Friend Denied Spare Room: Heartless or Justified?

We all have friends who need a helping hand from time to time, but what happens when the timing isn’t right? Meet ‘Bill’ and his childhood friend, who are now both 30. While our protagonist has built a successful life away from their hometown, Bill is struggling, stuck in a dead-end job and living with his parents. Years ago, the protagonist offered Bill a place to stay rent-free, but he declined. Now, with the possibility of a new home on the horizon, Bill wants in on that spare room. But is it too late?

A Blast from the Past ️

Two Different Paths ️

The Inheritance

Bill’s Struggles

The Offer

The Unexpected Request

Caught Off Guard

The Final Decision

Accusations Fly ️

Life Has Changed ️

Silence Speaks Volumes

Feeling Guilty

The Big Question

Heartbreaking Decision or Necessary Boundaries?

Our protagonist is torn between helping a struggling friend and maintaining their own boundaries. They feel guilty for not offering the spare room, but life has changed since the initial offer years ago. With a girlfriend, a goddaughter, and a desire for privacy, is it fair to deny Bill the opportunity to turn his life around? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this emotionally charged situation…

Friend relies on OP too much, but OP still cares.

Commenter urges OP to be a better human and help friend

Don’t let Bill’s immaturity become your problem. NTA

Old offer, expired kindness. NAH, but room denied.

Setting boundaries is important. NTA for enforcing them.

Age and life changes can alter past agreements. NTA.

NAH suggests finding alternative living arrangements for struggling friend.

Friend’s entitled reaction justifies NTA’s decision.

Offered a couch, not an open-door policy. Reshaping life without charity.

Friend in need or toxic mooch? NTA stands firm.

Friendship tested: NAH for wanting space, but be an amazing friend.

When offering a spare room, be prepared for long-term guests

Offering a spare room was a temporary solution. NAH.

Take action and respect boundaries. NTA in this scenario.

Don’t owe anyone a place to stay. NTA reigns!

Saying no is okay, and it’s how someone handles it.

Keeping your spare room is reasonable

Living with a buddy while having an SO: NTA or AH?

Can offering assistance be a better alternative to outright refusal?

Encouraging response to friend’s denied spare room.

When a couch surfer expects a permanent room.

30-year-old still living with family, NTA for denying room.

Friend can’t see past his own situation, NTA for declining.

Friend denied spare room, justified or heartless? NTA explains.

Offer expired, NTA.

Friend wants a free ride, but NTA won’t be his ticket!

Offered couch for months, friend still living with parents. NTA.

Growing apart: Friend’s denial of spare room is justified

Old deal, no appeal. NTA for not giving spare room.

Changing circumstances justify denying spare room. #NotTheA**hole

No spare room, no problem. NTA for setting boundaries.

Offering a helping hand to a struggling friend

NTA. Friend declined spare room offer years ago. Moved on.

Don’t let him stay unless you want a long-term guest

Setting boundaries and standing up for yourself.

NTA. Friend declined offers to improve his situation. Keep spare room.

Having a girlfriend changes everything, NTA. Life lesson learned