Ex-wife returns with a secret child, but Dad loses it

Imagine having four kids with your spouse, only for them to vanish without a trace, leaving your children traumatized. Fast forward ten years, and they suddenly reappear, expecting to pick up where they left off. But wait, there’s more! They’ve brought along a secret child from another relationship. How would you react? One dad found himself in this exact situation, and let’s just say, things got heated.

The Vanishing Act

The Trauma

The Return

The Rules

The Surprise Visit

The Secret Child

The Confrontation

The Standoff

The Outburst

The Aftermath

The Disagreement

The Question ❓

The Edits

The Resolution

The Fallout: Was Dad in the Wrong?

After a tense confrontation with his ex-wife, our dad is left wondering if he was in the wrong for shouting in front of the young child. He and his husband have a heart-to-heart, acknowledging the stress and intensity of the situation. They decide to break the news to their kids, but not before seeking guidance from a therapist. As they prepare for the emotional rollercoaster ahead, they’re grateful for the support they’ve received. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Ex-wife breaks agreement, commenters debate yelling vs police intervention. NTA.

Ex-wife uses child as prop, Dad loses it, but NTA

Curious about husband’s extreme reaction to secret child reveal

Dad yells at ex-wife in front of child after secret child reveal. Commenters debate if it’s justified. ‍♂️

Commenter defends OP’s actions, deems husband’s reaction excessive. NTA

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s lose-lose situation in secret child drama

Protecting traumatized kids from entitled ex and her secret child

Setting boundaries with ex’s secret child. NTA

Polite but firm, ex-wife refused to respect boundaries. NTA.

Choosing the best of bad options. NTA

Ex-wife’s secret child causes chaos, commenters agree NTA.

Ex-wife’s selfishness affects children. NTA’s dilemma and options discussed.

Ex’s secret child causes marital conflict, commenter supports OP

Supportive comment offers hope for Dad in tough situation

Divorced dad stands up to ex-wife’s secret child bombshell

Compassionate response to Dad’s overreaction with a warning.

Ex-wife uses child as prop, OP yells, NTA in no-win situation

NTA defends not calling police, sparks debate on parenting etiquette.

Putting kids first pays off. Ex-wife’s lack of care exposed.

NTA stands up for herself and tells her husband to toughen up

Setting boundaries with an ex can be tough ‍♂️, but losing your temper isn’t the answer.

Commenter calls ex-wife ‘horrible person’ for secret child

Setting boundaries with ex-wife who used child as a pawn

NTA, but husband right about calling police. Escalation not ideal.

Defending against emotional manipulation, NTA handled it well

Heartbreaking comment about a parent’s abandonment

Defending against manipulative exes with secret children

Ex-wife blindsides abandoned kids, OP is NTA, new husband piles on.

Ex-wife crosses the line, but Dad stands his ground

NTA couple praised for handling ex’s secret child drama

Handling an unexpected visit from an ex can be anxiety-inducing

Navigating relationships can be overwhelming

Ex-wife’s secret child causes chaos and husband’s AH behavior

Handling an ex-wife’s secret child visit, advice for the dad

A decade of secrets and stress, but a stellar parent shines

Not the a**hole for what? We need more context!

NTA. Ex-wife’s surprise visit with secret child crosses the line

Mystery comment with no replies, what could it be about?

Setting boundaries with an ex can be tough, but necessary

Ex-wife breaks rules and only cares about herself. NTA.

You stood up for yourself and your family. NTA

Divorced dad yells at ex-wife for hiding secret child

Ex-wife uses child as shield, but Dad prioritizes child

Police trauma worse than yelling, commenter not at fault

Ex-wife uses secret child to manipulate, but Dad stands firm. NTA

Ex-wife tries to muscle her way back in. NTA stands firm

Seek legal and therapeutic advice to tell kids about half-sister.

Polite Dad enforces rules, ex-wife disregards child’s feelings

Ex-wife prioritized freedom over her children. NTA. She deserved it

Dad’s rules protect everyone, especially his kids. NTA

Commenter expresses anger towards ex-wife’s history of abandonment.

Ex-wife’s secret child causes chaos, but Dad is NTA

Co-parenting win! NTA handled ex’s secret child with grace

Kudos to this amazing father and partner! #NTA

Suggesting a paternity test

Calling the police would scar the child. NTA for setting boundaries.

Ex-wife violates agreement, disrespects family, and gets wake-up call

NTA commenter sympathizes with dad’s struggle with ex-wife’s demands.

Losing temper with ex-wife’s secret child: justified or not?

Clear judgement, but what led to this verdict?

Dad loses it after ex-wife’s secret child. Commenters side with him.

Setting boundaries with ex-wife’s secret child

NTA, but yelling in front of her daughter wasn’t ideal

Support for NTA’s level-headed handling of ex-wife’s return.

Relieved commenter misreads title, judges NTA (not the a**hole)

Commenter defends Dad’s reaction to ex-wife’s secret child situation.

Setting boundaries with an ex can be tough

Parents praised for supporting children’s mental health

Ex-wife uses secret child as leverage, but Dad not TA

NTA calls out husband’s strange reaction to ex-wife’s secret child.

Divorce can be messy, but OP handled it well

NTA praised for being an awesome dad despite ex-wife’s manipulation

Dad apologizes to child for yelling at ex-wife, NTA