider a group home for your sister's care. 🏠💕

SeriousMonkey2019 | SeriousMonkey2019
A supportive living group home could help your sister thrive 🙌

theory_until | theory_until
Choosing between care home and chaos for sister. NTA.

spindacinda | spindacinda
Family's unrealistic expectations cause heartbreaking dilemma. NTA.

Shieldor | Shieldor
Choosing to be a caregiver is tough. Legal guardianship is enough.

Auslan02 | Auslan02
A former caregiver shares the benefits of group homes for disabled adults ❤️

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Sibling struggles with manipulative mom over sister's care. NTA.

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Sibling caretaking is not a child's responsibility. NTA.

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Sibling boundaries blurred: NTA comment on caregiving dilemma. 🙏

StarvinPig | StarvinPig
Start looking for care homes now to be picky later. NTA.

Griffinej5 | Griffinej5
Sibling struggles with caring for sister, mother plays favorites. NTA 😢

FieldofCrows | FieldofCrows
Standing up to guilt-tripping and prioritizing self-care 👏

fargoLEVY13 | fargoLEVY13
Choosing a care home for a loved one can be tough 😢

neverjuliet | neverjuliet
Moving a loved one to a care home can be tough. 😢

thembees | thembees
Choosing a care home for a loved one is tough 😢

pvssyliqvor | pvssyliqvor
Family doesn't always come first. NTA comment sets the tone.

snarky-sparky | snarky-sparky
Commenter refuses to take in relative with Down syndrome. Heartless.

loafmilk | loafmilk
NTA commenter advocates for care home for Ann 🙏

ImQuiteRandy | ImQuiteRandy
Agreeing to a care home is best for everyone involved. 🙌

catzrob89 | catzrob89
Compassionate NTA offers support to sister facing difficult decision 😢

elationonceagain | elationonceagain
Caring for Ann at home with three children is dangerous. NTA

InkyPaws | InkyPaws
Sibling guilt shouldn't dictate your life. Take care of yourself 🙏

the_siren_song | the_siren_song
Commenter defends sister with Down syndrome, advises OP not to take responsibility. 😔

Necessary-Suspect-31 | Necessary-Suspect-31
Care homes have improved, may benefit sister. Consider researching programs.

Medical_Island2154 | Medical_Island2154
Consider setting up a trust for your sister's needs 💎

Kellyjb72 | Kellyjb72
Caring for a disabled sibling is a huge responsibility 😢

ladylittleknight | ladylittleknight
Raising concerns about an adult with DS and kids? NTA.

tinnertammy | tinnertammy
Consider professional care nearby for Mom, build relationship with sister. 🙏

RadFraggle | RadFraggle
Redditor with a disability suggests care home for sister's independence

Empathwheelchair94 | Empathwheelchair94
NTA for choosing brother's care home over mom's favoritism. 🤔

Gri69in | Gri69in
Choosing a care home for a loved one: NTA's dilemma 😢

madiigator | madiigator
Choosing a care home requires caution to avoid abuse or neglect 🚨

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