Seven years ago, a woman’s husband tragically passed away. A few months later, a 15-year-old girl showed up at her door, revealing she was her late husband’s daughter from an affair. The woman reluctantly took her in, but made it clear she would not be a mother figure. Now, the girl wants to connect and be considered a daughter, but the woman is refusing. The internet is divided on this issue.
Unexpected Visitor

The Affair Child’s Background

No More Payments

Shocking Revelation

Offering Help, But No Love

Living Together

Resentment Lingers

Parting Ways

Seeking a Mother Figure

Refusing the Role ❌

No Love, Just Help

Standing Her Ground

Mixed Opinions

Divided Opinions: Who’s Right?
The woman helped her late husband’s affair child out of necessity, not love. Now, the girl wants to bond and be considered a daughter, but the woman refuses. With opinions divided among friends and family, it’s hard to say who’s right in this complex situation. Let’s see what people have to say about this emotional rollercoaster…
Stepping up for a lovechild is commendable , but bonding not necessary

NAH… OP not obligated to be mother, but could consider alternative roles

To take in or not to take in, the comments are divided

Debating whether OP’s comment was unnecessarily cruel to stepchild.
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Divided opinions on late husband’s secret child, but sympathy for her.

Red flags raised about the timeline of the story

Refusing to bond with a traumatized child is evil . Emotional abuse.

Commenter calls out OP for lack of compassion towards stepchild

Divided opinions on woman’s refusal to bond with late husband’s child

Don’t limit love. YTA for refusing to bond with stepchild.

Commenter thinks OP is the a**hole for not being a mother figure to her late husband’s secret child who stayed with her during adolescence.
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Woman refuses to bond with late husband’s child

Ignoring your late husband’s secret child is cruel. YTA

Commenter criticizes woman’s inability to show love to stepchild. YTA.

Commenter calls out family for being AH, suggests therapy.

Woman neglects husband’s secret child, called out for abuse. YTA

Empathizing with her, but no a-hole here

Love can’t be forced. Honesty is the best policy.

Failing to bond with late husband’s child – YTA receives backlash

Woman refuses to bond with late husband’s child. Commenter calls her out. YTA.

Heartbreaking situation. Can family members help bridge the gap?

Engage with the innocent child, YTA if you don’t.

Questioning the authenticity of the post and the girl’s age

Compassionate response encourages empathy and understanding

Compassion turned into a relationship. Can’t cut ties now
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Taking in a child and emotionally neglecting them? YTA

A love child shares their experience, highlighting the loneliness they feel.

Stepmom’s cruelty towards husband’s secret child is unjustifiable

Family refuses to take in late husband’s secret child ♀️

Heartbreaking situation for child left without parents and support

Woman receives criticism for being honest with late husband’s child

Accepting stepchild not mandatory, but situation is unfortunate

Woman criticized for refusing to bond with husband’s child

Survivor criticizes woman for refusing to bond with late husband’s child.

Don’t let hurt cloud your judgment, be compassionate

Commenter calls out neglectful behavior and suggests alternative solutions.

Navigating family secrets and grief. No blame, just empathy

Redditors call out commenter as the a-hole for disliking kids
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Commenter defends late husband’s secret child, but receives backlash.

Deceased husband’s secret child needs compassion. YTA needs empathy.

Woman refuses to bond with late husband’s secret child

Commenter calls out OP for mistreating late husband’s secret child

Stepmom faces backlash for refusing to bond with stepdaughter

Heartbreaking story of half-siblings being treated like s**t

Commenter calls out OP for being coercive towards a child

Setting boundaries with stepchild – NTA for saying no

Commenter sympathizes with late husband’s secret child, calls OP YTA

Heartless stepmother refuses to accept husband’s secret love child
