A mother is at her wit’s end with her ex-husband and their three children. After a bitter divorce, they agreed on a 50/50 custody arrangement, but things haven’t been going smoothly. The mom’s 16-year-old daughter has been spending more and more time at her dad’s house, and now her two sons are following suit. After her daughter declared she no longer wanted to stay with her at all, the mom put her foot down and demanded they follow the court-ordered schedule. But is she being too harsh? ♀️
The Mother’s Struggle

A Rocky Relationship

Custody Complications

Daughter’s Defiance

Emotional Issues

Ex’s Unhelpful Attitude

Sons Follow Suit

Mom’s Breaking Point

Demanding an Explanation

Mom’s Stand

No More Disrespect

Daughter’s Meltdown

Family Fallout

Cold Treatment

Sister’s Judgement

A Mother’s Desperate Plea
This mom has been bending over backwards to accommodate her daughter’s emotional needs, but she’s reached her breaking point. She’s tired of being disrespected and just wants her daughter to appreciate her and talk about why she wants to live with her ex. As her family turns against her, she’s left questioning if she’s truly being a bad mother. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this heart-wrenching situation…
Entitled parent refuses to accept daughter’s choice, becomes TA.

User calls out OP for being controlling and selfish.

Why does the daughter want to live with her dad?

Demanding compliance from a 16-year-old is ridiculous. YTA.

Commenter questions mother’s approach to custody with emotive language.

Pushing for court agreement may backfire. YTA

Commenter calls out OP for being controlling and withholding information.
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Commenter suggests family therapy to OP and warns against talking negatively about ex

Listen to your daughter’s wishes, don’t hold her against her will

Mother criticized for treating daughter like a pet

Curious Redditor asks for more info on situation

Commenter calls out OP for leaving out important details
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Parenting or hostage-taking? Letting go is hard, but necessary.

Commenter suggests OP work things out with kids, YTA for now

Commenter calls out controlling behavior of mother in custody battle

OP is trying to force a cat to be held (stay at OP’s home more often) and the cat doesn’t want to be held.

Commenter calls out parent for not considering child’s interests
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Parental control or revenge? A divisive comment on custody battles.

Commenter advises mother to reflect on her behavior and not force daughter to stay. YTA

Commenter thinks mom is TA and warns of future consequences.

Commenter calls out OP for being the a**hole in custody battle

Commenter warns against causing more harm in custody battle

Engage in a mature conversation with your ex-partner before judging

Parenting dilemma: enforcing court order vs losing daughter ♀️

Commenter accuses parent of pushing kids away with court order

Forcing your daughter won’t end well . Express your love and support instead

Commenter accuses mother of being a selfish narcissist

Parental overreaction causing daughter to rebel. YTA ♀️

Commenter calls out parent for lack of concern, recommends therapy.

Co-parenting advice: Importance of having two parents involved
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Daughter rebels against court order, YTA for forcing relationship.

Commenter warns against forcing daughter to follow schedule, predicts backlash.

Commenter warns about negative consequences of forcing court-ordered schedule

Daughter’s autonomy disregarded, ex’s neutrality questioned, and communication lacking.

Commenter accuses parent of using court order to alienate child

Commenter calls out parent’s misguided attempt to bond with child.

Respect your daughter’s wishes or risk losing her forever
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Commenter seeks context to judge if OP is YTA or not.

Parenting a teenager can be tough . Is demanding obedience the right approach?

Commenter calls out bad parenting and family drama

A comment warns a mother to not force her 16yo daughter to spend time with her, or risk losing her forever. The comment suggests there might be more to the story.

User calls out OP for being TA, sparks family argument

Commenter calls out parent’s behavior as potentially abusive.
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Commenter calls out OP and suggests self-reflection.

Commenter suggests kids need lawyers for court-ordered schedule. Yikes.

Commenter shares personal experience, advises mother to respect daughter’s choice.

Daughter prefers ex’s house, mom needs to self-evaluate

Lawyer advises mom to back off and let daughter choose.

Commenter calls out parent for narcissism and bad parenting.

Commenter warns of potential consequences for forcing custody, suggests therapy.

Commenter believes mom is TA for enforcing court agreement.

Navigating court-ordered custody can be tricky, consider family counseling

Commenter advises parent to give child control over her life. YTA

A heartfelt advice from a parent who’s been there

Let your child explore the world and feel welcomed back
