Friend Denied Spare Room: Heartless or Justified? 😱

Diply Social Team
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We all have friends who need a helping hand from time to time, but what happens when the timing isn't right? Meet 'Bill' and his childhood friend, who are now both 30. While our protagonist has built a successful life away from their hometown, Bill is struggling, stuck in a dead-end job and living with his parents. Years ago, the protagonist offered Bill a place to stay rent-free, but he declined. Now, with the possibility of a new home on the horizon, Bill wants in on that spare room. But is it too late? 😬

A Blast from the Past 🕰️

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Two Different Paths 🛣️

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The Inheritance 💰

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Bill's Struggles 😞

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The Offer 🏠

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The Unexpected Request 📞

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Caught Off Guard 😳

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The Final Decision 🚪

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Accusations Fly 🗣️

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Life Has Changed 🌪️

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Silence Speaks Volumes 🤐

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Feeling Guilty 😔

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The Big Question 🤔

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Heartbreaking Decision or Necessary Boundaries? 💔

Our protagonist is torn between helping a struggling friend and maintaining their own boundaries. They feel guilty for not offering the spare room, but life has changed since the initial offer years ago. With a girlfriend, a goddaughter, and a desire for privacy, is it fair to deny Bill the opportunity to turn his life around? Let's see what the internet thinks of this emotionally charged situation... 🍿

Friend relies on OP too much, but OP still cares. 😢

SSH16 | SSH16

Commenter urges OP to be a better human and help friend 🙏

brecollier | brecollier

Don't let Bill's immaturity become your problem. NTA 😊

JeepersCreepers74 | JeepersCreepers74

Old offer, expired kindness. NAH, but room denied.

SCKR | SCKR

Setting boundaries is important. NTA for enforcing them. 👍

moburkes | moburkes

Age and life changes can alter past agreements. NTA.

dsteere2303 | dsteere2303

NAH suggests finding alternative living arrangements for struggling friend.

PM_popcorn_toppings | PM_popcorn_toppings

Friend's entitled reaction justifies NTA's decision. 😒

zwergschnauzer | zwergschnauzer

Offered a couch, not an open-door policy. Reshaping life without charity.

thefrozenfoodsection | thefrozenfoodsection

Friend in need or toxic mooch? NTA stands firm. 😱

PuffyPinkCow1 | PuffyPinkCow1

Friendship tested: NAH for wanting space, but be an amazing friend.

tnharwal55 | tnharwal55

When offering a spare room, be prepared for long-term guests 😕

Squinky75 | Squinky75

Offering a spare room was a temporary solution. NAH.

thatonepersoniam | thatonepersoniam

Take action and respect boundaries. NTA in this scenario. 👍

ecmcgee1997 | ecmcgee1997

Don't owe anyone a place to stay. NTA reigns!

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Saying no is okay, and it's how someone handles it.

Mollzor | Mollzor

Keeping your spare room is reasonable 😊

girlgirlgir7 | girlgirlgir7

Living with a buddy while having an SO: NTA or AH? 🤔

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Can offering assistance be a better alternative to outright refusal? 🤔

PerkyLurkey | PerkyLurkey

Encouraging response to friend's denied spare room. 👍

SnooMemesjellies7547 | SnooMemesjellies7547

When a couch surfer expects a permanent room. 🤔

dcoleski | dcoleski

30-year-old still living with family, NTA for denying room. 😱

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Friend can't see past his own situation, NTA for declining. 🙏

Lady_Purrsia | Lady_Purrsia

Friend denied spare room, justified or heartless? NTA explains.

Half_Man1 | Half_Man1

Offer expired, NTA. 👍

ninjaguy7 | ninjaguy7

Friend wants a free ride, but NTA won't be his ticket! 🙌

Witchynana | Witchynana

Offered couch for months, friend still living with parents. NTA.

ashburd | ashburd

Growing apart: Friend's denial of spare room is justified 😍

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Old deal, no appeal. NTA for not giving spare room.

NoApollonia | NoApollonia

Changing circumstances justify denying spare room. #NotTheA**hole

d1scworld | d1scworld

No spare room, no problem. NTA for setting boundaries. 👍

HermineLovesMilo | HermineLovesMilo

Offering a helping hand to a struggling friend 🙏

mcgar1 | mcgar1

NTA. Friend declined spare room offer years ago. Moved on.

calyxium | calyxium

Don't let him stay unless you want a long-term guest 🤷

CJsopinion | CJsopinion

Setting boundaries and standing up for yourself. 💪

mythicalkitten | mythicalkitten

NTA. Friend declined offers to improve his situation. Keep spare room.

boudicadabitch | boudicadabitch

Having a girlfriend changes everything, NTA. Life lesson learned 👍

InYourBabyLife | InYourBabyLife

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