Picture this: you’re pregnant with triplets, but you and your husband had only planned for one more child. You’re faced with a tough decision – do you selectively reduce the pregnancy, or do you go through with it and have three babies? This is the dilemma one mother is facing. She wants to reduce the number of babies, but her husband is excited about the idea of a large family. With childcare costs skyrocketing and the risks associated with multiple pregnancies, it’s no wonder this couple is at odds. Let’s dive into their story and see if they can find common ground.
Triplets on the Way

The Childcare Struggle

The Great Debate

Family Size Matters

The Working Parent

The Unequal Burden ⚖️

Health Risks

A Mother’s Choice

The Fear of Retaliation

A Heartbreaking Decision
This mother is faced with an impossible decision: selectively reduce her pregnancy or have three babies with potential health risks. Her husband’s excitement for a large family is understandable, but the burden of childcare and the physical toll of pregnancy falls on her. With the fear of retaliation from her husband and the potential loss of support from her religious parents, she’s stuck in a moral quagmire. Can they find a solution that works for both of them? Let’s see what people have to say about this heart-wrenching situation.
Pregnant woman seeks advice on reducing triplets, husband retaliates. NTA.


OP is considering lying to her husband about reducing the number of babies. Commenters urge honesty and therapy. YTA if you carry this lie.

Pregnant woman wants to reduce triplets, husband disagrees. Commenters suggest abortion and divorce. ESH

Debating on reducing triplets, but deceiving husband? YTA. ⚠️

IVF triplet shares lifelong disabilities, risks of not reducing pregnancies.


Opinions on reducing triplets split, but lying about it’s wrong

Honesty is key. YTA if you lie, NTA if you’re truthful.
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Pregnant with triplets, she wants to reduce but hubby disagrees

Reducing pregnancy for mental health reasons. Doctor can help convince husband.

Pregnancy, triplets, and a disagreement. NTA, but deception is.



NAH but disagreement over number of kids. Compromise or stand firm?


Pregnancy decisions should prioritize the mother’s health and well-being
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A heartbreaking situation with a partner who can’t be trusted

Controversial suggestion to abort all triplets; husband’s behavior alarming ♀️

Compromise is key. Talk to your husband openly and honestly.

Honesty is key in any relationship
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OP’s husband pressures her to have all three, but she wants selective abortion. Commenters advise her to reconsider the relationship.

Compromise on 2, not 4. It’s your body, your decision

Honesty is key in reducing triplets. Judgment depends on that.

Your body, your choice. Carrying triplets is risky. NTA

Stand your ground and be honest with your husband.

Father of twins empathizes with wife’s desire to reduce triplets.

Husband blackmails wife to keep triplets against her wishes
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Reduce to one for a happy and healthy life

Carrying triplets is risky, NTA for considering reduction

Couples counseling may help, but don’t lie about losing babies

Marriage counseling needed for couple with differing views on reduction

Lying about reducing triplets? YTA according to Reddit.

Reducing triplet pregnancy is a high-risk but safe option.

Putting your safety first – NTA comment section ✅

Seek professional advice for this delicate situation

Your womb, your choice. Don’t let your husband pressure you.

Potential reproductive abuse in relationship, NTA, get out.

Deceitful reduction plan? YTA. Don’t do it behind hubby’s back.

Honesty is the best policy, even in tough situations

Debate over reducing triplets: YTA for possible lie, NAH for disagreement.

Choosing to reduce triplets, but lying to husband is not okay

Pregnant with triplets, but wants to reduce to one. Husband disagrees

Honesty vs. fear of retribution in a marital disagreement.

Decisive NTA comment shuts down further discussion on sensitive topic

Should she go behind her husband’s back?

Pregnancy is already tough, triplets can be harder. NTA.

Is the husband being unfair? The wife deserves better
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Commenter calls out OP for lying, loses sympathy.

A fiery comment on pregnancy and decision-making

Seek counseling with your husband to agree on reducing triplets.
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Empowering response to a woman’s right to choose.

Avoid blackmail at all costs. NTA made the right choice.

Lying about losing two babies is a deceitful and a**hole move

Honesty is key. Lying to your partner is never okay
